Teach Me to Know Islam
LEGITIMATE....... LEGITIMATE.....
The anticipated day by fizzas and ahmad has now arrived, the Islamic center balikpapan mosque is so crowded attended by relatives of fizzah and ahmad, it appears,there was also his mother fizzah and his uncle who was going to marry fizzah, because fizzah's father was dead...
Before doing kabul ijab, Pak kyai gave a little advice to both brides.
Marriage is a great covenant, a great responsibility for a man, in which he takes a woman from both her parents to live, with him in an ark called the household which he led.
The wife is a mandate for the husband, and the best husband is the most affectionate towards his wife. Because the husband will be (leader) for women should have a function:
This leader (qowwam) must fulfill 3 functions, namely:
1.Directing wife.
2.Affecting his wife.
3.Protecting wife.
A marriage that is a worship is strongly tempted by the devil to make the household shipwreck. Therefore, it is very important for a husband to understand the character of women. Because the woman was not made of steel that could melt, nor of stone that could be broken into pieces as gravel, but of the most bent ribs, which if changed will be broken, but if not changed will remain crooked, therefore the Prophet shallallahu ‘alaihi wasallam did not tell men to change it.
But He shallallahu ‘alaihi wasallam said: “Bag those women..! Slow down and soft down on women!”. So that after understanding his character, then treat him with ma’ruf, with the best, as the word of God:
“O you who believe, it is not lawful for you to harm women by force and do not trouble them for taking back some of what you have given them, except when they do a real heinous job. And get along with them properly. Then if you do not like them, (then be patient) because maybe you do not like something, whereas Allah made him a lot of good,” (QS. An-lisaa (4):19).
When a husband finds something he does not like in a wife, he must be patient, and think carefully about the word of God, that it may be in the ugliness of our wives that there are many other virtues.
Do not let the bad morals of the husband convey the wife in a situation where he is very sorry and said: “If I do not marry him”.
But a supposition will only open the door of Shaithan. Women's habits include:
Jealousy, good to the mother of the husband, brother/sister of the husband, other women, etc.
Feelings, his feelings exceed his wits so that sometimes irritable.
Like Jewelry.
The wife needs praise or flattery from the husband. Respect his opinion, do not be selfish.
5 .Take the time to play around with the wife, the husband decorated or preening for the wife.
Giving wife a gift.
Main pull. Be patient, don't rush!
After the wife has fulfilled her duties, fulfill her rights, for otherwise she will seek her rights elsewhere. The wife is like a container that will dry out, if not constantly filled with water. Because, if he was drought, he would look elsewhere that could wipe out his thirst. He will find another place to confide in besides the husband. The Word of God:
“O you who believe, among your wives and children there is an enemy for you, so beware of them, and if you forgive and do not scold and forgive (them) then surely Allah is Oft-Forgiving, Most Merciful.” (QS. Brendan (64):14).
It is advice for the husband, if there is a problem with the wife, then:
Forgive him (not sanction any wrongdoing)
Forget and open a new sheet;
4.A woman marries for happiness, peace, tranquility, not just biological needs, not just money.
Life is very short, do not let in the afterlife come with the condition of the ribs that fall. Will for husband and wife:
“Be the best human being! Where the best man is the best to his wife and family.”
Will for wife:
“Be the best woman! Which when viewed as pleasant and when left to guard the honor and property of the husband. Husband is our Heaven and Hell.”
The criteria of a good man to choose - according to the Prophet Shallallahu ‘alaihi wasallam - to be a husband are twofold: His religion and his Akhlaqnya. Not just wrong
one, but it must be both, said Mr. Kyai.
After giving a small tausiyah fizzah was asked to apply for permission to be married with ahmad.
"For the bride please ask for blessing to her parents or her uncle to be handed over to me" said pak penghulu.
Hafizzah followed the words of the ruler and asked permission and asked his uncle's blessing to perform kabul ijab.
Penghulu is ready to do kabul ijab...
"Is the son of ahmad ready" penghulu said.
" God willing I am ready sir "saying ahmad tense
Although this is the second time he still feels nervous.
“Ankahtuka wazawwajtuka makhtubataka binti (Hafizzah binti umar) alal mahri(majmueat min 'adwat alsala & 88 jaram dhahab)" said penghulu.
“Qabiltu nikahaha wa tazwijaha (Hafizzah binti umar)alal mahril madzkur wa radhiitu bihi, wallahu waliyu taufiq.”ucap ahmad with one attraction.
"How are the witnesses" said the pengulu
"SAH.
Alhamdullilah said the guests, continued fizzah and ahmad begging for the blessing of his parents.
Completed doing kabul ijab and signed a marriage license fizzah and others did a photo together.
Photos of fizzas and ahmad finishes doing marriage contracts look graceful, and radiant.
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Elsewhere on the same day, Mira and ibra also performed a kabul ijab at the mosque of the Islamic center samarinda, unlike the fizzah and ahmad who attended the extended family behind the parties at the ijab kabul mira and ibra events, only in attendance by the family of the mother and adoptive parents of the mira, just like mira was married to the ruler....
Penghulu is ready to do kabul ijab...
"Is mas ibra ready" said penghulu.
" God willing I am ready sir "say ibra
“I marry you, and I marry you with your betrothed that has been passed to me named (Mahira shahira) with dowry (Set of prayer tools and 80 grams of gold) paid in cash.”
“I received his marriage and marriage (Mahira shahira) with a dowry (a set of prayer tools and 80 grams of gold) that has been mentioned, and I am willing with it. said ibra once attraction
"Where are the witnesses" said pak penghulu
"WELL... "
"Alhamdullilah"
Then ibra and mira exchanged rings and asked their parents for blessings...
The good looks of ibra and the beauty of mira is very undeniable especially this first time.