Suppose that... (Turnable Time)
Mom Elsa
" What else?" Mama Elsa asks who saw Yumna from the window.
" Nothing, relax while thinking about life. Come inside." Yumna.
" Ck, don't think about it, think about it." Said Mama Elsa who had entered and sat near Akifa who was playing.
Yumna later recounted her experience when she met Ayuk
" I have a friend, his name is Ayuk. She was a close friend of mine, but Ayuk moved to Lampung with her husband, before Ayuk returned to Bali and lived with his parents."
" Yumna's here by herself?" Ask Ayuk's mother.
" Yes ma'am, besides it's not too far away." Yumna.
" For a long time never met already have a tail 2 aja." Said Mother while looking at Ayuk who like he could not bear to tell something.
" Yes ma'am, God still entrusts me to keep trust, yes even if the second is not planned." Yumna.
" That is if God wills. No matter how much you try to avoid. If God has predestined. We can what?"
Yumna smiled and confirmed the words of Ayuk's mother.
" Mom..." Call Ayuk.
" Yes, son.."
Ayuk was seen letting out a long sigh before he started to tell a story.
Ayuk who turned out to be married again, told his mother and began to complain about the behavior of his partner.
After marriage he only knew the original character of his partner who was stubborn, lazy, wasteful, and others.
After Yumna heard Ayuk's explanation. Yumna concludes that Ayuk is hoping that her parents will support her by blaming her husband.
But Yumna was very surprised because at that time the mother was just silent, even then her mother went to the kitchen, while Ayuk continued to tell stories and follow her mother into the kitchen.
Make the soul of the kepo Yumna thrashing ronta want to know what the response of her mother.
Luckily, Akifa followed Ayuk's mother's footsteps, so that Yumna had reason to keep listening to the conversation between the child and the mother whose story was eleven and twelve with the story of Yumna's household.
Then the mother started cooking the water.
" Yumna want some tea?"
" May ma'am."
I started to make a few glasses.
After some time, the water finally boiled.
Mother brewed tea and with a smile gave it to Yumna.
" Thank you mom." Yumna.
Mom smiled then refocused on the pot which was still filled with hot water.
The mother then poured the still hot water into 3 other glasses that she had prepared.
At first, Yumna thought she would make drinks for herself and her husband. But Yumna was wrong.
In the first glass he put an egg, in the second glass he put a carrot, while in the third glass in the coffee.
Ayuk and Yumna looked at each other as if the same asked what Mom would do.
After waiting for a while, the mother showed the contents of the three glasses to her daughter.
And result...
hard carrots become soft, breakable eggs become hard, and coffee produces a fragrant aroma.
Then the mother began to explain,
“My son.. Problems in life are like boiling water. But how our attitude determines the impact. We can be, Flabby like carrots. Hardened like an egg. Or as fragrant as coffee."
Mama Elsa is seen waiting for the continuation of the Yumna story, just like Yumna was so curious.
" The carrots and the eggs do not affect the water, but they are the ones who change because of the hot water. While coffee turns the water, it makes the water fragrant."
"It will be very easy to be grateful when our circumstances are fine, but can we remain grateful when we are hit by problems?” Ask the mother who made Ayuk and Yumna speak a thousand languages.
Mama Elsa also seems silent, as if trying to interpret Yumna's explanation.
" Some get flabby, complain, and feel sorry for themselves. Some are hardened, angry, and blame the other party
There are also those who are precisely more fragrant, becoming stronger and wiser. It all depends on our own choice how we respond to a problem."
Mama Elsa begins to understand what Yumna is talking about.
"About a long time later, Azam and Ilmi came." Yumna
" Azam is a 6 year old boy, he is Ayuk's son with his previous husband. And it turned out to be Azam's custom, where his parents did not work and would be at home all afternoon. Azam wanted to make a surprise for both his parents."
" Today Azam planned to make a pancake cake and he invited Ilmi and Ili to make a cake."
"Of the?" Ask Mama Elsa.
"Very excited."
"Azam took a large bowl, spoon, shifted the chair to the edge of the table, and pulled out a tupperwear of rather heavy flour, and spilled some of its contents onto the floor."
"Then he took some of the flour with his hands, some scattered on the dinner table, and Azam stirred it with milk and sugar so that traces of dough splattered around him. Coupled with some cat footprints that want to know what is going on. "
"Azam was drinking flour and he looked very frustrated."
"When I was about to help, Ayuk's mother hinted that Yumna should stay and take a look."
"I then understood. All Azam wanted was to make something to please his father and mother, but what happened looked really bad."
Azam now did not know what to do, whether to put the dough in the oven or burned in the fireplace. It seemed like he did not know how to light a fire on the stove or in the oven.
Suddenly Azam saw a cat start licking the dough he was making, and he reflexively encouraged the cat not to eat the dough. The cat is then thrown, Ilmi is angry that Azam is pushing the cat very violently.
Very worried he tried to clean the broken egg, but it slipped due to the slippery floor which was now filled with flour, making his nightwear white and sticky. And at that moment he then looked towards his mother and grandmother
Tears then fell on Azam's cheeks.
All he wanted to do was do good, but it was precisely the incredible chaos he had made.
Now he looks resigned to waiting for scolding, jewelry, or maybe even a blow.
But her grandmother just looked at her, then walked past all the dirt she was making.
I saw the grandmother lifting and holding Azam who was crying so that the clothes of the grandmother were dirty.
" Little children have a way of pleasing both parents. We too are facing life. There will always be a way for us to enjoy and wait for every surprise from the Almighty." The Light of Ayuk's Mother.
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" Your story, just like the one I told me the other day." Mama Elsa said back to the story.
Two brothers manage a family farm together.
The older brother has a family and has several children while the younger brother has not married.
The two of them always split the profits of the family effort evenly.
One day the brother who was not married said in his heart,
"It's good to share the profits with my sister for the same amount, but I'm still single so my life needs are not too much like my sister's family, she said, he has to support his wife and son."
Then at midnight, the younger brother took a sack of grain from his barn.
He crossed the field between his house and his brother's house, and the brother put the grain in his brother's barn.
Meanwhile, unbeknownst to his sister, his brother turned out to have the same thoughts as him.
The brother said to himself,
"It's actually inappropriate that we share the same benefits, because I'm already married. I have a wife who always takes care of my needs, and my children will take care of my life"
Until at night, the brother took a sack of grain from his warehouse and went quietly across their fields to put the grain into his sister's barn.
For years, the two brothers were confused, why the supply of grain in the warehouse never decreases despite often moving the grain to his brother's warehouse? Then one night, an event occurred that they did not expect.
The brother and sister went to each other's warehouse at the same time.
In the darkness of the night while carrying the grain, they apparently meet and realize each other what exactly happened over the years.
Then they both put down the grain and embrace each other.
Yumna who heard the story is a little tangent to the storyline, but Yumna can see the love of the two brothers who meet each other's needs.
Yumna then realized..
When a person decides to live a household life, he must prepare many things. For men, not just preparing material as a provision to support his wife and children later. For a wife, honesty is required in every way.
Including about his dark past, so that later in life does not cause heavy burdens or complicated problems that can destroy his household life.
Regarding honesty, actually both men and women, both are required to be honest. When they have become a married couple, whose name is honesty is very necessary and will be a determinant of the happiness and permanence of their household.
Yumna who was playing at the house of Heppi while waiting for Ilmi returned home to study accidentally found a short story that is quite interesting in the tabloid Nova (edition 1585/XXX 09-15 July 2018).
The short story is titled Secrets Saved by Father Anggoro Kasih. It is about the life of a very complicated household.
Yep. How not complicated? Because the husband and wife are not honest with each other, have their own secrets, and only revealed after the husband died. Her husband, Febri Utomo, is a great businessman. However, behind his greatness, he had the heart to lie to Nandari, his wife. Febri apparently had another woman and also a young child. Worse, it was only revealed after Febri died.
Meanwhile, Nandari also kept something secret from Febri. When he married Febri, he was no longer a virgin. She even had an abortion due to being pregnant out of wedlock with her boyfriend. Because his marriage to Febri was not blessed with a baby, they eventually adopted a daughter named Matari. Matari, who was an adult and studied abroad, finally came home when she heard the news of her father's death.
On the day that father died, one by one the secrets were revealed. About another woman who was the second wife of the father who came to worship with his son. Then, his identity is an adopted child. The story ends when Nandari commits suicide.
Yumna can then take valuable lessons from the complicated family life story between Febri and Nandari.
Honesty, respect for each other and accept each other's shortcomings, are indeed very necessary in a household. Without it all, I think a household will be vulnerable to break and end heartbreakingly.
"Marriage is like continuous negotiation."
"Not all wounds can be healed by time."
" People think that the decision not to have children is like a great sin, when they do not make anyone lose."
" My family used to say I have children, the sustenance is always there. It doesn't seem that easy. Now the one who told me to have a child even close my eyes if I want to borrow money"
From the many words made Yumna realize that,
In the household, we also need to understand from two sides in every decision taken. This is not a trivial problem, but a big problem that can have long and lifelong consequences.
Of the many stories today that Yumna heard.
As if making a lot of people must learn to be careful in making decisions, must be equally mature in solving all the problems of the household that is crashing, so it takes gratitude to be able to see life from the other good side.
“The world is full of enjoyment. And the best enjoyment of the world is the wife who shalihah.” (See Shahih Jami’ Shaghir by Al-Albani)
Whoever wants household happiness, let him pay attention to the stories of ‘Aisyah radhiyallah ‘anha with Rasulullah shallallahu ‘alaihi wasallam. How Rasulullah shallallahu tips ‘alaihi wasallam happy ‘Aisyah radhiyallahu ‘anha.
" Had I had such a high husband on religious science it would probably be one of the happiest women in the world." Yumna.
Home is the world's most precious jewelry. There is no perfect happiness other than the presence of family by our side. Husband, wife, and child are the core members of the family. As for the small family that is still waiting for the presence of children alias only consists of husband and wife.
Life in the world is not always smooth and without problems. Not infrequently if humans are faced with a problem that makes them have to check cok. Likewise with household life that often comes exams and trials. There is just slander that sometimes comes so that quarrels cannot be avoided.
Communication is important in the home. Only I Yumna very difficult to build a good communication with Galang because every communication that Yumna tried to build always ended in a fight.
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