LIFE (Han, Ian, Dina, Ute & Pras)
Ep. 12 Friendship (Ian & Ute)
...~ IAN ~...
Our friendship began when the first greeting was heard, "Hi the sad face." and continued with other similarities that we felt, such as: discomfort with his own family, the desire to prove themselves high, the hatred of shackling conditions, the desire to occasionally run away from the pseudo-worshipful gaze of most people, a sense of inferiority even though life is full of advantages and the desire to be accepted for what is nothing..
We both started life in this knight together. We are still both Young Praja, placed in the same class. We have a lot in common and that seems to negate our differences.
Ute was my first friend. With his unique greeting at the beginning of the encounter, it reminds me that life, though it goes on and changes, with a little memory of the past, will not fade my determination to strive for good.
That idealism will hold me firm.
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"Bro.. bengong ajah?" the Ute babble returned to disperse my reverie.
"Don't call bro ah, like men do not do each other's favors." I answered paying attention to his unusual behavior.
"Believe no Ian, I'm in love again neh." she said with a bright look while cupping her hands on her pretty face.
"Oh yeah? Who is the less fortunate man?" ask again.
"Hey, kog's out of luck seh?" he said while pinching the side of my arm. 'Other pain is also the pinch' my mind while rubbing the former pinch trying to relieve the pain.
"How can't it? He will be a man who is ogled by hundreds or even thousands of other men.if he is our age, will be taken out of senior, if he is senior, if he is senior, he is, will be done ugly maybe even disantet our force that you do not want to be made.." I replied straightforwardly could silence his protest.
"Ish not so kale.. isn't that Ian either?" he said he was starting to doubt.
"No, I'm just kidding. of course he's a lucky guy, he can conquer the hearts of girls of our generation.." my reply tried to calm his mood which I felt suddenly plummeting.
Ute is indeed a moody girl, who although very intelligent, but also relatively easily influenced by the opinions of her trusted people who are only a handful. So far, almost 6 months together we were in this Manglayang valley knight, Ute only admitted her bed next door friend and I as her close friends. The others are only in the 'introduction' category.
Many colleagues even seniors tried to approach Ute, even some through me. Including ka’Han some time ago it. But all can be easily rejected. What was astonishing was that no one ever felt hurt let alone vengeance towards him.
Ute always has a smart way of convincing others that the interest they feel is pseudo and will fade over time. In essence, Ute can take advantage of the existence of time to solve everything, even for the sake of rejecting the love of men who have enough mental express his joy directly.
"So this is serious!" this piece of Ute's sentence re-dropped my daydream.
"Dad, what's the problem?" my answer is a bit clueless about the purpose of saying that.
"Ih loe it horrifies me what's not seh? For a friend, you're not paying much attention seh? I said, I'm in love again." said Ute starting to raise her tone a little.
"My dear friend's father.Where's the problem? You're in love, and why?" ask me again, trying to understand the way of this intelligent beautiful mind.
Suddenly his eyes rounded ignorant and said: "Gue fell in love with elo, kog ga sentitif banged seh loe Ian.." both hands were cupped back to accommodate her beautiful face and looked at me with sparkling eyes, I realized full of acting, but had stopped this heartbeat for a moment.
"Ngaco!" I said briefly as I rubbed his flap hair and made his bangs dishevelled over the glint of those eyes. "His own best friend kog is being frowned upon?" i said again.
"Indeed, maybe I like it and eventually fall in love with you?" tanya while tidying up her hair, looking no mind my hand has ruined her appearance a little.
“I was laughing and trying to sympathize neh.. A loyal friend laughs at your jokes when they’re not so good, and sympathizes with your problems when they’ not so bad.” I replied kalem, citing the opinion of a famous businessman, Arnold H. Glasgow. (translation: a loyal friend will laugh at your jokes that are not funny and sympathize with your problems even if they are not too heavy).
"Elo is a man who is immune to temptation? Or maybe really, guess the girls all this time, if you're hombreng?" his sergeant acted violently this time.
"Well, whatever you want to value other people, just want to do, if the measure you use to judge others, will also be used to judge yourself.." I answered at length while taking out the book that will be used soon in the next lesson. Sociology courses.
"Males ach if your 'opa-opa talent' starts to come out" he said again as he moved back onto his stool. And indeed a few minutes later the entrance bell for the next lecture hour echoed and the lecturer entered our class.
Discussion about the level of human needs, which of course varies in each individual. Unknowingly my gaze targeted Ute's sitting position and it turned out that she had already looked at me while showing her 3 fingers. We are still in this third stage, both still need a sense of need, and we still need a sense of need, we are loved, wanted, needed, and we feel that way together..
We seem to know and understand each other too deeply.. Aihs..
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...~ UTE ~...
My friendship began when the sentence was said: "What? Loe feels that way too? I'm the only one who has that feeling.."
I remember what happened a few months ago. At that time, in a room in the training building, Ian and I (in 1 group with 2 other colleagues) discussed in class, talking about family and their influence on the life of an individual.
Contrary to the majority opinion, we both feel, the existence of the family is not very essential, because basically a person's personality has been formed since he was in the womb.
It is still clear in this memory, about one of the teachings of the Tibetan Monk, related to one's aura, the aura is already inherent in the fetus, indeed its development will be influenced by the surrounding environment, but it only triggers, it triggers, while the seedlings remain from the internal si-individual.
The exact same environmental factors will still have a different effect on the development of the 2 people who experience it, how the individual develops, in which direction he is leaning, and how he is leaning, very influenced on the seedlings that are on him.
So want to be raised in a family environment like anything, if he is destined to be a great person, then the universe will lead him to be great, even if as destroyed as any family that raised him.
There was a heated debate, even with our coach, who issued a different opinion. They even had time to issue an assumption in the film Joker, where it is said that evil is the fruit of good which is squeezed into trouble, that everyone is basically good and can be evil because it is shaped by the environment.
We categorically reject that opinion, because not all evil fruits out of good which are squeezed into trouble.
Evil exists side by side with good when it is created. Evil is the absence of good.
Like the night that always accompanies the day, the dark that comes after the light disappears.
Each man is created with a seed of good and evil in his heart.
It will be more fertile to grow the seed of one or the other (good or evil), depending on the choices made by the individual and the values he considers important as the principle of his life, he said, not just because of environmental factors.
The debate was finally concluded by agreeing to disagree in the statement.agree to disagree.everyone is free to argue and in the end who supports us was quite a lot, it turned out quite a lot, although initially only the two of us who think so. (translation: agree to disagree)
On several occasions, I tried to test the intelligence and kindness of an Ian with the occasional bright greenish-blue glowing aura.
And he always graduated with very satisfactory grades even with praise.
So even though his aura likes to be dark, but the goodness of his heart can always be radiated and felt by the surrounding. I learned a lot from him.
And it seems, we both understand that we are in agreement in terms of this life.
Even when we could just sit quietly together.
What David Tyson, Canadian rock producer and writer said: 'True friendship comes when the silence between two people is comfortable.' (translation \= the existence of a true friend can be felt when the inertia between 2 people feels comfortable).
That's when I realized Ian's whereabouts made me comfortable. Ian is my closest friend. The friend with whom I can share not only the present, but also the past and perhaps the future..
“A friend is someone who understands your past, believe in your future,
and accept you just the way you are.”
(translation \= a friend is someone who understands your past,
believe in your future and be able to accept you for who you are)
On several occasions, I had mentioned about this lack of self to Ian. Like the condition of my parents who have separated and the fact that I am a child of broken home products.
The most memorable was his response when I revealed the prosopagnosia* disease I was suffering from. (*the inability to recognize someone's face) Ian was only silent for a while at that time, with an increasingly dark aura.
Then at once the green glint of his aura gushed out strongly and he said straightforwardly, "What can I help to alleviate the problems it might cause?"
Ian did not change the way he looked at me, did not necessarily demean or despise my bad luck, nor did he condemn reality and question why it had befallen me with pity.
Ian was not judgmental and made me feel lacking, he just declared himself 'ready there' and willing to do anything when I needed to.
With teary eyes from being moved, I could only say, "Be my best friend!".
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Our friendship has been established for about 5 months now, almost 1 semester together.
But it seems like he's known her for a lifetime.
Although sometimes I find it difficult to find the figure of his face in the middle of a row or a crowd of people, but his charismatic posture and character, I can easily recognize, I can easily recognize, moreover, the power of his dark blue aura that stood out from the aura of the other friends.
There was never a sense of belonging and belonging that I felt towards him and although our closeness was often misinterpreted by some friends, but who realized we were only friends was also not small. Like some princess friends who approached me to get closer to Ian, or those who left me love parcels through Ian.
Maybe in their hearts they just don't want to accept that there's something special between us. Our friendship is the most special thing I have felt in my entire life.
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