Not Laila Majnun
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Ning nong Ning glung Ning nong Ning glung Ning nong Ning glung.., such is the music that accompanies the meeting of brides with Javanese customs. Usually using Javanese gamelan but now at the request of the family then replaced with the reading of badar solawat and accompaniment berbangangan by banjari group.

Today Laila wears Javanese custom bridal attire as well as her make up. Kebaya that accentuates the beauty of the female body makes Laila's goal body more visible. With a touch of make up like a Javanese queen, the more her beauty shines.

Likewise, the twin bearers Ani and Karina who wear kebaya and various prints look very graceful. Actually both are old enough to be mayang twins but because the teenagers in his area no one is willing then they become with a little forced to thicken their face to meet the wishes of their new sister-in-law.

Laila was joined by her father Lukman, Dirman sir and Mia's sister. They walked a few steps to bring the groom together with his soulmate. While Ani and Karina brought the Mayang twins who walked in front of them.

"Yes Prophet.. sala..m alaika.

yes rosu.l salam alaika.

yes habib sala.m alaika.

solawa.tulloh.....

The mayang twins of the groom are represented by Doni and one of their neighbors is in front of the bride. Then behind him is the main character flanked by bang Alif and RT sir walking closer to the bride who was standing quietly waiting for her arrival. There is also a retinue of groomsmen namely Laila's neighbors who accompany the groom to meet with his love.

Ani and Rina then exchanged the Mayang twins with the Mayang twin bearers from the groom's side then they mingled with the groomsmen in position behind the bride.

After Lukman got close enough to Laila then the couple took turns throwing Gantal. Gantal is made from betel leaves filled with banana flowers, betel lime, gambier and black tobacco.This symbolizes the two brides throwing affection at each other.

The two were then led to get closer. Laila then kissed her husband's hand as a sign of devotion to the husband.

Solawat chants still continue to accompany the ongoing event procession. Laila was then directed to wash the feet of Lukman's bang three times. This procession is called Wijikan or also known as ranupada. Ranu means water and on means feet.

This ritual is performed by the bride who watered the groom's feet three times. This procession reflects the form of devotion of the wife to the husband as well as the hope to eliminate obstacles to a happy household.

After that Mr. Dirman enveloped Lukman and Laila with Sindur cloth and was taken to the pelaminan. Usually it was done by the bride's father but because Laila was orphaned her father-in-law took her place.

Syndicate fabric is usually red and white is expected to provide courage for both brides to live their marriage with passion and passion with a holy heart.

Mr. Dirman took them to the pelaminan and after the two sat down he gave the two a drink with the same glass. When the process of silence there is only Mr. Dirman as a parent because Mia's brother feels it is not the place and again he is not the mahromnya bang Lukman.

The next procession was a lacquer, where Lukman poured dime and grain to Laila who filled him with rags. This is a symbol that the man will be responsible for supporting his family, and the wife's responsibility to manage it.

The cameraman continues to highlight the bride's movements and capture everything in the lens to become an unforgettable beautiful moment.

Lukman then feeds Laila and instead Laila also feeds Lukman from the same plate and spoon. The meaning of this procession is that husband and wife will together wade through the household ark by feeling the joy and sorrow together.

All the audience gawked in disbelief because the procession was usually only done once to be taken pictures but Lukman without shame instead spent the food on the plate so that the host did not start immediately the show is because the groom looks hungry.

"Maz.... ....." Laila looked at her husband's clothes. Ani and Rina who had just cried were now embarrassed themselves.

"Du.h the brother..kayak has not eaten a week. later it can be." grumbled Rina.

Finally, the event began after Lukman finished eating on the lap. The opening, recitation of the holy verse of the Quran, the welcome of the bridegroom represented by her RT pack Laila and the welcome of the bride and groom represented by bang Alif.

The moment that everyone is always waiting for is to listen word for word from bang Alif. Bang Alif seemed to have a magnet that could attract the attention of everyone to him. How he stands, how he walks, how he talks, how he smiles and laughs. Everything felt interesting and could not distract from the handsome figure of charisma.

After the greeting and opening then bang Alif gave a word to the bride who became queen and king a day as well to remind herself as well to all present. For old brides or bachelors and virgins too.

"Marriage is not who is most feared by the victor or the more powerful.

Marriage is a race to be better in the eyes of God. As a wife must obey the husband while it is not for makshiat, trying to be a good wife and please the husband. Dress as beautifully as possible when the husband is home, not dress up when going out of the house. Welcoming the husband with joy when he comes home from work and it will eliminate all the fatigue that whack his body. The wife will also be the antidote for the husband due to various trials and views that are haram for her.

As a husband, you can't be arbitrary. Cannot be stretched as the head of the household and then act as he pleases. Sayyidina Umar bin Khattab was a strict and strict man. Everyone was afraid of him, but even so when he faced his wife he would be a person who succumbed. When his wife was angry and expressed emotions in a loud voice he patiently listened to her, not at all replying to the words of his wife who was being filled with high emotions.

I am reminding myself that I often forget my obligations and hopefully what I say can be useful to all who are present here.

More or less I apologize profusely

wa billiahi taufik wal hidayah wassalamualaikum warahmatulli wabarakatuh"