CHARM OF MARYAM (Maryam Albatul Rahmah)
27. Resisting Anger
"Mas Reza where are you going?, why just go ?" Ask Mary later
"Open you said you want to go home, why are you still asking !" Answer Reza ketus.
"Emmm... Well then I'll treat the wound when I'm home" said Maryam later
"Whatever!!" Reza
"Is it customary for Reza to always be angry ?" Say Maryam prank
Hearing this, Reza was silent, not one bit heed Maryam's words.
"May Maryam say something ? not maxut Maryam patronizing, but it feels like this need Maryam convey to mas Reza " Said Maryam.
"Sunny "Speak Reza
Feeling the green light Maryam rushed to convey her heart.
"Rasulullah shallallahu ‘alaihi wa sallam said, “I am just a human being, I can be happy as a human being happy, and I can be angry as a human being rang”
"Together with that, anger is the embers of fire that the demons in the hearts of men ignite to corrupt their religion and themselves, because with anger a person can darken the eyes so that he can do actions or say words that are bad for himself and his religion"
"Therefore, the servants of Allah Ta’ala who fear, though they do not escape from anger, but because they always try to resist the desires of lust, and, so they are always able to quench their anger because Allah Ta’ala."
Allah Ta’ala praised them with this nature in His word,
...{الَّذِينَ يُنْفِقُونَ فِي السَّرَّاءِ وَالضَّرَّاءِ وَالْكَاظِمِينَ الْغَيْظَ وَالْعَافِينَ عَنِ النَّاسِ وَاللَّهُ يُحِبُّ الْمُحْسِنِينَ}...
“The ones who fear are those who forgive (their possessions) both in the air and in the narrow, and those who hold back their anger and forgive (the mistakes) others. Allah loves those who do good” (QS Ali ‘Imran:134).
That is, if they are hurt by others causing anger in them, then they do not do what their human nature desires (express anger), but they (just try) to hold the anger in their hearts and be patient not to reciprocate the treatment of those who hurt them.
Seeing Reza who was silent and watching his every Speech, Maryam was immediately excited to continue his speech.
In a shahih hadith, Rasulullah shallallahu ‘alaihi wa sallam bersabda,
...« لَيْسَ الشَّدِيدُ بِالصُّرَعَةِ ، إِنَّمَا الشَّدِيدُ الَّذِى يَمْلِكُ نَفْسَهُ عِنْدَ الْغَضَبِ »...
“Not a strong man (the real one) with (always defeating his opponent in) fights (fights), but no other strong man (the real one) is able to control himself when temur”.
"This is the power that is commendable and gets the primacy of Allah Ta’ala, which is very little possessed by most humans"
"Imam al-Munawi said,“The meaning of this hadith: the strong man (who is) is the one who (capable) restrains his emotions when his anger is turbulent and he (capable) fights and subdues his passions (when it is). So the Prophet of Allah shallallahu ‘alaihi wa sallam in this hadith carries the meaning of the power born to the inner strength. And whoever is able to control himself at that time then he has (capable) defeated his most powerful and most dangerous enemy (desire)”
"This is the meaning of the power loved by Allah Ta’ala mentioned in the word of the Prophet shallallahu ‘alaihi wa sallam, “A strong believer is better and more loved by Allah than a weak believer”
"The strong meaning in this hadith is strong in faith and strong in striving to subdue his passions in the way of Allah SWT "
In another hadith, Rasulullah shallallahu ‘alaihi wa sallam bersabda,
...« مَنْ كَظَمَ غَيْظًا وَهُوَ قَادِرٌ عَلَى أَنْ يُنْفِذَهُ دَعَاهُ اللَّهُ عَزَّ وَجَلَّ عَلَى رُءُوسِ الْخَلاَئِقِ يَوْمَ الْقِيَامَةِ حَتَّى يُخَيِّرَهُ اللَّهُ مِنَ الْحُورِ مَا شَاءَ »...
“Whoever withholds his anger when he is able to vent it then Allah Ta’ala will call him (pride him) on the day of doomsday before all men until (later) Allah let him choose the jelly-eyed angel he likes”
The ath-Thiibi priest said, “(Artificial) restraining anger is praised (in this hadith) because restraining anger means subduing the lust that always tells to evil, therefore Allah Ta’ala praised them in His word,
...{وَالْكَاظِمِينَ الْغَيْظَ وَالْعَافِينَ عَنِ النَّاسِ وَاللَّهُ يُحِبُّ الْمُحْسِنِينَ}...
“And those who hold back their anger and forgive (errors) others. Allah loves those who do good” (QS Ali ‘Imran:134)”
The word of the Prophet shallallahu ‘alaihi wa sallam in this hadith: “...when he was able to vent it...”, he, showing that holding back anger is commendable in Islam is when a person is able to vent his anger and he breaks it because of Allah Ta’ala, while when he is unable to vent it, he said, for example, out of fear of the person who makes him angry or because of his weakness, and other causes, then under these circumstances resisting anger is not commendable.
A believer who is accustomed to controlling his passions, can always say and act correctly in all circumstances, because his words and deeds are not influenced by his passions.
This is the meaning of a just attitude praised by Allah Ta’ala as an attitude closer to piety. Allah Ta’ala says,
...{وَلا يَجْرِمَنَّكُمْ شَنَآنُ قَوْمٍ على أَلاَّ تَعْدِلُوْا اِعْدِلُوْا هُوَ أَقْرَبُ لِلتَّقْوَى}...
“And let not your hatred of a people, encourage you to be unjust. Be fair, because the fair is closer to takwa” (QS al-Maaidah:8).
"How ? What mas Reza still does not want to Choose the angel according to the wishes of Mas Reza later" said Maryam with a smile
Hearing Maryam's words, Reza immediately narrowed her forehead and stared intensely at Maryam.
"Ohya? " Say Reza
"Didn't I get that angel now, so why do I still have to be patient to choose another angel ?" Reza said in a relaxed tone .
Hearing Reza's words, Maryam immediately went into shock, Sedagkal was the thought of the man who had married her.
"What?? Oh my God, forget it !!" Said Maryam irritated by Reza's attitude
"The words I gave Tausiah, he just reacted flatly, Patience Maryam patiently, Despite this, this is the best soul mate God sends" murmured Maryam in heart
Seeing the anger of Maryam and her tone Impressed Gasps, Reza was amused and Laughs out loud.
"Alright, Okay ... Maybe next time I'll learn patience" Reza said later
"Are you satisfied with Maryam Albatul Rahma?" Reza said again.
"Emm.." answered Maryam casually.
***
After going through a winding journey, a few moments later Reza's car entered the yard of Abi Hanif's house.
Hurry up and both get out and into the house. Without any conversation between the two.
Instantly Reza threw his body weight on the living room sofa, then closed his eyes.
Maryam who realized this, let Reza rest and leave him to immediately perform Dzuhur prayer.
After finishing the prayer Dzuhur Maryam rushed to the kitchen to prepare Lunch for Reza.
Before heading to the kitchen Maryam saw Reza's condition. Maryam heard the fine snoring from Reza.
Then Maryam passed to take the medicine box and Treat the Wound on Reza's hand.
Maryam wanted to do it when Reza was asleep, because it would make Maryam free to treat it without any awkwardness or fear.
Maryam did so with great care and tenderness, until Reza was not the least bit bothered by Maryam's actions or the same as waking from her sleep.
After finishing everything, Maryam rushed to clean up her medicine box and put it back in.
Maryam soon passed into the kitchen. After saving his medicine box.
"Bi .. What vegetable shopping today ?" Maryam asked the son of Minah who had been in the kitchen first
"This Ning was BI Minah buying Chicken, Mushroom and Some Vegetables" Bi Minah said
"Is Seafood not good?" Ask Mary again.
"Today who sells vegetables Ndak bring Seafood Ning" replied bi Minah politely.
"Ohh yes no papa, Bi Minah rest alone must be tired all day cleaning"
"Let Maryam herself prepare lunch, and All Maryam want to cook a lot for later in the afternoon Maryam Bring to the hospital" said Maryam later
"But Ning I help ya" said Bi Minah felt bad with her employer.
"No Papa BI, "Answer Maryam briefly with a wry smile on her lips
"Alright then Auntie excuse me Ning " Said Bi Minah as she passed from Before Maryam and was greeted with a smile by Maryam.
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