Test Loyalty
Bringing Mother-in-Law to the Market

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The sun is shining brightly. Time shows at half-seven in the morning. Bu Aida invites Dhena to take her to the market. The middle-aged woman will hold a grand ceremony held once with a life-sustaining reng-rengan like mothers of anchovy-class sosilatia.

"Dhen, please buy the young eggplant mother that the bouquet, gih, who is in the middle of the market there! I forgot to buy it when it was my favorite," he said, not caring if his daughter-in-law was so exhausted.

"But, Mum. Dhena was already feeling this tired. It's been muttering almost all corners of the market." Dhena was trying to explain her condition as if it was already hymenous.

"Just shopping that much has been a lot of complaints, you. You spoiled!" timpal Bu Aida's.

"Yaudah Dhena drops a shopping cart here with Mom, yes, let Dhena try to find her young eggplant."

"Just boy. All brought, what a hard thing. I want to go to the meatball stall on the side of the road first. I made the same appointment with my friend there." Bu Aida sauntered away from Dhena who was still standing while looking at her mother-in-law's back until she was lost among the crowd of people who were tiled on the edge of the market.

Dhena started walking stumbling around tucking her small body between the people who were crowded into the narrow street that was in the middle of the mother market.

Actually, Bu Aida did deliberately treat Dhena like that so that her daughter-in-law felt exhausted and depressed with her attitude that was sometimes beyond the limits of fairness. Because of the hope of Bu Aida with him treating Dhena like that, Dhena eventually became not strong if she had to survive with her children and filed for divorce.

While Dhena can only be patient with the exam coming from her mother-in-law. He always remembered the wejengan of one of the ustaz when he followed and attended the study at the ta'lim council. Ustaz was once conveying a hadith that more or less contained like this.

“We will test you with evil and kindness as trials (the real ones), and only to Us will you be returned (Qs. Al-Anbiya’/21:35).

The meaning of the verse is according to Imam Ibn Kathir rahimahullah, We tested you (the people), sometimes with disaster and sometimes with pleasure, so that We may see who is grateful and who is disbelieving, and who is patient and who gives up."

The level of human attitude when facing trials or in accepting God's destiny. The first level is to be angry with the destiny that God gave. Maybe he was angry in his heart by muttering, maybe he said it with his tongue. He who is angry with the destiny of God is feared to fall into idiosyncrasy because he denounces destiny. And angry with destiny is in fact angry with God.

The second level is patient, when a person feels the weight of the test and does not like the test that happened to him, but he prefers to be patient so that there is or is not the same test. Although he did not like it, his faith prevented him from getting angry. Patience when facing the trials of the law is mandatory, and a person who is not patient when it will fall into sin. And patience is the minimum level that a Muslim has when facing trials.

Wherever Allah sets his qadha and qadar, such as hardship or ease, when it gets favors or vice versa is hit by calamity, all is the same for him. Not because of the death of the heart, but because of the perfection of pleasure with the destiny of God, as the Lord who governs his affairs. If he sees in the glasses of God's destiny, for him it is the same between favors and calamities. So this is what distinguishes between patience and pleasure.

This is the highest level and the most important in the face of trials. Because he can be grateful for the disaster that happened to him. Therefore, he can be a grateful servant of God when he sees many others who are heavier than he is. The world's calamity is lighter than the religious one, because the world's torment is lighter than the adhab in the Hereafter.

In every phase of human life, problems will always exist. When likened, the problem is like water and man is the fish, without water the fish will die, like that we are without problems. Because if the problem is no longer there then it means we are gone from this world. How can we make problems a blessing? The answer is patience and gratitude. When we are patient in every problem, especially the calamity that we are experiencing, we will be given by God an unlimited reward.

Allah Ta’ala said, which means: “Hai My believing servants. Fear your Lord”. Those who do good in this world have good. The earth of God is wide. Verily, it is only those who are patient that their reward is met without limit. “(QS. Al-zumar :10).

Patience in the face of problems becomes one of the gauges of our faith in God. Just look at this world! People who cannot be patient in their problems, most of them have no faith in Allah so they do the forbidden ways, even from those who commit suicide.

When we are patient, God will also lift the degree of faith from us. So, what blessing is greater than being lifted up and given unlimited reward by Allah ‘Azza wa Jalla?

In the face of problems not only patience is needed but also gratitude. If we just use patience as a weapon then we will not feel happiness in our problems. Another case if we are grateful, with gratitude we can see the pleasure of every problem.

After getting the order, Dhena's mother-in-law took the initiative to follow her mother-in-law's meatball shop that had been mentioned by Ms. Aida.

Dhena swept a glance in all directions. Expect to find the figure of Bu Aida in a neatly lined chair that has been provided by those who have shops. But her mother-in-law did not see her nose. I don't know where he is at the moment. So Dhena intends to immediately return to her home alone. Because Dhena felt her body was very tired, especially in the soles of her feet that felt very tired.

"Dhena, who are you here?" ask a man from next to her. Dhena turned to confirm who the person who greeted her was.

"Bold Mas?"

"So I'm new from a pharmacy that's in this market." Dashing explained without being asked by Dhena. In addition to his work in the hospital, the handsome young doctor was also starting a business in his pharmacy that he built in a strategic place like in this market.

Because he saw Dhena who was exhausted carrying two shopping baskets that weighed more than ten kilos because Bu Aida had put a small sack of rice weighing ten kilos plus other basic groceries into Dhena overwhelmed. Dagah again forces Dhena to drive him home. Dhena who felt almost fainted could not resist even though the risk might be tragedy like yesterday - even more than that. But Dhena ignored him.