TWILIGHT IN MEIRA'S HEART
Episode 35's
...Rest assured that there is a beauty that awaits you, after much patience you have lived, that will leave you stunned, and make you forget about pain ...
...(.(.Authors)...
Meira stood by the window of her room, staring far ahead. But no one saw him because he was wandering. Her beautiful face was without a smile. What happened to Julia? Does he really love Deni or is he just obsessed with Deni? The thought swirled over his head. Love and obsession is actually not much different aka thin different. It's just that love is a healthy emotion, whereas obsession is an unhealthy emotion. And according to Meira's estimation whether it's true or not, Julia moves into an obsessed category. Julia doesn't care if Deni loves her or not, the most important thing is that she can have Deni. He needs the love of Deni as the person he loves.
Meira opens her laptop and starts looking around for information on the internet, about a person's obsession with love.
A person who is obsessed with love will continue to approach his target tirelessly.
Obsessions associated with liking or loving someone can be one of the hallmarks of personality disorders. Obsession cannot accept rejection. For someone who is obsessed with the object of his love, rejection is very painful, because he is very dependent on the object of his love. In his delusion the object of love is his perfect lover.
Meira mangosteen while slowly reading and understanding the reading. “Julia should not be ignored by Deni, and blame me as the source for all this.” Inner Meira. He continued reading the article.
Obsessed people tend to continue to approach the object of his love for his own sake, so that he feels relieved. He does not care whether the object of his love like it or not, even comfortable or not. Usually the obsessed person does not realize that what he feels is an obsession not real love. Usually behind obsession there are negative thoughts on yourself. Feeling worthless and not worthy of love. In addition, people who are obsessed want to always be close to the object of love, for it is not uncommon for them to do reckless with moving house or office near the object they like, for it is not uncommon, or just pacing back and forth in front of his house or office.
Obsession characteristics :
* often think of the object of his love to the point of difficulty concentrating
* trying hard to meet
* Excessive jealousy
* Difficult to accept rejection from people he likes
* Like the shadow of the person he likes, not the way it is
* Pursuing a liked person makes him calm/feel more relieved
“Almost all haunting on Julia.” behavior Cetus Meira's. But Meira does not necessarily accuse Julia, because to prove it all, it takes an examination to a psychologist.
But if Julia is really obsessed with Deni, it's very sad Deni. Deni will feel depressed about Julia's behavior.
Meira then searches for another article for comparison material. And the content is on average almost the same that obsession is an unhealthy emotion. If love will let the person he likes be happy with others, even though a moment must be disappointed (that's a natural thing), but over time, as time passes, you will be able to accept and feel all right. In contrast to obsession, if someone who is obsessed is suffering, because of being rejected by the target, then the target must also suffer, in other words the target must feel what he feels. The point is that a person who is obsessed will not let his target be happy. Meira took a deep breath. That's what Julia's been doing to Deni, and to him. Julia always makes herself and Deni unsettled. He thought about how to convey it to Deni.
But even if he told Deni, then what should they do? Take Julia to a psychologist? Obviously that's impossible.
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Deni was pensive in his room. Tonight he is still sleeping at his parents' house, tomorrow morning he leaves for the office from his parents' house. Since Julia's presence returned, Deni's life has slowly changed. He started to feel uncomfortable and not funny wherever he was. Like this time he so often turned off the phone, and now back home was starting to not calm down. Luckily Meira understood the situation very well. Meira did not demand that she pick up the phone quickly or reply to messages.
What should she do with Julia? Rejecting it has often been done. Julia did not care. Should he keep avoiding her like this? Till when?
“Do I have to move house?” Fetched idea. Moving home is not easy and fast. If you can move quickly, where do you want to move? He's still confused.
Deni was still pacing back and forth in his room. His heart was not calm, his face looked very tired. For her Julia's problem is not a matter of meaning, but it is very disturbing to many people, because Julia not only harasses her and Meira, but also disturbs other friends, who are close to her and Meira.
“Then what if Julia later desperate to disturb my parents or Meira's parents,” Deni's feelings increasingly riled up.
He wanted to contact Meira to discuss this, but was stopped, because he did not want to, this became a burden on Meira's mind.
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Julia is still waiting for Deni. It's been two nights Deni hasn't come home. Julia was worried about Deni. Many times he tried to contact Deni but his phone was not active. “The cooking from yesterday is not active, do-don't Deni why-why,” Inner Julia. Every time he looked at Deni's house, but it was still empty. “Where Deni?” Ask Julia in your heart.
Julia craves Deni, because she thinks Deni is so perfect in her eyes. According to her delusion Deni was so kind and considerate of her. That's what he never got from the figure of his parents. Julia's relationship with her parents was very cold. So he was afraid to establish relationships with people other than Deni, especially with people he just knew, because he did not want to be eventually abandoned, like his father who left him first. “If Deni, he is different, he loves me very much, and surely he is a loyal person,” Julia's delusion. His irrational negative thoughts always arise due to past traumas. Sometimes he feels unworthy, but sometimes he feels very confident.
”Deni my first and last love,” Julia said with a smile imagining Deni.
With Deni he felt that his life would be happy.
...One's destiny is already set, as well as with a soul mate. We can only live it tirelessly in every circumstance, because in the struggle there must be happiness ...
...(.(.Julia)...