Love Belongs to Us
Marriage II (sungkeman)

The core procession of the marriage contract has been carried out, officially Sekar and Danil have become husband and wife. Both families look very happy, especially Dad Bagas and Papa Andi, these two CEOs do not stop being grateful and smiling happily.

Danil looked lovingly at his wife, and vice versa, he led Sekar to carry out the next traditional ceremony process, which is the condolence of the bride.

This country, besides being rich in natural scenery, rich in its own uniqueness, with a diversity of cultures and customs, makes these two parents reluctant to eliminate existing traditions.

They use the Sundanese customary procession. This custom was chosen because Bagas and Rianti were the original people of Bandung. In addition, their friendship is also established in this city. So by mutual agreement this custom is chosen for the marriage contract of their only daughter's son.

The condescension of the bride means to rest, by sitting crouching while kissing the older hand, that is, both parents.

A child must realize that he is without parents is no one. Therefore as children we are obliged to respect both our parents.that is one of the meanings contained in the process of silence.

Sungkeman is also a process to eliminate the ego inside, which is seen when a child humbles his body by sincerely "worshiping" the parents who have contributed in his life.

The point of this sungkeman process is a form of gratitude of a child to his parents who have contributed to raising him selflessly.

Sungkeman started from birth mother and then father, after that it was new to the female in-law and then the male in-law.

This procession is also usually accompanied by advice from parents to children and their daughters-in-law. Danil and Sekar sungkem on his mother and mother.

Mother Rianti bowed her head, whispering in her daughter's ear.

"Sekar, you are now Mas Danil's wife. Trust your husband, son.

When there's any anxiety talk to your husband.

Open your ears, open your eyes, and lock your mouth.

Do not be easy to emotion, if angry try to keep your mouth shut, do not say inappropriate words and hurt each other.

Mommy believes Sekar will be the best wife for your mas," Rianti's message to his only child, answered a nod by Sekar.

"Mother, pray for Sekar and Mas Danil" he said asking for prayers to the mother who has given birth and raised him with affection.

Mama Fina smiled at Danil.

"Danil is now the husband of Sekar. So it is a godly husband, a husband who can guide your wife and children in the future.

Don't act again from now on. Mama said to Danil, there is only one woman in Danil's heart other than your mother and mother who you must be a priority.

Mamah believed Danil would be the best godly husband for your wife" Fina's mother's message to her son.

Danil looked at Mama Fina and nodded in understanding of the message given.

"Makih mah, God willing Danil will be the best husband for Sekar and be a wise father-to-be for the children of Danil. Pray for me always" he asked.

Then they switched places, now Sekar sungkem on the father of Bagas and Danil sungkem on Papa Andi

Bagas' father looked at his little daughter and smiled happily.

"Sekar unfortunately father, now the only child of this father's puppet has become Danil's wife.

Sorry, I forced Sekar to marry Danil, I did this because I know and believe this is best for my daughter.

Father's message, don't leave prayers, son, and obey your husband.

"Thank you father, forgive Sekar had refused this matchmaking. Love me same daddy. I know you did all this for the happiness of Sekar. Pray Sekar and Mas Danil well, Sekar will always be a spoiled father's little daughter" said Sekar.

She couldn't hold back her tears, she realized that all this her father was doing for her happiness.

"Danil, papah hope Danil becomes a responsible husband. Responsibility to the family and every step Danil took.

Protect your family, just as Papah has protected you all along.

Share everything with your wife, if there is anxiety, talk to your wife, never underestimate anything Sekar said, it could be a sign of a good or a bad, or a bad thing, felling's wife is usually always accurate, believe it," Andi's message to Danil.

"Yes papah, Danil will fight to be the best husband for Sekar and father for the children of Danil," Danil hugged Papah Andi tightly.

Sekar and Danil stood up again, because now they had to change places, then Sekar had to bow to Mama Fina, and Danil sungkem to Mother Rianti.

"Strong, mamah tipped Danil yes, sometimes your mas can be romantic, sometimes not, his nature is still changeable, but mamah sure Sekar can conquer Danil.

It is not easy to be my dear wife, but my mother believes Sekar can be the best wife for Mas Danil. Solve all problems before you go to sleep, believe it is the best. According to your husband dear, and love always your mom because you know, your mom loves you more than herself. Always happy my dear," said Mama Fina to Sekar.

"Our prayers are always ma'am" pleaded with his mother-in-law.

"Danil, please take care of Sekar. Love the daughter of the spoiled mother yes, behind the sometimes annoying nature of her very pleasant person, guide and love her, be happy until death separates you," Pinta Bunda Rianti on Danil.

"Mother knows best, I love Sekar with all his shortcomings and advantages. Pray for us mother."

This procession, the last, where Sekar sungkem on his father-in-law, Papa Andi and Danil sungkem on his father-in-law, Father Bagas.

"Sekar, papa hope Sekar is always happy with your mas yes, his ignorant nature will probably make you tired, but papa is sure it will make your life more colorful.

Believe me until whenever it's in your heart it's just you, papa knows very well. Accompany every step of your mas, support him in the front position, do not hesitate to prohibit something that you believe is not good, papa believes Sekar knows the best for yourself, your mas, your mother, even your children and big families.

Papa Darling Sekar, so is your most reliable mas companion.

Now, quickly give us many grandchildren," Andi said to Sekar.

"Father, pray that Sekar can carry out the mandate of papah, pray that we always reward" said Sekar in reply to a tight embrace from his father-in-law.

"Fastly give us grandchildren," Sekar smiled and nodded in response to Papa Andi's request.

"Danil, Sekar's father, guide and love him, as we love him.

Do not forget to pray, make a handle when you are sad, upset, and happy.

Don't argue when the heart is hot, bring back the joy of my daughter Danil. Only you can make it happen.

Hurry up and bring us many grandchildren" Bagas' father said to Danil.

"Hopefully Danil never disappoints dad. Danil will always make Sekar happy and realize the hope of the father. Calm dad, Danil and Sekar will give a lot of grandchildren" Danil said as he hugged his father-in-law.

Wejangan is the same as prayer, parents must want the best for their children as well as parents Sekar and Danil.

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