Girl with a mate for Ahmad Iqbal
The man is the captain in the household.

Bismilbornohmanirohim.

"Remember Bal's mother and father's message, treat Azizah well, now she's your responsibility, take her on the path of truth, don't take her on the path of obedience. Take him on the path that Allah ridhoi "said Heri stroking Iqbal's back gently.

Iqbal listened to what his father said, kissing the back of his father's hand in reverence. There Iqbal nodded every time he answered his father's words, he was speechless.

"Azizah is a good woman, she God willing will be a wife of righteousness, a wife who can always please her husband" said Heri again.

"Remember Bal in the household must have morality, the husband has his own portion as well as the wife has his own portion" then Heri turned to Azizah who was still waiting for her turn to sungkem with him.

"And for you Azizah, a wife is the easiest to enter heaven which is important to obey her husband and not to leave the Shari'a of God. God willing, heaven is the place" said Heri, Azizah nodded her head and then she returned to pay attention to Iqbal.

"For you Iqbal, do not think you a husband will enter into His heaven, not so the concept, even Iqbal. The man's name is to educate his wife in the way of God, to remember her gently. If he does wrong, may beat his wife if she is wrong, in the letter of annisa verse 34 has been explained, but do not you misunderstand what the verse is about"

Allah Subhanahu Wa Ta'ala said:

اَلرِّجَا لُ قَوَّا مُوْنَ عَلَى النِّسَآءِ بِمَا فَضَّلَ اللّٰهُ بَعْضَهُمْ عَلٰى بَعْضٍ وَّبِمَاۤ اَنْفَقُوْا مِنْ اَمْوَا لِهِمْ ۗ فَا لصّٰلِحٰتُ قٰنِتٰتٌ حٰفِظٰتٌ لِّلْغَيْبِ بِمَا حَفِظَ اللّٰهُ ۗ وَا لّٰتِيْ تَخَا فُوْنَ نُشُوْزَهُنَّ فَعِظُوْهُنَّ وَاهْجُرُوْهُنَّ فِى الْمَضَا جِعِ وَا ضْرِبُوْهُنَّ ۚ فَاِ نْ اَطَعْنَكُمْ فَلَا تَبْغُوْا عَلَيْهِنَّ سَبِيْلًا ۗ اِنَّ اللّٰهَ كَا نَ عَلِيًّا كَبِيْرًا

ar-rijaalu qowwaamuuna 'alan-nisaa-i bimaa fadhdholallohu ba'dhuum 'alaa ba'dhiw wa bimaaa angfaquu min amwaalihim, fash-shoolihaatu qoonitaatun haafizhootul lil-ghoibi bimaa hafizholloh, wallaatii takhoufuuna nushuuzahunna fa'izhuuhunna wahjuruuhunna fil-madhooouji'i wadhunn, fa in atho'nakum fa laa tabghuu 'alaihinna sabiilaa, innallaha kaana 'aliyyang kabiiroo

"Male (husband) is a protector for women (wife), because God has overestimated some of them (men) over others (women), because God has overestimated some of them, and because they (men) have given a living from his property. So the righteous women are those who obey (to Allah) and guard themselves when (husbands) are not there, because Allah has taken care of (them). The women whom you worry about nusyuz, give them advice, leave them in bed (break the bed), and (if necessary) beat them. But if they obey you, then do not look for reasons to trouble them. Verily, Allah is Most High, Most Great."

(QS. An-Nisa' 4: Verse 34).

"It is said that the woman whom you fear nusyuz should counsel them. Remember the first one said there advise him first, not directly hit. Then if he doesn't listen to you, too. Leave them in bed (break the bed) remember Iqbal the second is not directly hit, first give him advice first, if he does not listen also then separate the bed"

"Third one hit them. Here is not you hit him with all your content, not you beat him to torture him to hurt his physical and inner. But hitting just to make him aware. Did the Prophet Job beat his wife so cruelly, when he vowed to Allah if she recovered from her illness, he would beat her 100 times?" when he explained at length now Heri asked his son.

"No father, with guidance from Allah because the Prophet Job was unable to beat the wife, Allah granted leniency, Allah sent the Prophet Job to collect 100 lidis that were made one, and he gave him the right, then Allah ordered the Prophet Job to beat his wife once with 100 of these words that had been put together, so the Prophet Job had beaten his wife 100 times with a slow use of the bidi" said Iqbal answered his father's words, Iqbal's speech made Azizah shoot a smile behind her veil.

Heri has not finished advising her only child that she spoke again. "Iqbal the husband is the captain in the household ark, you know what the ark is called? The ark is called a boat, and the boat must have a steering wheel. Depending on how the captain of this ship can be straight, this ship can be right, this ship can be left, there is a stone wreath he must know there are waves he must also know (Habib Rifky alaydrus). Such a righteous husband is able to build his household properly and well, not tear apart his own household" 

"Do not use the Word of God Subhanahu Watt 'Alaa letter of Annisa verse 34 as a proposition you can beat your wife, have it first and the student first, then you can use it, you can use it, in this day and age many people misrepresent the verse"

Heri took a small breath after the fast gave Iqbal advice, there was a feeling of relief in his heart after conveying what he knew to Iqbal. 

After Iqbal finished his silence with Heri, now it was Azizah's turn to do the same, as Iqbal did. "Father Zizah asked for blessings from father and mother, Zizah asked for your riddho" Azizah said gently, kissing the back of her in-laws' hands.  

Heri looked at her daughter-in-law with a sad look. He had the head of his son-in-law covered in a perfect hijab. Heri said she felt sorry for the life of Azizah, who had been orphaned since childhood.

"Zizah mom and dad are happy about your marriage, mom and dad will always pray for your marriage, same son" 

"Aamiin" said Azizah when Heri said, Samawa. Which means sakinah mawadah warohmah.

Sakinah in the household is when we see the lack of our partner, but we can keep our tongue from reproaching it.

While mawaddah when looking at the shortcomings of our partner, but we can choose to close one eye on the shortcomings of our partner and open another eye for us to focus on the advantages rather than on the shortcomings of our partner.

While the Warohmah when we are able to make the lack of our partner as a charity field for us. It was amazing that marriage.

The marriage can unite the two people who were once illegal to be together, now it becomes lawful to continue together, even making a field of reward for a husband and wife in it.

Even when her husband is angry even a wife can find merit there, by upholding her husband, making her husband happy is a reward for a wife.

Once you who never knew him, after marriage, you can even enjoy it, it's amazing that marriage, even by getting married we can perfect half of our religion.

What is even more beautiful in marriage has become the sunnah of Prophet Muhammad SAW. Even in it there are still many other sunnahs of him.