The Charm of The Twins
55 Family Conversations

The night after almost half-nine. Ammar knocked on the door of his parents. He thinks if he is the one who will live the story of his hand home later. But the ridho of the parents is also important for her in stepping into the mahligai marriage. Not to mention the turmoil of his heart that he considered only his mother was the best place to vent for his heart anxiety.

After knocking on Ayra's room door. The door opened and Ayra saw Ammar standing in front of her room.

"Ma... Sorry to interrupt Mama's break. Ammar can talk and have Mama and Papa's time?" Ask Ammar.

Bram who had been standing behind Ayra also slightly objected.

"Can't it be postponed tomorrow? you just got home. And your mother is also not well today." Bram.

"Ayra was not well this morning. Since Ammar came home. Ayra's feeling better." Ayra turned towards Bram. She looked at her husband with a sad face hoping that he would give his baby time.

Bram held his wife's shoulder.

"alright.. Just here." Bram.

Ayra opened the door to her room.

Ammar sat on the sofa right next to the big window. He sat down without leaning. Ayra saw the habit of her son who would lean if sitting relaxed, she chose to sit next to the child.

"Your wounds are still not healed?" Tanya Ayra rubbed her son's back.

Ammar smiled and replied that he was fine. He also expressed his heart's anxiety. But he did not tell of yesterday's captivity. He did not want to make both his parents .

Ayra and Bram listen carefully to the child's heart.

"Papa did not expect, Papa and Mama are no longer young. One by one you are all grown up and it is time for you to get married. If Papa agrees, why not find out if she's interested in you? if it is 'yes'. We're gonna apply for him. For Papa, it will be difficult for you in the future to move to another heart, before you know that the taste in your heart is clapping one hand." Bram.

"If Mama?" Ammar asked as he looked towards Ayra.

Ayra was seen rubbing the back of her left hand which she placed on her stomach.

"Your intentions, son. Your intentions are more important. Now before entering Arumi do not veil or veil. Mama asked you son. If there are women who are beautiful and do not wear the hijab. And you're looking at her is it haram?" Ask Ayra.

"Haram Ma's. Because it's not mahram. And that's what makes Ammar want to propose immediately. The incident of him not wearing a hijab yesterday made Ammar doubt." Ammar.

"good. Then if there are beautiful women and also use hijab. You also looked at him, is it haram?" Ayra asked the child.

"Yes haram is also Ma if not mahram." Reply Ammar.

Ayra pulled the corner of her lips. He did not expect that the child was an adult and would marry. I think she just had a wonderful day with her husband. Now he will have a son-in-law again.

"Now Mama asked. Arumi who are you right now?" Ask Ayra.

Ayra's tone said 'right now' there is emphasis. Ammar understood his mother's intentions.

"Ammar is not the mahram. And neither will anyone take sin from Arumi because he did not cover up Ma's letter." Ammar said.

"Religion is not to feel too much that we are the holiest, the best. Too sure we are the inhabitants of God's paradise. When Ammar questioned the law of hijab from the point of view of men. Then not the hijab son haram or not but more to you men can not keep your eyes. Even sexy crossroads if you do not look at it will not be haram for you. For women, there is an obligation. However

..." Ayra said while embracing her downcast son.

"Mama knows you want Sholehah's wife. But when determining the prospective wife return to the intention.Because the intention was the foundation of the person in building the household." Ayra said encouragingly to her son.

Bram responded.

"For your current position, perhaps female possessions and descendants are not an option. Papa can hear from your story. That you chose her because she was veiled and beautiful. Beratti of the 4 criteria for choosing your wife choose the two earlier and now live one. Now papa asked. The current age of Papa see hijab is no longer considered an obligation for some women but more to fashion. This is Papa loh Ma's point of view... " Say Bram who saw his wife raise both eyebrows.

"I mean Papa?" Tanya Ayra disagreed with her husband's statement.

"Please tell Umm Ammar." Bram said with a little laugh because he could see clearly when discussions like this the wife's face could be easily changed because it was deliberately on the fishing line by Bram.

"So this is how it is, baby. In the past, the Prophet's age of women can be seen from his clothes, which shows he is easy to invite in quotes" said Bram raised both middle fingers and his thumb gave a code of quotes.

He also resumed his opinion.

"If our son is just glued to the hijab is not the morality yes bother. What if Arumi wears a hijab but her morals aren't good?" Bram asked as he looked at Ammar and raised his eyebrows.

"Actually if Arumi could be more of an ideal woman in Ammar's eyes if she was veiled and well-natured Pa." Said Ammar who he knew the Papa waiting for his answer.

Ayra also explained that women who are veiled ideally if combined between the hijab with heart or behavior that is also taught in accordance with Islamic religious law.

“Back to your intention to get married. If likened. Woman is water, man is water. If the water is dirty. No matter how good the water was, it was meaningless if the container was dirty. Because the water will get dirty. Likewise If the container is clean dirty water. The water was also not to be enjoyed because it mixed with a dirty container. It would be nice if the water is dirty. Flute first to be clean or clear. If the container is dirty then wash the container first."

"So? Ammar has to wait for Arumi to be veiled first?"Ammar asked as he looked at his parents in turn.

"It is you who should be asked. If Arumi is veiled or not, can this Mama's child guide her? A household that mawadah warahmah also can not only focus on the context of the wife of Sholehah only. Because there is still the role of a sholeh husband who must also collaborate for the purpose of marriage earlier." Ayra again expressed her opinion.

Bram is approaching Ammar. He also took his son from the right side. Now Ayra's eldest is flanked by his parents.

"Why isn't it ist istacharah, son?" Bram asked the boy.

Ammar was still down in shame to consider himself better and holier than Arumi. Though he was the first one could not keep his eyes up to enjoy the beauty that he did not yet enjoy.

"Didn't my mom ever say. In Islam we are taught two approaches to dealing with every problem. The first is deliberation and the second is is istikharah. Although both are important. Ammar prefers the first. Ammar is self-aware, the quality of Ammar's worship. The quality of Ammar's still-dirty heart."

Ayra smile. He was happy because although his son was often a lot of demeaning because the appearance and style of speaking was also dressed impressed like not the baby Ayra. But Ayra never humbled her son, upset with Ammar. Because Ayra realized, there was little hatred, disappointed in her heart as the mother of Ammar it would make her own child become closed in heart. It is difficult for the child to reach his goals.

So Ayra always set her heart so that how difficult it is to care for and educate Ammar who is slightly different from the other two children.Hatiya really he keep it so that always will be ridho Ammar. And now he saw that he was beginning to harvest. His eldest was even very wise to make a decision. His eldest still makes himself a place of deliberation to choose a life partner. Where today many children do not involve at all parents in finding a mate with the reason they will undergo. Even though later when married will continue to intersect.

"Mama so remember Abi. Mbah Kung was once bawuh for those of us who do not have the skills in beristikharah, do not carefully read the sign, or indeed the crisis of spiritual and intellectual provision, or indeed, so the best step he must take is to consult with people who have the capability in the problems we face." Said Ayra while leaning her head on the shoulders of the eldest.

"Actually, the deliberation and Istikharah are the same.What distinguishes a person who is being beristikharah is being deliberated with God. Meanwhile, people who have deliberation are people who are looking for the best way (istharah) with the people he believes." Bram.

Ammar turned to Bram with one hand holding his mother's hand.

"Papa, Ammar asked Papa and Mama to propose to Arumi. Whatever the answer is, Ammar God willing will accept it. At least Ammar can try to forget Arumi if he rejects Ammar's proposal." Ammar said.

"Don't you wait for Ibrahim to see you, son?" Bram asked Ammar.

To be continued