Teach Me to Know Islam
Explanation
After praying, Ahmad came home while Fizzah was teaching in his room.
"Assalamualaikum sayank" said ahmad
"Walaikumsalam mas" answered fizzah while kissing her husband's hand
"Mas wants to say say sayank" said Ahmad while sitting next to his wife
"Yes, what's "the fizzas answer
Eventually he told his wife everything and would take Fizzah to the pesantren where his father-in-law taught.
"Thank you, it's obvious that everything is not misunderstood anymore" said Fizzah hugging her husband
"Hehehe yes sayank, Thank you for believing the same mas" said Ahmad while kissing his wife's forehead
"You know not sayank adab-civilized household" continued ahmad
"You are mas, this fizzera is not aware of mas by telling fizzas to finally understand and be able to extract his wisdom" replied fizzah with a smile
"Don't bosen-bosen ya hearin mas ngoceh hehehe" said ahmad relaxed
"Well, fizzas are happy to finally know" replied fizzah
"This is sayank there are some points that you should love to know" said Ahmad while explaining the length x width.
Husband and wife are two people who bind each other. There are rights and obligations to them including those relating to adab. Imam Al-Ghazali in his book entitled Al-Adab fid Din in Majmu'ah Rasail al-Imam al-Ghazali (Cairo, Al-Maktabah At-Taufiqiyyah, page 442) describes the presence of a husband against a wife.
آداب الرجل مع زوجته: حسن العشرة، ولطافة الكلمة، وإظهار المودة، والبسط في الخلوة، والتغافل عن الزلة وإقالة العثرة، وصيانة عرضها، وقلة مجادلتها، وبذل المؤونة بلا بخل لها، وإكرام أهلها، ودوام الوعد الجميل، وشدة الغيرة عليها
Meaning: Adab husband to Wife, namely: interact well, speak soft words, show love, be airy when alone, not too often question mistakes, forgive if the wife does wrong, and be free, maintaining the wife's property, not much debate, spending money on the needs of the wife in an unconstitutional manner, glorifying the wife's family, always giving good promises, and always eager for the wife.
First, get along well. A husband should interact well with his wife. A husband is a protector to his wife. It is not appropriate that he took distance from his wife because he felt he had a higher position in the family.
Third, show love. A husband should always show his love and affection for his wife. In an angry atmosphere, a husband is still required to show love and affection to the wife.
Fourth, be airy when alone. A husband should still have independence so that if at any time must be alone at home, for example because there is a need outside the house that can not be avoided, for example, he can serve himself well without many complaints. Especially blaming the wife.
Fifth, do not question the faults of the wife. Anyone can be wrong even though they may have tried to be careful. If a wife does something wrong, a husband should be able to advise her wisely. Of course, not every mistake must be seriously questioned and protracted because this can worsen the relationship.
Sixth, forgive if the wife does something wrong. In Islam forgiveness is highly recommended. Therefore a husband, asked or not, should be able to forgive the fault of the wife. Forgiveness is a very commendable moral attitude and shows a great soul.
Seventh, guard the wife's treasure. Wife's property such as dowry from the husband or the results of his own work is the property of the wife. Therefore a husband should keep the property well and not claim it as his own. If he intends to use part or all of the property, then he must ask permission from his wife to get approval.
Eighth, not much to argue. Debate is not always good. Therefore, a husband should be able to appreciate the opinion of the wife even though he may not agree. Of course this applies to problems that are indeed lacking in principle.
Ninth, it costs money to meet the needs of the wife in an unconstitutional manner. A Javanese parish reads: Lombok ijo lombok jeprit, karo bojo ojo medhit. That is, husband and wife do not be stingy with each other because this will have a bad impact on family harmony. Husbands and wives should be loose with each other to help each other.
Tenth, glorify the wife's family. Inherently a wife generally has a very strong emotional connection with her family. And vice versa. Therefore a husband should be kind to his wife's family with respect for them. The opposite will hurt the wife's feelings.
Eleventh, always make good promises. Promising something good to the wife is good especially in order to encourage good habits in the family. Conversely, very often giving threats is certainly not wise because it will cause fears that have an adverse impact.
Twelve, always eager towards the wife. The excitement of living in a household must always be treated well. Therefore, a husband should show his spirit in interacting with his wife including in fulfilling his birth and inner life. Thus the twelve were husbands to wives as advised by Imam Al-Ghazali. This advice also dismissed the notion that a husband can do as he pleases to his wife. Of course this is not true at all because Islam strongly emphasizes a fair attitude. Let alone to the wife we love, to other parties that we may not like, we are still required to be fair.
"Ohw so yes mas fizzah just know hehehe" said fizzah who was still listening to the explanation of her husband.
"Yes sayank now know hehehe, sorry yes mas science is still lacking just to tell a little" said ahmad
"Hehehe mas thank you well do not get bored, often fizzah reprimand, if fizzah makes a mistake" said fizzah
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