DESTINY IS NOT WRONG
Arab Flavor Dating

Sometimes Haidar screams in solitude, crying between letters Ar-Rahman’, a routine practice that he often does when this heart is restless, tired and saturated with everything that exists.

“Yaa Rahman, O Most Merciful, have mercy on my fragile heart and soul when

I must be a servant of pseudo-love like this, I want to go home O Allah.Report to Your lap, the previous Haidar before entering prayer has gathered to wait for the voice of Your cry, now I'm blind with love, so tired it feels.” Lirih Haidar in prayer.

Only do’a that Haidar often proposed after reading the Surah Ar-Rahman, and he was convinced by the decision that God would later do for him, and surely all would be implied wisdom.

His appearance, long before him I had known who Nanda Nabila Putri was, once upon a time Dewi invited me to accompany her to her best friend's house at school in the housing complex where Nanda also lived there.

Nanda residence at that time was so large and complete with luxurious facilities, understand Mamahnya as a secretary at the company whose initial capital of the airline was only ten million and six aircraft, the company said, The airline started its business as an air bridge connecting remote places in Kalimantan.

Since its establishment, September 6, 1962, until now, and Mamah is a fairly influential official in the company.

I noticed, there were a lot of jars and fancy things in the living room, the sofa

nor is it the standard one but Luxury Sofa with decorative lamp crystal candle lamp that stands on flank by two large sofas.

In the living room there is a large television complete with sound system or it can be said home theater as a form of entertainment sett in order to spoil the guests who come, and look elegant. The skin of the sole of Haidar's feet feels a subtle touch of the fur of the tapestry, the more visible economic strata of the host, if the estimated salary of both parents tens of millions.

But the arrival of Haidar is not to be amazed by what the host has, he said, the task he only brought Dewi to meet the girl who almost decades I never heard of again a Nanda and unexpectedly the girl is now close to him.

“Elo still inget if I have been to the house, and there we are known Dewi?!”

“Iya I still want to, and at that time also Goddess met with her parents in school..hahaha." Nanda Syndicist

"Seriously loh?!"

“Eeeh seriuuuss! Why am I talking...”.

“Yaudah siih, angry very much.”.

It was impossible for a Haidar at the time to have a lover like him. The son of a rich man, who was raised with such luxurious facilities, compared Haidar to only the son of a master njai.

Ustadz ordinary village. But it doesn't make her inferior, or cornered and glared at what others have.

The word ‘enak’ belongs only to others, not necessarily people we say nice like that his life was comfortable and happy, they could also say, they also say, ‘so difficult people are tasty do not need many demands!’

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Nanda and I have never met face to face, my relationship with the girl who turned out to have a hobby of photography was only by phone.

My guess is enough even if only hearing his voice can know him even further. After with his ex first, Haidar for a while to get to know the term ‘dating’ which according to him only spends time, energy and mind.

Who says holding back the longing is not an inner torment, who says jealousy does not take time, and who says once a date does not cost money? All of that if it is calculated enough to harm yourself.

Does going out with a date make our hearts comfortable? Whata yes with dating makes our hearts sure that someday he will be our life companion who said, ‘sehidup-sekati’? The average of those who choose courtship ends up heartbroken, tragic, ill-fated, apes! And during that time we will also be put down to anxiety that is very torturing themselves and spend time, in vain is not it?

While in Islam itself I know the term ta’aruf, again the concept is the same as dating that distinguishes only ‘ke-vulgarannya’. Ta’aruf himself to me is an arab style courtship.

Did the Prophet proclaimed the ta’aruf program before marriage as a path of exploration, getting to know each other, the character and nature of the candidate of the person who is our life companion nomination later? The Prophet did not subscribe to the word ta’aruf.

In some accounts, Khadijah asked one of the women of Quraysh, named Maisaroh. He was sent to mediate between Muhammad and him. Maisaroh also told the privilege and advantages of Khadija, the woman offered to Muhammad, that Khadija deserved to be his wife, as well as Muhammad was so suitable to be his husband. Then, accompanied by his uncle Abu Talib, Muhammad proposed to Khadija. What is this called ta’aruf?!

It is no different from the concept of ta’aruf, if suitable then passed to one dock

holy, ijab and qabul. Then, if it doesn't fit? Either the man or the woman who bear the loss due to the impact of both.

And for him between ta’aruf and courtship each gives one advantage without considering the impact arising from all that, it's just that the level and duration of disappointment are different.

Ta’aruf offers practical love mediation, wrapped with Middle Eastern and arabic-arabic culture which is considered quite polite, by some circles and impressed that Arab culture is the bearer of the alma mater of Islamic culture.

With a footnote, it is as if the Prophet Muhammad participated in the formulation of any concept that beraoram middle east only capitalized on his hadiths that are used as a reference.

This is PeDeKaTe style of the Prophet? Without giving one muqadimah that is clear and considered complete, without defects and injured parties.

It is on this basis that Haidar decided not to know the terms courtship and ta’aruf. Besides that, his age is increasing, he often get allusions from relatives, close friends who every time I get. “ When to get married?” Simple questions but difficult to answer, he felt too tired with the name dating.

For that while he was ‘kill’ sepiku feelings by writing and working even though he himself never knew, how successful I was in the world of characters.

Because being a writer is indeed a choice that is spelled out ‘nyerih-nyerih sedap’ if accepted by the publisher is the biggest and most beautiful gift compared to a piece of paper written nominal royalty that we will receive.