Aksara For Arsyilla
Preparing Ara to Become a Brother
Having another child is not just Aksara and Arsyilla who have to prepare themselves. However, both of them also have to prepare Ara to become a Big Brother. Only now, they were also having trouble how to prepare the Eldest to become a Big Brother. Given Ara's age of just one year less, explaining things to Ara is also still difficult.
At Mama Khaira's house, Arsyilla seemed to wonder about parenting her.
"Ma, if you prepare Ara to be a big brother how? Given Ara's age is still one year. It was harder to explain everything, and the jealousy of the older brother who was two years old was also relatively large to his newborn sister" asked Arsyilla to Mama.
Mama Khaira smiled at the question from her daughter. At least Arsyilla cares about the parenting pattern of her child and tries to also prepare the Eldest to be an Brother.
"Yes, let us tell Syilla .. it is difficult, but what we sow will certainly be understood by Ara. Slowly. For example, when your stomach is getting bigger later, explain that there is a Baby Sister here. Show me the picture when you were pregnant she was. Slowly Ara will be able to understand it" replied Mama Khaira.
"Again panicked, Ma .. If Ara is a bit big, the case is different. He understands instructions. However, now that Ara was still playful, her speaking ability was also not right. Just love to go for a walk," replied Arsyilla.
Yes, at the age of one year more, Ara's speech ability has not been fully developed. The vocabulary he mastered was not much either. For this reason, there is concern in Arsyilla.
“It's okay, just go slowly. Precisely later if the baby is born, Ara and her sister can get along very well because the distance is only almost 2 years. For baby clothes if the girl again, can be more efficient. Just wear his brother's, the same toys. So, yes, a lot of positives too. Don't think about the negatives. What matters is that you and Ara can live. Aksara also, engage in parenting Ara later.”
Hearing what Mama Khaira just said made Arsyilla nod her head. If you look at the positive side, the age distance is not so much to make the Eldest and the Bungsu will become more harmonious. Another advantage, if the baby is also female, of course, Arsyilla and Aksara can re-apply baby clothes and other types of equipment for the Sister. Just buy some new ones. For toys too, because the toy can be used by Sister.
“True also yes Ma ... if the second child is a girl, it looks like it will have twins later,” reply Arsyilla.
Just imagining it all makes Arsyilla happy. Body height is not too far away, the face of which of course there is a side to the similarities, and can also buy clothes that are the same model only different sizes only.
Yes, sounding to the child is very important. Can calm children, can sprinkle the teachings to children since they are small, can even change the bad habits of children. Because, what the parents say to the child repeatedly will be recorded in the subconscious of the baby.
“Good Ma .. yes, although honestly there are times when Syilla is sad. Ara is still a child must be released ASI, she is still a child must understand if the Mother is already pregnant again, sad actually Ma, Syilla always told Syilla herself that Syilla can live all this,” he said.
Mama Khaira nodded her head, fully understanding that her daughter had her own anxieties. Mama Khaira was happy because Arsyilla wanted various concerns with her. So Mama Khaira can give advice to her daughter.
“If I and Shaka used to get along well or there was a fight Ma?” ask Arsyilla to her mother.
“The name of the brother must have been his Sibling Rivalry. You're craving if Mama or Papa is carrying Shaka. Keep fighting over toys, and stuff. The Brotherhood was still angry, lashing out, unfortunately, even fighting. But all of those emotions can be managed well. If Mama is with you, yes we replace Papa who holds Shaka. Sometimes you play together. Exclaim. Three years apart, and Mama and papa are happy because our house is so crowded. You are cheerful and ask a lot of questions, while Shaka is active and excited. The house is more crowded with laughter and baby cries,” replied Mama Khaira.
The age of Arsyilla and Arshaka is only three years, at least Arsyilla has a shadow if Ara and the Sister later the age distance is also not too far away. Arsyilla must have time to chat like this with her Mama. Talking about childcare, so that she and her husband can accompany children in every phase of growth and development.
“Just relax, Mama is sure that you and Aksara can go through all this. Moreover, the script is as similar as your Papa. He is a reliable husband. Not going to be possible, Aksara ngebiarin you are hard-earned alone babysitting children. Take it easy, by living sincerely, everything has a way. Parenting is not that scary,” said Mama Khaira.
Although it feels complicated, but Mama Khaira believes that Aksara is a type of man with Papa Radit. A man who will not let his wife get tired of herself. For that Mama Khaira just ask Arsyilla to calm down and live everything casually.
Arsyilla then looked at her husband who was in the front yard of the house and took a walk with the Ara. The woman smiled, yes Aksara is a good man. A man who loves his wife and loves his daughter. Mama Khaira's words have a point. Living with a man as good as that Arsyilla need not worry because surely Aksara is ready to participate and help his wife. He will not let his wife be overwhelmed alone.
That is the key to parenting for children, working together, sharing each other with each phase of child development. Whatever happens in front, as long as it can unite the head and join hands, of course, everything will be passed well.