Adult Zone
11. When Old Husband Response When Asked For Help By Wife
...WHEN THE OLD HUSBAND RESPONDS WHEN ASKED FOR HELP BY THE WIFE...
...Author by: David Khanz...
"White, please take a drink for the Dedek, dong," asked the wife as soon as I just laid myself on the bed. Instead of being quick to comply, for a while I just turned my head, watching him and our youngest child by the side. "White!" call the wife back.
"What?" I asked.
"Si Dedek wants to drink, Pih. Denger?" The intonation of the wife's voice changed somewhat higher than earlier.
"Yes," I answered briefly, but still did not rise from the fall. A few moments even engrossed in contemplation until then slowly wake up while putting on a wry face.
Strange, I thought while stepping heavily into the dining room to get some water to drink, if I was at home, my wife often asked for help. Sometimes just for small and trivial requests. Is it so hard to do a home task that you have to ask for help as often as possible? Starting from lifting clothesline, pussy, chopping toddlers, until .. yes, it was .. prepare a drink for the youngest Child.
"But designed so please, very difficult anyway, Pih!" said wife one time, before. "Everything should be Amih's the one who's doing it too?"
Honestly, if you want to count, not one or two times I try to ease the burden of homework, executing almost all the usual routines of the wife. Sweeping, mopping, tidying up the condition of the house, cooking, washing dirty clothes and utensils in the kitchen and used to eat, drying these, bathing children, shopping, weeding the yard, even fixing the leaky taper. In addition there is one thing that is most avoided, namely rubbing alias ironing. I don't know, even though the last activity is quite lightly done, but I will really be made helpless once I start to see the pile (dirt) only. Hihahi. Though compared to other work, the homework can be done while watching television, listening to music/study, Smule-an, Youtube-an, Facebook-an, babysitting, reply to WAG chat, or enjoy a snack as small. Is that enough to spoil the wife? It often doesn't. Other requests often follow, such as ; "Pih, heong-yeong was the Dedek, dong. Don't want bobo, no."
"Customer while being given his name, Mih," I said. "Entar also sleeps alone."
"No crap-eun, Pih. Even ngajakin maen geura!" said wife menimpali.
"Yes, it's .. if 'that's it, it's the same thing. Hihihi," I joked. The wife immediately scowled, then replied, "Hadeeuuhhh .. oruh if 'gitu mah, even Amih who can not sleep, Pih!"
"Is there anything else Kakang Prabu can help, Dinda Empress?" askaku after taking a glass of drinking water for the Bungsu.
"The Apih ... What the hell, anyway?" Wife looks blushed. After giving the child a drink, the contents of the glass are instead spent on his own. Hhmmm ....
As a man, I know and understand that doing homework is actually the duty of the husband. But if the wife deigns to lighten the burden of the head of the household, it is one form of consecration. The law is not obligatory to bind, but it is recommended. Why so? Because the basic status of a married woman is IRT (Housewife), not ART (Household Assistant). If IRT doubles as ART, then in addition to mandatory endowment, a wife must also be rewarded. While the salary/income received from the husband, not necessarily a fulfillment of rights for the wife. Because, the definition of living is not just fixated on the problem of giving money. Occupancy, food, clothing, jewelry, beauty tools, affection, education, comfort, and others are also part of the living. Therefore, it is wrong if only by giving up all salary/income money, a husband already feels he meets the obligation to provide a living. That's not enough. Because, if this has been considered so, the right of the wife also wants to use the money received for what (as desired).
"You use it for anything, money the salary I've been giving you all this time?" This kind of question is often asked by a husband. "You usually cook like this?"
Don't rush emotions. It could be, it does not mean the wife is not good at cooking. But he is only pressing the cost of household operations. Because, the largest expenditure figure is the cost of children's education and kitchen needs. Not skincare, clothes, picnic, snack, or electricity or pulse. Basically, a wife will never complain about finances, as long as her needs are met. If it is still so, it means there is still an empty gap that the husband has not been able to cover. So, how to minimize these shortcomings? One of them is by helping with home tasks. Although not a final solution, at least - expected - can ease the burden of the wife's mind. Yeah, right? It's just ....
Keep in mind that a man, since childhood has been used to being served by his mother. In addition, his soul has been awarded as a leader for women (wives), namely ; 'Arrijaalu qawamu 'alannisaa.' Like the chatty character of the Eve, men are identical with the hard nature of the heart. If they feel someone is degrading, they will automatically rebel and fight. No exception for my own wife. A request for help received, in the brain of the man will mean reducing authority in the presence of children and wives. Therefore, why a husband who is asked for help by his wife, often does not immediately comply. They'll wonder first, 'Take matters for granted ask me for help, anyway? Can't do it alone?' Then his brain again mused loudly, "Eh, but .. pity too anyway, actually saw the wife's hassles. If I wasn't her husband, who would want to help? If, for example, later tiredness and fall ill, I myself will also be in trouble." It could also be his way of thinking this way; 'Hold on, don't just obey! Fulfill the wife's request later. It was as if I was doing it on my own will, not from being forced to humble myself.'
So how do we deal with such conditions? If a wife already knows the character of the husband, do the desire by way of sampir sindir. Suppose ; "Kids, eating the morning was a bit of a mess, huh? Not cooking, though. You want to wash first, there is heat. Not to mention I nyepu same bebenah house." Let the wife's voice be heard by the person concerned. You can also use questions like this; "What, want to help Amih no?" or "May Amih ask for help, Pih?" Usually, both questions will sound more friendly/comfortable in the ears of men and difficult to answer 'no'. Believe me, the percentage of success rate is much greater than directly giving orders, such as; "Corn, pick up clothesline, dong!" or "Clean, Cebokin the Bungsu, tuh!" One thing that husbands love most when ordered by a wife is only the following sentence; "Bukain*****Amih dong, Pih. Hihih."
Is the nature of men all that? No. gabe. I'm just talking through basic characteristics. Not many husbands have their own consciousness, both because of incomprehension and indeed egoistic factors. One thing that needs to be underlined, avoid giving orders to the husband in front of a public audience. Wh why? Because in the eyes of others will mean different, such as; the husband is afraid of a wife or weak husband. Therefore, it would be better if household affairs should be done together. Make a good habit in order to arise a sense of mutual understanding of each other, without having to rely.
Well, when the wife asked for help to get drinking water for the child earlier, actually I just wanted to make sure first, why did she even need help? Is it the middle of trouble? If you are not facing obstacles, could be at that time because of the basic indulgence of the wife or because of the position of me who is on the edge of the bed and closest to the door of the room? It may be reluctant to pass and tell me to shift; "Awas, Pih, Amih wants to get off the bed." The other most reasonable thing is that it could mean this; "White, Amih wants to menggeloninan first let cepet sleep. But he's fussy about drinking. Please help me take it, okay? Entar .. if the Bungsu was bobo, 'kan Apih free to do anything Amih as well. Hihih." Yeah, right? Yes, dong! Is that!
Yes .. yes .. yes ....