For the Sake of Heart
Jafar's Wedding

After a long moment of contemplation the two lovebirds looked at each other deeply. Read each other's minds. What will be chosen to separate or continue.

"Jafar, make sure your mother accepts me first, then I can answer how we want next," said Tahira lirih. It is impossible to have a relationship without blessing.

Jafar looked into Tahira's eyes deeply. "Trust me, I can now see you because it is permissible to continue our relationship" Jafar told his girlfriend. Hope Tahira answers the question immediately.

"It's not that easy, there's more you have to convince. My mother. If my mother rejects you then I can't continue our relationship" Tahira replied. Because there was no way he would argue with his mother. Who has been struggling to pay for his school until now. His mother hoped Tahira had a good job. It is very difficult for women in strict customary environments to be able to work outside.

What else after marriage. Not necessarily his in-laws accepted it. And if later the father-in-law told me to stop working how?.

"Well, I'll convince your mother, too," and I hope she accepts me. Reply Jafar sure.

"We'll see."

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Tahira is shocked to learn that Jafar tried to end his life. To maintain their relationship. Tahira's friend who told him that Jafar was hospitalized for attempting suicide.

Jafar's mother has resigned to her son's decision. If it is not in blessing then he is afraid his son will be reckless for the second time. And of course everyone would blame him.

"Ami ji, please allow me to marry Tahira" Jafar told her mother.

"Well, as long as you are happy" his mother resigned for the sake of the only son.

"Tomorrow we'll go see the Tahira family, I hope you'll have a good talk. Please don't find a reason to cancel our marriage."

"Ok, is there more? Ask mother.

"It's not enough" replied Jafar.

A week later the Jafar family met the Tahiras. Both sides agreed to marry their children.

Until the day that awaited the two lovebirds married on the basis of liking.

Big parties with all kinds of custom networks. Plus the invitations. In the splashy by drum beats typical of Pakistani customary marriage.

All the invitations were enjoying the banquet that the host had prepared. Hope all like and certainly not forget the envelope.

Here the invite will be invited and vice versa. If if you are invited and then given an ampolop well then their turn to invite back you have to pay as much as the envelope that was the day they gave.

If not, they will definitely fight. Ask for what they pay. The average Pakistani Muslim. But in the pratek life is still thick shades of hindu. Indian influence. Because Pakistan was a fragment of India.

Like India, Pakistani marriage is no different. Same as bringing jehez to the bride. If the woman hadn't been given a jehez it would have been embarrassing. What else if the jehez is a little.

The more jeheznya the better the treatment of the husband's family. It can be imagined that after marriage gives birth to a daughter, sometimes the family of her husband even has the heart to ask his son to marry again or divorce.

Having a daughter will cost them. Many parents even save from the baby to jehez his son later.

"Where's jehez the bride? Ask invitation.

"For a while not yet brought," replied the aunt from the woman's side.

"Loh why? Didn't they have a party?"

"Well they will not live here either" the bride's aunt argued.

"Why is that?"

"Hey why are you talking about jehez? What's your business? What is their relationship with you?", when Bisma adek Jafar arrives. And don't like anyone interfering in his family's affairs.

Tahira did not bring Jehez to his father-in-law's house. Because Tahira did intend to split the house with his in-laws.

This is what will always make Tahira and Jafar fight continuously.

"Let's go all out, let the bride in her room and rest first," arrived the bride's aunt told them to come out of the bridal room. Everyone came out in a hurry.

"Think of coming in" said the tantenya.

"Please hold this and pick up the dress" said another.

"This is who threw away this flower, it's all been forbidden not to come here. Look at all the messy quick clean up," ordered the tantenya.

"Good aunt," replied Bisma.

That night can be said to be a happy night as well as the beginning of suffering for Tahira. It turns out that her marriage did not go well either. Her in-laws often pitted the sheep between the son and daughter-in-law.

"Oh...suda achieved all your wishes? Now fulfill my wish. Don't forget to ask Jehez to your parents" said his father-in-law.

"Pregnant... Why talk like that? We just got married, but Ami still hates" replied Jafar.

"Have you forgotten Jafar? Doesn't your wife have to take Jehez? And you will also follow all your wife's wishes?", ami after marriage we will move to another city. Because Tahira got a job there. That's why Jehez wasn't brought here."

"I don't want to know, anyway your wife should bring Jehez here. Now the house is here" replied his mother again.

"Well, Ami."

After that, his mother went out. Indeed, in his heart the middle-aged woman was still upset with her child's marriage. For some reason, even though Tahira got a job, his parents-in-law still troubled Tahira in Jehez's problems.

"Dear forgive my mother's attitude, well, don't put it to heart," Jafar tried to calm the feelings of the woman he loved. Who was just a matter of hours to be his wife.

"It's okay, I can take it, I should have brought Jehez here. But I'm planning on living there. It will be hard to bring here. We need to be there, too. Because I work there" Tahira replied.

"Well, I will try to give understanding to my mother" said Jafar.

"Now we are married, with great difficulty may we understand each other," Tahira said.

Because Tahira understands their customs. It is difficult going forward that Tahira does not approve of her mother-in-law's wishes.

Morning Tahira was awake."Take a look at the newlyweds" said Bisma. Bhishma did not change her mother's attitude.

"Good morning everyone," Tahira was stale even though she knew everyone didn't like her either.

"Morning as well" they answered in unison.

"Sorry, where's the bathroom? Tahira asked while looking left and right.

"Thank you Buk" Tahira nodded politely.

The house is old style. The bathroom is far from the room. When it comes to night kebelet piss is quite troublesome too. What else winter.

Tahira took off his shirt. And brrrr doused his body with cold water. It is still a normal season. Still able to shower with tank water. Two more months will not be able, because it has begun winter.

Quickly he took a shower because he remembered Jafar had not yet woken up. Tahira feels alien here. What else is the cold response of her husband's family.

Just opening the door to get out, it turns out there is a bisma outside already waiting. "Why so long? People will also use the bathroom," ketus Bisma does not like.

"Please, I'm done," Tahira replied flatly.

"Other times if you want to use the bathroom, get out quickly. This isn't everyone's private space either."

Geez not a week here has been treated badly by his brother-in-law. Take it easy Tahira said in his heart, I will not be here long either.

Slowly open the room door. She saw her husband still sleeping. Slowly she held her husband's cheek. And...

"Mmmmmm....Jafar squirms spoiled."

"Jafaro..... Wake up, "Tahira tries to wake Jafar.

"Mmmhhhh," again Jafar wriggled lazily.

"Yes your mother will come to this room are you not ashamed?", Tahira said.

Tok......

Tok tok....

Twice the door is knocked from the outside. It turns out Tahira was right, Jafar's mother came.

"Yes Ma'am," Tahira opened the door.

Her cynical gaze made Tahira uncomfortable. "Why hasn't Jafar woken up? Why don't you wake up? Don't assume I've accepted you as a son-in-law, then you can do as you please."

It was clear that Tahira's heart had heard his father-in-law's words."I woke up earlier, and he was hard to get up" Tahira replied in self-defense.

Arrived the door on the maid knock. Tok.. "I'm sorry my mistress delivered breakfast" said the maid from outside.

"Come in! Tarok breakfast at the table," Tahira replied to the maid.Tahira was still stiff with the presence of her in-laws. Suddenly, his father-in-law began to speak.

"When are you going to bring your stuff here? What's your excuse now?", asked her in-laws in tubes. Because his father-in-law still can not accept it wholeheartedly. Even this second. Keep showing a hostile face.

"Jafar and I have agreed that after marriage we will not stay here. Because I have been accepted to work in a public hospital. So I had to live near my workplace" Tahira told her in-laws.

"Can't be so, work or not you still have to bring jehez here, period! There's no more excuses, and I don't want to hear either, papam?", snapped her in-laws.

Passing out of the room. And nagging continues outside. Until the others were surprised and asked what was it?.

"Our situation is clear, the shoulders come with Jehez. But our shoulders have our own choice, deliberately not to bring Jehez here. What people say. Why does Jafar have a wife who brings nothing?", upset Tahira's in-laws. The Urdu word for shoulder means son-in-law. The female in-laws are called shasuma.

"What's wrong? Morning is stormy?", asked husband kalla. Saw his wife nagging in the morning. And feel bad when people hear. Because there are still relatives who have not returned home. Because their house is far away and they have to stay

"How not to be upset with your son's wife! Just becoming a member of our family has made its own rules. Don't mind if I've allowed it, Jafar my son married him and then he can make his own rules.

"It's my wife, give them time to explain, later they will also say," said her husband. But again kalla Furqan can not accept.

Well.this custom don't be ashamed. Breaking the rules can be fatal. No matter what the problem is, custom remains customary. A married woman should bring the household to her in-laws' house.

Don't take it as trivial. It'll be a fire in the husk. Going forward will be a problem. Better to obey.

"Jafar! Wake up, don't you want to know your mother in the morning asked Jehez, "Tahira tried to wake Jafar up.

"Mmmhhhhh aaaaaahhh," yes I heard earlier. Answer Jafar casually. Because there is no point in serving his mother in the morning. That's why he pretended to be sleeping.

"You're how the hell? Your mother made a noise in the morning and you just relaxed, "sad Tahira. Seeing the attitude of Jafar Tahira increasingly upset.

"Trus what else do I make? We will talk good later. Believe me everything will be fine," while holding tightly his wife's hand.

"I have a hard time dealing with your mother's attitude, it seems like she will never accept me. But I could not follow his wishes. You are the one who gives understanding."

"Alright my wife, do not worry believe that everything will be fine, do not be too thoughtful" said Jafar.

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Both lovebirds can be said to enjoy their love story. Even if his father-in-law could not accept his son's decision. In addition to his daughter-in-law's desire to stay away from in-laws.

After the honeymoon period. Jafar is back in charge. This time he left earlier than his wife. His wife got a call of duty a week later.

And for a week without Jafar the treatment of in-laws and in-laws was really disrespectful.

"Ami ji, I'm going to go to work out of town. Please don't make Tahira difficult" Jafar said before leaving. Ami ji means mother. Usually in calls such as: ami ji, abu ji.

"Why am I troubling him? Is it not wrong? Don't follow her will" replied her mother.

"Why did the morning start again? You should have realized each other's faults instead of getting worse" Jafar's father said. Indeed Jafar's father had no problem with the decision of his son-in-law. Because it's important for him that his son is happy.

Different from his wife. However custom remains customary. Which is not broken. Actually not custom either. If for example his son-in-law brought jehez, of course they can wear too.

This is actually Jehez's reason. Sometimes there are greedy families. Once in love Jehez keep asking again. The more burdensome the bride.

Especially if there is gold. After the gold is given to the daughter-in-law, then asked again with the reasons made.

"Think if you go to work later, this gold is not brought," said the woman-in-law.

"Why ami?", asked Tahira in surprise.

"Later lost let me keep it," replied his father-in-law again.

"See not to go yet" elak Tahira. Because he really understands the direction of his in-laws' purpose. But Tahira was determined, this gold he would sell to buy land for the house.