The Love of Habib
Chapters 30.3

Now her husband has given, where perhaps she does not understand what her husband wants. In addition, he basically grew up brave in the city and he was also not a pure santriwati who grew up in a boarding school. So her husband's request, really not difficult as long as she wants to do it.

"Know.mas Khalid. Mas, I've read a lot of books about weddings during the preparation days of this week. I have read a lot of analysis from several authors. From everything I read I concluded that the husband is a field of reward for his wife. Allah's apostle Shallallahu alaihi wasallam once said that a wife is very easy to enter heaven." He paused for a moment, thinking about the fragment of the hadith he read last night with his two best friends.

Because the hadith brings glad tidings to them the women who will end up being a wife.

Rasulullah shallallahu ‘alaihi wa sallam,

إِذَا صَلَّتِ الْمَرْأَةُ خَمْسَهَا وَصَامَتْ شَهْرَهَا وَحَفِظَتْ فَرْجَهَا وَأَطَاعَتْ زَوْجَهَا قِيلَ لَهَا ادْخُلِى الْجَنَّةَ مِنْ أَىِّ أَبْوَابِ الْجَنَّةِ شِئْتِ

“If a woman always keeps prayers five times, also fasts a month (in Ramadan), keeps ********** (from adultery) and obeys her husband, so it says to the woman, “Come into heaven through whichever door you like.” (CHR. Aman; shahih)

This happy news is very happy when it is well studied and understood, and then applied to household life.

However,

"We women who end up being wives are given an easy way to enter the paradise of Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala. But the scariest thing was that I read that most of the inhabitants of hell were taken from women. And one of the mistakes that got them into order was because of the title of wife they held during their time in this world. Because we are a wife who is in charge of maintaining the house, caring for and cleaning, then giving the best for the husband to the point that sacrificing many things makes us wives sometimes feel superior. Unknowingly the exhaustion we felt nurtured us into dissident wives and mothers. For the Prophet Shallallahu alaihi wasallam once said that when a wife or a mother is overcome by emotion or anger, they will spill what they feel and put out superior words like the kindness of the husband does not count during the marriage just because of one mistake, speaking harsh words to the husband and children, he said, pray bad things happen to their children. Mas Khalid, after knowing this, suddenly I felt that being a woman was very heavy in this world. I was so scared, I was really scared. I don't want to be that kind of woman. A woman who is a dissident to her husband and prays bad words to her children, O Allah, I am so afraid of being such a woman. Women are destined to be the inhabitants of hell, nauzubillah... I don't want to end up being this woman. So before the show started I thought hard and decided to be a servant to you my husband. As long as I can, this self will give you everything you want from me. As long as I can do it. And I beg you, my husband. When this self is out of control going in the wrong direction and not being guided by Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala, please stop me my husband. Please help me get back on the road. Because I hope that our marriage is diridhoi by Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala, the reason is because I do not want to be separated from you when we are in the afterlife. I heard that the husbands of this world will be reunited with better women in the afterlife. With a beautiful woman, gleaming and beautifully created by Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala, my heart is very jealous. I don't want to imagine that happening to you, my husband. I don't want this because to me, you are my world. Wherever you go this self will always follow, therefore please do not leave me, my husband. This self is indeed a lack of knowledge, difficult to understand science, and always overwhelmed by its shortcomings that irritate the heart. Therefore, please teach me and guide me in this marriage so that I may be the wife you desire, my husband, and so does God. For a wife, a husband is a field of reward for himself. So as a wife, whatever I do to please you, my husband. To get ridho from you, and get ridho from Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala until I am inseparable from you in the hereafter. So, again I beg you, my husband. Don't ever take your hands off me and never leave me in your steps, there's nothing I want in this world more than to be your wife in this world and your wife in the afterlife."

Seeing the fear in his wife's eyes, Habib reflexively carried his wife into an embrace. He hugged his wife as tightly as possible to show that he also felt that fear. Separated from the beloved woman, the soulmate who had been deeply engraved deep in the heart, the pain was simply immeasurable. He couldn't imagine all that, no, he really couldn't imagine all that pain happening to his wife, because he also felt pain.

"By Allah, my wife, for the rest of my life in this world, for the rest of my time in this world, I will never let you take the wrong step. I will never let you go far from the ridho Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala. Because my highest hope in this world is to make you a woman of heaven for myself, making you my first and last wife in this world as well as in the hereafter. After this supplication, I leave the rest to Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala. I give it all up while praying that Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala opens your heart to goodness and keeps our household to the point that we return to where it should be. So don't worry. I will always hold your hand no matter what and I will always walk with you on the straight path, expecting the pleasure of Allah. My wife," The Habib let go of their embrace. When he saw the wet face of his wife who was crying in silence, his heart immediately hurt. He gently rubbed the warm liquid that had sassy past his wife's cheek.

"Do you know that along the way to reach you, there are many people who are willing to be made second, third or fourth in our household. They are good women, with good looks and a wide range of knowledge. With these advantages I still reject them. Truly, God knows more of my heart than myself. My firmness in rejecting their voices was not because of my promise to Mama, no, although I did promise her not to complain about you but the reason I rejected them was really not because of this."

Aish held the hand of her husband on the cheek, pulled it and kissed the hand of the husband with earnestness in the heart.

"Then what was the reason my husband refused them all if not for a request from Mama?" Ask with a feeling of anticipation.

The husband then smiled softly. Tonight countless times have the husband looked at her with tenderness-ah, perhaps all the time the husband always sees himself with these tender eyes. Soft, very soft. He could not count how deep the tenderness within those eyes was. A name that must have always existed alone in those eyes. Never did she see her husband give tenderness to another woman, so much so that her heart was grateful.

The husband's heart thumped at the act of his shy wife's obedience, "The reason was purely because I didn't want another woman between us. My wife, you are a trust in my life. One trust that has a lot of trust so it takes a lifetime to finish yourself alone. But this is not the point. The point was," Staring in his wife's wet red face, this look of an eye once again made her heart go awry.

"That I'm not willing, it's really not willing that there are other women in our relationship. You must feel the pain of seeing another woman want me, but know my wife, I also feel pain for the pain you feel. Seeing you cry because of the hurt of jealousy is also a painful blow in my heart. I don't want to, I really don't want to see you sad because I'm the sickest if you're sad. Therefore during your pursuit, I have sworn to myself that I will never look or turn to another woman to guard your heart and guarantee my happiness. If you are happy then I will be happier, but if you are sad then I will be more sad. And do you know, my wife, if your name never forgets I mentioned in my prostration. Pray that God will open your heart to me alone, pray that our marriage will always be protected by Him, and pray that my heart will always be open to you alone, these three prayers I never tired of tossing into the sky. I never get tired because I know that God always listens to those who surrender to Him. My wife, this worship is very long so to complete it we must work together. Through all the hardships together, through happiness together, joy or sorrow, we will always be together. Do you want my wife?"