The Love Brings Heaven
Lecture2

Households without Problems?

Not that a happy life, there is never a problem at all, because “ Baiti Jannati “ enforced by Rasulullah shalallahu ’alaihi wa sallam has also experienced problems such as, jealousy between wives, additional problems of living, differences of opinion, and other things that are actually natural because it is part of human nature.

There is valuable advice from him so that each couple can mirror, has lived the rhythm of life in harmony with Islamic law? Why so many problems and slander approaching, poor sustenance, character changes couples or children that are difficult to manage

احْفَظِ اللهَ يَحفَظك،اِحفظِ اللهَ تَجٍدْهُ أَمَامَكَ، تَعَرَّفْ إلى اللهِ في الرَّخاءِ يَعرِفْكَ في الشِّدةِ، وَاعْلَم أن مَا أَخطأكَ لَمْ يَكُن لِيُصِيبَكَ، وَمَا أَصَابَكَ لَمْ يَكُن لِيُخطِئَكَ، وَاعْلَمْ أنَّ النَّصْرَ مَعَ الصَّبْرِ، وَأَنَّ الفَرَجَ مَعَ الكَرْبِ، وَأَنَّ مَعَ العُسرِ يُسراً)

“Be careful (Shari’at) Allah, Allah will take care of you. Guard (Syari’at) Allah, and you will find Allah before you. Remember Allah when you are happy, Allah will remember you when you are in a narrow state. Know ! indeed, what is destined not to be about you, will certainly not befall you and what has been destined to be upon you, will surely be about you.

Know it! patience will come with help. Verily behind the tribulation there must be pleasure, and behind the difficulties there must be easiness” (HR. Abu Hurairah and set aside by Al-Bani in shahih Al-Jami’, number 2961 ).

The key to forgiveness that we can from all sins in the household is Patience ma'am, I also felt a tremendous upset when I was still a newlywed ma'am huh Haha, I also felt very upset,I am also the same mother of ordinary people especially I am still young there are still many obstacles for me in the future, I have also had a snack with my husband but my husband is very patient with me...although my husband sometimes likes to snack suddenly, he used to be so ma'am, maybe the effect of what time is Haha...

I'd like to ask you, does anyone know what the best husband is like???Well good because often love money a lot ya haha not ya ma'am, but the best husband is the best in his family, for example always help the affairs of the wife at home.

Helping the work of the wife at home includes a form of good deeds from the husband to the wife and shows the noble character of the husband.

Take a look at the example of our Suri tauladan, Prophet Muhammad shallallahu ‘alaihi wa sallam when he was at home.

عَنِ الأَسْوَدِ قَالَ سَأَلْتُ عَائِشَةَ مَا كَانَ النَّبِىُّ – صلى الله عليه وسلم – يَصْنَعُ فِى أَهْلِهِ قَالَتْ كَانَ فِى مِهْنَةِ أَهْلِهِ ، فَإِذَا حَضَرَتِ الصَّلاَةُ قَامَ إِلَى الصَّلاَةِ

From Al-Aswad, he asked on ‘Aisyah, “What did Prophet shallallahu ‘alaihi wa sallam do while in the middle of his family?” ‘Aisyah replied, “Rasulullah shallallahu ‘alaihi wa sallam used to help her family work at home. If the prayer time has arrived, he stands up and immediately goes to prayer.” (CHR. Bukhari, no. 6039)

In Syarh Al-Bukhari by Ibn Batthol rahimahullah mentioned that Al-Muhallab stated, this is the work of the Prophet Shallallahu ‘alaihi wa sallam at his home. This is a sign of awadhu’an (humility) him, also so that his people can follow his example. Therefore, including the sunnah of the Prophet, let one take care of his homework, both concerning matters of the world and his religion.

As-Sindi rahimahullah in the footnote to Shahih Al-Bukhari stated that helping home affairs included the customs (sunnah) of the shalih people.

"Thank God, ma'am, it doesn't feel like time is going so fast, ma'am, I have to end today's tausiah,but mumpung there is still a few minutes left so there are questions to be asked can just stand up mom and mention the name and the problem mom"

There was one young woman standing up and permission to identify her name and mention the problem "Assalamualaikum wr wb ustazah',previously introduced ngaran abdi teh sri wahyuni abdi th is still 23 years old ustazah, abdi just got married two years ago, we were married never there was a fight or so on, we were married,but at the end of the²ini he was more indifferent and angry, we used to love each other ustazah but at the end of this he even acted like that, with my suspicion, with my suspicion, I tried to re-investigate it was true that he played fire behind this marriage relationship, my heart was destroyed ustazah, I was angry at that time, but I tried to patient ustazah until after 3 months I remained patient, but I was very angry,I also really want to divorce but I think about the fate of the child I bear, he needs a father, so I hold it until now,... but over time it even became so that I do not know which path I should take....my question can the wife ask for divorce from a cheating husband??, thanks ustazah, I asked,Wasalamualaikum wr"

"Waalaikumsalam wr wb Ukhti, this life must have a test, not married or already. The family of course the test is more, therefore if it succeeds the reward is more. See letter at-Taghabun: 15.

What if the wife finds a lot of things that are not liked from her husband? There is no reason that all the actions of the husband must be liked by the wife, because it may be the wrong wife or follow her desires. One example; a rich, wise, and just husband, if he wants to marry again, is certainly a wife who does not like, except a wife who is blessed by God. Therefore Allah Subhanahu wa Ta’alaberman:

وَعَاشِرُوهُنَّ بِالْمَعْرُوفِ فَإِن كَرِهْتُمُوهُنَّ فَعَسَى أَن تَكْرَهُوا شَيْئًا وَيَجْعَلَ اللهُ فِيهِ خَيْرًا كَثِيرًا

“...And get along with them properly. Then if you do not like them, (then be patient) because maybe you do not like something, whereas Allah made him a lot of good.” (Qs. An-Nisa’: 19).

وَعَسَى أَن تَكْرَهُوا شَيْئًا وَهُوَ خَيْرُُ لَّكُمْ وَعَسَى أَن تُحِبُّوا شَيْئًا وَهُوَ شَرٌّ لَّكُمْ وَاللهُ يَعْلَمُ وَأَنتُمْ لاَ تَعْلَمُونَ

“...You may hate something, but it is very good for you, and it may be (after all) that you like something, when it is very bad for you; Allah knows, and you do not know.” (Qs. Al-Baqarah: 216).

If the wife does not like him because the husband often hurts her with words or deeds, counsel with words or words, if necessary show the reason, and be patient. Rasulullah Shallallahu ‘alaihi wa Sallam said:

اَلْمُسْلِمُ إِذَا كَانَ مُخُالِطا النَّاسَ وَ يَصْبِرُ عَلَى أَذَاهُمْ خَيْرٌ مِنَ المُسْلِمِ الَّذِي لاَ يُخُالِطُ النَّاسَ وَلاَ يَصْبِرُ عَلَى أَذَاهُمْ

“Muslims if he hangs out with humans and is patient over his distractions, then he is better than Muslims who do not want to associate with humans and are not patient over his distractions.” (CHR. Tirmidhi: 2431, set aside by Al-Albani; see Shahihul Jami’: 6651).

If you ask how the law of wives who are hurt by cheating husbands can you ask for divorce?? the answer could be mom, though,but klo mother want to be patient to wait for her husband mother back to her path means that mother also has no vain waiting for the husband of the mother who cheated on her because her patience will be rewarded with a price that is full of fruit, and the mother will be rewarded with a price that is full of money,like what I said....I pray that the household of teteh wahyuni can continue, may the husband who behaved badly in the past hopefully there will be awareness and apologize back to th wahyuni in the future,and may the Wahyuni family be given health always amin² yarabbal alamin"