King Mafia And His Angel
Die aging together
For a moment Anta was silent, she stared into Enardo's eyeballs.
"When there are things that block ask, so that no more misunderstandings occur between us hmm"
"It used to happen because we shut down communications"
"In a relationship, misunderstandings or arguments with a partner become common. Whether it is due to differences of opinion, jealousy, lack of communication or even misperception"
"But his mistake Some people choose to do silent treatment so that the quarrel does not continue. However, this method can also make relationships become tenuous and separated"
"Just like us in the past, we'd rather have silent treatment than talk about reality"
"Silent treatment is an attitude in which we silence or ignore each other by refusing to talk. This usually happens when we feel angry, frustrated, or too overwhelmed in the face of a problem.
"For for us Sometimes silence is the best choice so that we do not say things that will be regretted later. Yet one of the keys to a good relationship is openness, where we can express what we think or feel.
"And we forget that silent treatment is different from delaying speech. When delaying the conversation, we only need a while to calm down and will discuss the problems that exist if it is calm. While silent treatment, refuse to discuss the problems that exist both now and later"
Enardo spoke while gently stroking Anta's face, the man thought this was the right time to discuss this, he knew Anta the type of person who would rather be silent than talk, he said, therefore he is afraid that events in the past will again damage their relationship.
"Because there is no conversation, there is also no opportunity for us and our partners to understand each other or compromise in solving the problem. This problem that is allowed to continue to drag on can “ gnaw on” the relationship, and over time cause separation."
"We know, baby? Silent treatment can also be a form of emotional abuse. Some people use it as a tool to control someone or create emotional distance. It is also used to avoid responsibility or admit mistakes that have been made"
"I'll give you a description of the People who use silent treatment as a control in relationships will do the following"
being cold for days or weeks
- Refusing to talk, making eye contact, answering calls, or replying to messages from a partner
- Doing silent treatment when something is not in accordance with his wishes
- Punishing a partner with silent treatment when he makes us upset
pressuring your partner to apologize or give up so you can talk to them again
keep ignoring your partner until he humbles himself and begs you
using anger and hostility to keep a partner quiet
making silent treatment the primary way to deal with conflict
"People who do this silent treatment will feel strong and have full control. Meanwhile, people who accept it feel confused and afraid of the relationship ending. Furthermore, communication will be focused on making us return to ordinary, not to solve problems"
"If this happens repeatedly, it can create a toxic and abusive relationship."
"You know, honey? Research shows that being ignored can make a partner feel worthless, unloved, hurt, confused, insignificant, and reduce a sense of belonging. It can also contribute to depression and anxiety."
"While, other studies state that couples who engage in this pattern feel more dissatisfied with their relationship, have less intimacy, and worse communication. Relationships that involve this pattern of behavior are also more filled with anxiety and tend to hurt"
Said Enardo slowly, giving an explanation and understanding in a way that is so soft that Anta can understand.
"I want to be when there is a burden, a strangeness in our relationship, an unsubstantiated suspicion, a mishearing of the news,we talk about it with a clear chat using a cool head at the right time to make our relationship continue to be harmonious until old age hmm?"
Said Enardo while tightly grasping Anta's palm.
"Let's pass the time together both joy and sorrow, age together and not let go of each other's hands with each other?"
Enardo stared into Anta's eyeballs, bicra with earnestness and hoping they would stay together until death separated.
Anta's tears immediately spilled, he nodded his head slowly.
"Let's get through it all together and spend until death do us part"
Said Anta in a slightly raucous voice.