Move Journey
Become a Teenager
This Friday afternoon I closed my restaurant early and invited my employees to come to a study that was located quite close to the store. My employees consist of 2 boys and 2 girls who are teenagers and I want them to regularly follow the study at least one Week once. So, I choose Friday’at because that day I also specialize they enter the work only cooking to be distributed during the day after Friday prayers’at in the Mosque or in the streets. I want to get used to applying a good habit to myself, my cousin and the people I work with.
“This later for the Brotherhood yes, continue this one for Akhwat ya Kak. Divided as usual after the study ya” said I to Kak Naura and Kak Hafidz.
I went to the mosque after the Ashar prayer because the recitation will start at 4 pm and will be completed at 7 pm right before the Adhan Isya' in the palace. Usually I would pray there and then go home.
Arriving at the mosque, the consumption of food that had been brought was then given to the caretaker of the mosque who will also help us to share the food.
“Hatur Nuhun ya Neng Haura, may Rezekinya blessing ya” said Pak Haji Alfa who also just came. He was not the mosque's marbot, but the head of the mosque's DKM who was also familiar with his father Kaila, so I knew him quite well.
“Iya Pak Haji's. Aamiin”kataku's chat. While entering he also spoke if maybe today the study will be more crowded than usual because this time the upcoming ustadz is quite familiar ustadz and since noon there are many jama’ah who ask to confirm ustadz who will be filling out the study today.
“Oh today Ustadz Husein sir, Very much for sure.” I said. Because Ustadz Husein is Ustadz who is known for his typical da'wah about the idealist teenagers and about marriage. So, yes definitely a lot of teenagers who come to study this time.
“Ya. Mr. into the first yes Neng” said Mr. Haji Alfa and I nodded.
“Kak Naura knows that today Ustadz Husein is coming?” I asked Brother Naura who was next to me.
“Know Kok. Do you not know?” Said Brother Naura.
“Iya mba, do you want to see first on her Instagram?” Bila said, he is also still my employee. But he's younger than me. He just graduated High School last year and is currently no fee to continue his studies. As for Brother Naura, she is 5 years different from me. He has a pretty good cooking ability. He worked in my shop because he was a Factory employee who was exposed to PHK and no longer interested in working in the Factory.
“Iya anyway I have not seen, because it has not been able to open Instagram”Kataku.
Shortly after I sat down, the study began. The theme this time is quite piercing my heart about “The courtship is forbidden, Dek!”
As usual, the study begins by reading the verse of the Qur’an led by a Brotherhood who is usually in exile every Sunday. I heard a familiar voice in my ear. Someone's very subtle voice even sounded a typical 'sharp' rhythm. In my heart I mention someone's name. But then I denied again. “This is so far from home. Where could he be here”
I'm sitting here, with the people I work with, not without purpose. Because, I think we have enough to get the pleasure of a lot of sustenance but the science is still lacking. I always talk to my employees if teaching is not troublesome, I set aside one day a week for them to come to study and study, fix charity and reorganize the behavior that was originally damaged.
I want to bring someone into a good. At first it was difficult to invite someone who is unusual to come to study but was forced to routinely come to the study every Sunday. In fact, Kaila always talks “If we open a store on Friday’at is quite sis. Because tomorrow is weekend” but I always talk that sustenance can be found again tomorrow. At first he also had a lazy time to participate in the study, but now he was happy and never absent to participate in the study. “We as teenagers, don't keep chasing the world. Because, God prefers very much the same teenagers who pursue heaven.” I said to Kaila on the days when she was lazy.
“Many gini stories. Brotherhood says same Akhwat ‘You want not to be my girlfriend? If Akhwat here is asked so similarly to the Brotherhood, how would he answer? Directly without thinking yes without his mother's father immediately replied, Come want. A week of courtship playing at the night market, riding the Lala biang home eating boiled beans do not forget to buy sweet martabak for parents to be blessed. This is the Brotherhood looking for his attention. His parents also like 'Oh yes deck your girlfriend is good' good label on buy wear martabak yes. Later, a month of dating watching in the cinema while eating popcorn is the same as drinking panta ya. Go home watching you forget to stop by dinner at KPC his parents under the sweet martabak again. Keep fitting his girlfriend has come home his father came ‘Dek, you are the same as him?’ his son with a smile sumringah ‘iya very seneng daddy’ the next month is still the same. Every Sunday night when the week ends, his father is always brought sweet martabak. Until the 6th month his father said ‘Dek, dad dreaded studying. The date can not be deck.’ Keep the child quiet. Her father talks again ‘Adek broke up Adek's girlfriend ya.’ Directly, his son was shaking his head. ‘No dad. Adek many who are dating.’ And, again. Examples are his friends, his environment. A bad habit that can actually be understood because it has become a culture. Many yes, people who before marriage were dating first. If you have not been dating, buy a cat in a sack. Actually dating before marriage is necessary or not at all? Yes, obviously not necessary. Because courtship is a bond that does not exist in Islam. Islam forbids courtship before marriage. Because what? Because courtship will only bring to mudhorotan, like zina. And, God has reminded us that we must not approach Zina”
“Everyone, feeling that love is human nature. But, we need to know if dating is a channeling love is wrong. Many yes, incidents of sexual harassment, early marriage, and pregnancy outside marriage, all of which are initiated by a bond called Dating. And what's even more horrifying is that someone killed his own girlfriend just out of jealousy. Why Islam strictly forbids people to date because the bad effects can make us creepy yes, can make the future destroyed. When my mom said ‘Ya is already the deck. Don't have to date, anyway in soul mate can also match.’ Yes, if you can match it. Origin, we should know what our partner will be like”
Hearing the story of Ustadz Husein I remembered about my Junior High. Throughout the study I was made head bobbles by what was delivered by Ustadz Husein. It was as if he was telling me in the past. About a teenage boy who lied to his parents for the sake of dating a loved one. On behalf of group work for the sake of being alone with the guy, and more obeying what girlfriend wants than parents. Astagfirullah..
“The presence of rahimakumullah, who is still single-jomblo this may Allah protect from all worldly temptations and his eyes closed so that you can be envious if you see people dating. If you see people dating is exciting. But they are actually committing sins. And the reply is hell.”
“This time we pause for the preparation of Maghrib prayer, later will be resumed ba'da Maghrib. Wassalamu’alaikum warahmatulli wabarokaatuhu”
And, an obligation that certainly should not be forgotten is prayer. Thank God I can still pray on time, because if in the store sometimes I pray late and often delay prayer. What I love every time I come to study at the Mosque is that I can take a break from worldly issues and focus on studying religion. It's so quiet here, that I forgot how tired it feels. And, sometimes I think when Junior High first, I often run away from school to play because I want to feel what it's like to laugh with friends because in the study I used to feel very tense with ustadz that looks fierce, he said, even now if I meet again with Ustadz who taught me to teach at that time, I feel ashamed and want to run away. Because of how uncivilized I was then.
“Kak Haura?” I turned my head when Kaila called my name when I had just finished my ablution.
“Why?”
“So I saw her sister Nisa deh. But at first glance kayak is not also Kak”
“Which sister is Nisa? Brother Fauzan or Kafi?”
“Kak Kafi”
“Ohh, yes kali” But in my heart refuse to agree. Where could he have come from Bintaro to Menteng. I don't really know Kafi that much now, but I think twice if she came here on purpose.
After the Maghrib and Dhikr prayers together, the study that was delayed continued until the time of prayer isya arrived. This time the discussion is About Playboy syar’i.
About the One who approaches in the name of religion. He who comes brings a promise of commitment because he knows courtship is forbidden by religion.
“Youth-driving all together. The Brotherhood and akhwat, may this not be in you huh. May there be good children here whose love is now awake in the third of the night. Asikk”
“Because love is two. Can plunge into the good and bad, both if for example it starts with good and ends with good. How for example? By asking God, asking permission ta’aruf on the person entitled to him, then if seriously step your feet into the sanctuary of marriage. Instead of going out, spending a weekly night, going dark in the park, getting pregnant first, and finally being left behind. Nauzubillahi min dzalik.”
That night I heard a study full of slaps. It's like Ustadz was telling me. About the child forbidden by his parents to date, the child who legalizes a relationship in the name of shar'i, then about the one who once tried to approach me with a pretentious style that reminds me of prayer, wake up praying all kinds of nights. I'm shy. But there's a funny side to it because I thought I was stupid back then.
“Love it just has to be decided. Decide to be stopped or left behind. Can I get a girlfriend for Ustadz? Heh antum want to know if antum's wife later turned out to have been in anything with other people? Reluctant right? So, we keep ourselves from the sin of adultery and prepare ourselves to get a wife who never committed adultery too. In the Qur’an Allah has said in Surah An-Nur verses 23 to 26 later at home can be checked.”
“In verse 26 which means ‘Vile women for vile men, and vile men for vile women, good women for good men, and good men for good women . They are clean of what people accuse. They obtained forgiveness and a glorious sustenance that is Heaven’ so yes already. From now on if you want a good soul mate, then improve also the morals of yourself. Don't want a good soul mate, but he's depraved. Allah may be of mercy to each one, but self must fetch that grace as soon as possible”
Today there are so many stories from Ustadz Husein that I can take home as a lesson that maintaining self-holiness and studying is the best way to become a teenager who likes Allahs. I never imagined that if I never realized that God gave the blessing of long life so that we can fix charity and reorganize the damaged Akhlak. I never imagined that if I still hung out with the wrong people and didn't get out of the Toxic neighborhood, maybe I wasn't here right now, maybe now I am busy with worldly affairs that make me run out of time to worship, or maybe I am a person who does not like worship and is far from God.
And that night, when I came home from the mosque after the study was over I started to distribute the food I had brought from the store along with Kak Haura, Bila and Kaila. I am quite happy when I can share with others, when there is a smile that emanates from everyone who receives it, I define it as a happiness that I cannot measure, it's just that I know that they're happy.
“Thank you, Brother Haura, may his life be a blessing, his soul mate is approaching, and his heart is always happy” Said one of my level brothers on campus, his name is Sybil. He was indeed a bit noisy, so do not be surprised if anywhere and whenever he could create a crowded atmosphere with just his voice.
“Sama-sama Syb, may dinner make a good sleep ya” I told Sybil.
“Ah sister can. But thank you, yeah. I received the food, Kak”
“Iya yes same as”
“I say goodbye first yes kak” and he made the queue so long because too long waiting.
“Yes yes, carefully”
After I finished distributing the food, I cleaned up the table and all the tools I had borrowed from the mosque and put them back in place. Because this is my responsibility as the person who has used it.
“Assalamualaikum Dek Haura” while coming down the stairs I heard the voice of someone saying hello and saying my name.
“Waalaikumsallam warahmatullahi wabarokaatuhu” Say Kak Naura and Kaila simultaneously. While I was silent when I turned my head and found out who the person who said the greeting was.
“Waalaikumsallam” I said while slightly looking down. In shame.
“Barakallahu fikum yes, thanks yes food can be digested stomach.” Kafi said with a smile to Kaila and Kak Haura.
“Wa Fik barakallah kak” Kaila said spontaneously.
“Jazakallah Khairan ya Haura. May Allah be the blessed love of every good you do” said Kafi who then turned to look at me.
“Aamiin” I said with a smile.
Then he said goodbye to go first, he said.
Seriously, my heart was raging and full of questions. This why does it feel like this anyway? I why so gurgling until difficult to breath when this is outdoors and wind everywhere.
“Where is Brother Haura? It feels the same Kak Kafi?” Kaila made me even more embarrassed in front of sister Naura.
“Engga ordinary aj” said while then walking first.
I can only run away from the pursuit of questions. Because my face can't lie, and they can determine answers just by looking at my face.
That night, I didn't know if he'd be here and greet me.
But, a question again, which I always ask in my head.
“Yes Allah, when he can greet me, can he also greet other women? Oh my God, when he can look at me, can he also look at other women? Oh God, when he can smile at me, does he smile at other women too? O Allah make him a man who subdues his gaze, make him a man who does not easily greet other women who are not his mahram. Not because I like him, but because I want him to be a noble man akhlaknya”