DOCTOR SYAILA'S LOVE STORY
MARRIAGE 1
The atmosphere at dawn in Pondok Pesantren Al-Basyariyah is very crowded will then lalang santri who is decorating the cottage field for their favorite Gus wedding.
After the dawn prayer all the santri immediately move, the female santri decorate the central Musholla which was established most magnificently for the Friday prayer especially. While santri putra decorates the page also presents a sound system.
At seven all have been transformed into a beautiful painting with white with green.
Ali is ready with the style chosen by Syaila. He has been sitting at the pelaminan with his extended family and invited guests have also arrived.
Syaila is still in the princess dormitory, waiting for the new finished ijab she will come out to meet the husband.
It was started by Ustadz Albana.
"Assalamu'alaikum Warahmatullahi Westarokatuh. Ladies and gentlemen, brethren and ladies and gentlemen whom we glorify, thank you that we extend the presence of Allah Subhanahu vata'ala for the blessings of His mercy and compassion upon us all, so that we can be together on this occasion can attend and watch the wedding reception of Gus Sulaiman Ali Abdullah with Ning Syaila Humaira Az-zahra."
"Fathers, Mothers and ladies and gentlemen are happy. Next let us offer salawat and salamat to the visitation of the Prophet Muhammad SAW, who has brought mankind from the abyss of heresy to the straight path, the path that Allah Subhanahu wata'ala guided. A happy audience. Furthermore, we on behalf of the family of the bride and groom both give a lot of thanks for the care of the Fathers, Mothers and attendees to fulfill the invitation of the bride and groom both. May the good deeds of the Father, Mother and audience all receive the reward of Allah Subhanahu wata'ala, Aamiin. Let us all read the basmalah to begin this sacred event."
"Bismilahbornrahmanirrahim."
"Next let us follow with the solemn recitation of divine revelation, which Faisal's brother will bring to our brother."
Faisal read the Qur'an Surah An-Nisa, he read very solemnly' and made everyone stunned with his sweet voice.
Fifteen minutes later Faisal finished reciting the divine Revelation.
"Such is the reading of divine revelation completed. May it be useful for all of us, especially for the bride and groom. Ladies and gentlemen who we respect, then stepped on the peak of the event that is the Marriage Certificate, how is Mr. Penghulu ready?"
"It is Allah, Ready Ustadz Albana." replied Mr. Penghulu.
"All right, please."
"Gus shake my hand, Nggih." ordered Mr. Penghulu.
Legal Terms of Ijab Kabul
Although it can be done in various languages, there are 3 conditions that must be met by the memorization of ijab.
The pronunciation of "i marry" or "we marry" as stipulations. It can be used in other languages.
Name of husband and wife. Mention can also use pronouns or mention both names.
The condition in reciting the next ijab is to mention the dowry given.
After Ali shook Mr. Penghulu's hand, Mr. Penghulu also said a sentence of ijab that read, "I married and I married until ananda Sulaiman Ali Abdullah bin Ibrahim Abdullah with Syaila Humaira Az-zahra with a gold dowry of 15 grams, cash."
Ali replied loudly and firmly, "I accept his marriage and the marriage of Syaila Humaira Az-zahra bint Alm. Ashraf Muhammad with the dowry, cash."
"How are the witnesses, Sah?"
"Well!! Sahh!!"
"Alhamdulillah."
"Barakallahu laka wa jama’a bainakuma fi khairin."
"Alhamdulillah, I am lawful to you now, Mas. I think this fate is the most beautiful destiny for me, may we build the ark for life."
"Alright, Ning Maryam can directly pick up the sister-in-law" said Ustadz Albana.
"Why should I try!!!"
"Alright while waiting please Gus can sign the marriage book first."
"May the marriage of Sakinah mawadah and warahmah, Nggih Gus."
"Humaira, we're finally united. May you be my ribs later in His Heaven."
Not until five minutes Syaila and Maryam present in the middle of the wedding that became the center of attention of many invited guests.
"God willing, Ning Shaila has entered the guarantee. It is expected that Gus Ali will stand up and welcome the presence of his wife."
"Thank you, Ning Maryam."
"Alright Gus, now the ring exchange procession."
Ali came closer to Shaila, grabbed her hand and took the ring given by Zerikly and put it on Syaila's ring finger. Syaila nervously rubbed her husband's hand for the first time.
Shaila also put a ring on Ali. Ali kissed the head of his wife.
"MasyaAllah, alright please panjenenengan both towards the deed table for Ning Syaila to sign the marriage book."
As per the instructions of Syaila and Ali, he immediately stepped towards the contract table. After arriving Ali pulled the chair and helped Syaila sit down.
"Alright while waiting for the bride we can hear the wedding banter from Al-Ustadz Ismail, the time and place I set."
**Marriage Advice
Marriage is one of the sunnah of the Prophet Muhammad SAW.
Marriage is sunnahku. Whoever follows my sunnah means a part of my people
Such is the translation of the hadith that is often heard related to marriage.
It turns out that not a few who do not have a partner and are still confused about making choices.
RasulullahShallaahu ‘alaihi wa sallam said :
يَا مَعْشَرَ الشَّبَابِ مَنِ اسْتَطَاعَ مِنْكُمُ الْبَاءَةَ فَلْيَتَزَوَّجْ، فَإِنَّهُ أَغَضُّ لِلْبَصَرِ وَأَحْصَنُ لِلْفَرْجِ، وَمَنْ لَمْ يَسْتَطِعْ فَعَلَيْهِ بِالصَّوْمِ فَإِنَّهُ لَهُ وِجَاءٌ.
“Okay the lads! Any one of you is capable of marriage, then marry, because marriage is more submissive, and more fortifying farji (*********). And whoever is not able, then let him shaum (fasting), for it can fortify him.” (HR Bukhari, Muslim, Tirmidhi and others).
the main target of the disyari’atannya marriage in Islam is to fortify human dignity. Therefore, men and women must live in pairs.
"Marriage protects man from filthy and vile deeds, which can degrade and destroy the noble dignity of man,"
5 Marriage advice that becomes a household fortress.
Mate
Matrimony is a mystery to every human being. Some are dating after meeting or have just met in person. Rest assured that all these are scenarios of Allah SWT will.
All of that must be balanced with efforts and always try to always be launched everything that we are working on
Happy girl
The woman was created from a crooked rib. So to get the happiness of the world and in the hereafter, then we must love a partner. Give them affection, do not let men hurt the feelings in his heart.
For anyone who is married, he has already perfected part of his faith. Married people have downloaded 50% of their faith. How do we make it 100%? The rest we can multiply by our devotion to Allah SWT.
Responsibility of marriage
Before living the household life, we still think of our prayers only. But after we get married, there is a burden of responsibility that we will carry. There is responsibility to the wife and the child.
After having a family, try to be a good priest for your family.
5.Orgasm
Marriage in Islam is not only satisfying sexual desire. But there is more to it than that, there is charity that will continue to flow.
People who previously diligently perform dhuha prayers will stop after death, who diligently think will stop after death. However, after marriage there will be prayers that will continue to flow from children who are sholeh. So pray that when the family later, get a sholeh and sholeh child.
Verse about marriage (Many actually I only mention one)
نِسَاؤُكُمْ حَرْثٌ لَكُمْ فَأْتُوا حَرْثَكُمْ أَنَّى شِئْتُمْ وَقَدِّمُوا لِأَنْفُسِكُمْ وَاتَّقُوا اللَّهَ وَاعْلَمُوا أَنَّكُمْ مُلَاقُوهُ وَبَشِّرِ الْمُؤْمِنِينَ
Your wives are the fields for you, so come to your fields at any time and in the way you like. Prioritize (the good) to yourself. Fear Allah and know that you will (later) meet Him. And give glad tidings to those who believe. – (Q.S Al-Baqarah: 223)
Marriage is So Sacred
Islam considers that marriage is a noble and sacred thing, worth worshiping to Allah, following the sunnah of the Prophet and is carried out on the basis of sincerity, responsibility, and following the provisions of the law that must be heeded.
For this reason, wedding advice is needed for new interlocutors.
If everything when understood and understood then we will be able to behave properly and correctly.
Many examples in the household because the purpose is not true, especially accompanied by a lack of understanding of the nature of humans with various characters, then when there are problems in the household finally experienced destruction (divorce).
Intentionally
The key at the beginning was the intention of worship, besides, nothing else. Most importantly, we need to know that our side is human. Realize very well, that our partner is a human – with all the lack of–, not angels.
Understanding the Differences in Male and Female Character
Citing the opinion of the doctor, that the type of man and woman is different, specifically the character. They are created from different constructs, such as the brain. Male, his brain seems to be in compartments or spaces, so when concentrated in one thing it is difficult to think about other things.
Unlike women, she is free to think about other things, without having the compartment. The corpus of mass callosum in the middle line that connects the right-left brain of humans, men with women is different.
Women, the corpus callosum contains 200-250 million fibers 30% thicker than men who connect the right and left brain fibers, respectively, so when a man concentrates on one thing he cannot be contested.
As exemplified by Ibungi Lutjeng Luthfiyah, that when calling his beloved husband (KH. M. Nasrullah Baqier Adelan) is busy repairing motorcycles. Nyai Luthjeng first began to call with a subtle tone (slow-slow) full of love.
“Buya, dahar riyen (eat first)!” Her husband did not hear it.
Both times, slightly with a slightly higher tone, “Buyaa, dahar riyen (eat first)!” Her husband still did not listen. And the third time with a louder tone while shouting, “Buyaaa, dahar riyen (eat first)!” Finally my husband heard.
If in the household is not based on an understanding between husband and wife, worried when a woman is impatient with such a male character, then the wife will tend to like to nag.
So, on the basis of the creation of differences between men and women, as well as the corpus callosum of women 30% thicker than men. Therefore, women can duplicate any work or activity.
For example, when a wife is cooking with two gas stoves at once, each furnace contents there are 2, meaning the number is 4 stoves. The first furnace is used to cook rice, the second furnace is used to cook vegetables, the third furnace is used to fry fish, and the fourth furnace is used to fry sambal spices.
By working on the four furnaces, a wife can still pay attention or watch her child who is playing. In fact, a wife is also still able to receive a phone even though she is cooking.
While the ability of the male speech brain is only in the left brain, while the ability of the female speech brain is on the left as well as the right front. And so, the ability to talk to men in a day, he said, who are good at talking or chattering only 7000, which is not chatty only 5000.
Unlike women, who are chatty 20,000 while those who are not chatty 16,000. It's a long way, isn't it? Thus, the chattering of women is a gift. Women do not want to be understood, but from that all men must be able to take his lesson. In QS. Ali ‘Imran [3]: 191 explained:
رَبَّنَا مَا خَلَقْتَ هَٰذَا بَٰطِلًا
“Yes our Lord, is it not that You created this in vain.”
All there is purpose and wisdom, including the chatty nature of women. So also the condition of such men is a test, as well as women who are chatty as well as a test. So the exam that passes is a constructive talk, not a fussy one.
Is that a nagging mujair? Husbands who diligently give a living are still women who demand more by measuring or comparing with the conditions of neighbors who are better able to give more.
Men should work
As a man (husband) then work. Why do men have to work? Work is the expulsion of gratitude for the gift of God. In QS. Al-Naba’ [34]: 13 mentioned;
اعْمَلُوا آلَ دَاوُدَ شُكْرًا وَقَلِيلٌ مِنْ عِبَادِيَ الشَّكُورُ
“Task the family of David to be grateful (to God). And very few of my servants thank you.”
Building a Mutual Appreciative Attitude
Most importantly, what needs to be understood and done that life with others is to be able to maintain a tolerance attitude (akhlaq); either with husband or wife, in-laws, brothers-in-law, neighbors, neighbors, and so forth that clearly have different characters.
So, this must be done by all parties to maintain tolerance, not just done by the bride (son-in-law) only. When one cannot maintain this tolerance, the wide earth feels narrow. As in the lyrics performed by Nisa Sabyan under the title Deen Assalam;
كَلَّ هَذِى الاَرْضِ مَاتَكْفِيْ مَسَاحَةْ ¤ لَوْ نَعِيْشِ بِلَاسَمَاحَةْ
وَانْ تَعَا يَشْنَا بِحَبْ ¤ لَوْ تَضِيْقِ الاَرْضِ نَسْكَنْ كَلَّ قَلْب.
اَبْتَحِيَةْ وَبْسَلَامْ ¤ اَنْشُرُوْا اَحْلَى الْكَلَامْزَيْنُوْا الدِّنْيَا حْتِرَامْ
اَبْمَحَبَّةْ وَابْتِسَامْ ¤ ااَنْشُرُوْا بَيْنِ الاَنَامْهَذَا هُوْا ديْنَ السَّلَامْ
That is, the earth is not wide enough, if we live without tolerance. In fact, if we live with tolerance (feelings of love), namely mutual respect no matter old and young. Even though the earth is narrow, our life will feel vast. If the earth is wide, but we live not filled with good moral practice, then the earth (house) is wide (great) it is like we live on the coals of fire. Conversely, if we live filled with love, respect for others, even though the house is as narrow as it feels good, or as if the earth is wide.
Talking to Each Other in a Smooth and Easy Language
Whenever you speak, say something good. For a wife is expected to speak a subtle “jawa-krama” to her husband. Because, a wife's respect for the husband will remain awake. If you have a mouth dispute between husband and wife, it will certainly be difficult to find a rough language when you speak the language “jawa-krama” (for Javanese). Why should I speak polite to my husband? Thank goodness the husband also speaks fluent and polite to his wife.
Thus, it can be ascertained that his son will also be accustomed to using subtle and polite language, and more respect for his parents. If this is applied in a family, both the wife towards the husband, on the contrary, the husband towards the wife is equally respectful to each other. Thus, hadzahu din assalam ‘this is the religion of peace’. In addition, Husbands and wives must instill a sense of love and smile.
Hierarchy of Respect between Husbands-Wives
Lastly, in the rules of religion. The hierarchy of respect and obedience of men and women is different. For women, while still in the care of their parents, the duty of obedience and respect for their parents (after Allah and His apostle).
However, when a woman is married, she must give precedence to her obedience to the husband; only then her parents. But unlike men, though married, the first to remain respected and obeyed are his own parents, especially the mother (after God and His apostle).
Thus, wise parents should be able to teach this (beginning husband rather than parents) to his daughter, especially when her daughter is married.
Wallahu a’lam.
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