Test Loyalty
Against Myths

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After doing all her homework Dhena brings Reza and Fathan to play at Bi Kemproh's house. Just to find a friend chat on the front porch of Bi Kemproh house with some other mothers.

"What age is Reza now, Ms Dhena?" tanya bi Kemproh started to open the chat.

"Udah wants eleven months" Dhena replied later.

"Eleven months, really, still can't go either, huh?" ask bi Kemproh with a nyinyir tone.

"Look, here, my niece. Although he was only 7 months old but, his body was fat and could walk anyway," continued the fat woman boasted Nadin, his own nephew who was in his lap.

"Duh, a pinter once Dedek Nadin," praised Dhena as she pinched the fat-bodied girl's cheeks.

"Yes, dong. His mother, diligent. Good at taking care of children. It's just that his little children are all rarely given food so it becomes malnourished," said bi Kemproh began to issue a snobs style.

Though bi Kemproh himself never know how Dhena struggle when having to make and give food to his son from the age of 6 months when the first time given MPASI until now eleven months old. In order for the baby to get the best nutrition and nutrition in growing.

Throwing reproach on the way of parenting like Bi Kemproh did to Dhena is not a trivial matter of ethical, especially if addressed to their babies, as happened to Dhena. 

Baby shaming, once this behavior is called. It is a condition that is often experienced by mothers that can lead to depression and a sense of humility.

The same goes for Dhena. When Fathan, his two-year-old son and began to move a lot, Dhena was often flooded with comments targeting the physical child. "Tight skinny anyway? How, so black, anyway, his son?" That's about the comments he often heard from people around him who have often met.

Initially, Dhena could still be acting foolish. But, over time he was caught off guard too. He was also affected and felt upset when his son had difficulty eating, and wanted the child fat. Before, there was no such thought in his mind.

Dhena understands that it is very natural in the active age of children to be thinner than usual because the energy released is also greater. Because of the frequent comments, he was lazy to join and gather with other mothers. He is more comfortable looking for a conversation friend who is like and like him who does not always pry and dispute the affairs of others. Who can take care of each other's feelings.

Because there are still many people who have not realized when they do a reproach to the child or baby shaming will be able to cause the mother to experience stress, depression and even depression that will interfere with the mother's own psyche.

This experience was felt directly by Dhena when her second child was not even 40 days old, she had got baby shaming from people around her. They labeled Dhena as a strong mother because it was as if letting the baby have a umbilical cord or navel protrude.

"My son is not one whose navel is bodong like Dhena's son because I always have metal coins," said one of the mothers who was playing to Dhena's place and saw Dhena was changing her baby diaper.

Although it has often been reminded by some mothers to put metal coins on the baby. However, Dhena still ignored him because he did not want bad things to happen to his son such as irritation or infection that could result from the metal coin.

Being in an environment that still believes in thick myths makes Dhena feel uncomfortable. Because there is always an attitude and parenting that is always commented on because they think it is always different from most people.

At the birth of his second child he never wore an octopus which of course got a slur from everyone who happened to see it.

Though not his time anymore to wear octopus to newborn babies. Because, octopuses tend to cause more negative effects for babies than provide benefits.

In ancient times parents suggested that newborns wear octopus. Baby using octopus is believed to prevent colds, warm the stomach, and prevent the baby's navel from becoming stump.

Oran gua also believes that using octopus can shrink the belly of a distended baby. As a result of all that belief, finally the use of octopus in infants became one of the downhill treatments decreased.

Not only in ancient times, it turns out that in the present era there are still many parents who use octopus on their newborn babies. But, actually, whether babies use octopus will indeed get these benefits?

In fact, we need to know, the use of octopus in the medical world is not recommended. A number of studies show that octopus does not provide benefits to the baby.

For example, it is said that octopus can shrink the belly of a distended baby, even though this is not true. A distended baby's stomach is a natural condition that occurs and is often found in many newborns.

This condition is caused by fat deposits and abdominal muscles that are still thin, causing the impression of a distended stomach. Then, the presence of air that enters when breastfeeding or crying baby also causes the entry of air into the baby's stomach.

Stomach distended in the baby will be normal by itself as time goes by. Therefore, there is no need to use octopus to overcome the condition of distended stomach in infants.

In fact, babies use octopus trigger a bad risk. As is considered to interfere with the baby's breathing process and growth and development in the baby's stomach that is not completely perfect.

The use of octopuses, especially those that are tied too tightly, can cause several health problems. For example, the baby will be difficult to breathe, easily spit and interfere with the growth of baby organs.

If the newborn has breathing problems and lack of oxygen, the baby's breath will generally become faster and shorter. If this is left alone, it can harm the baby, he will stop breathing completely until it leads to death.

However, every time Dhena expressed her reasons for not wearing an octopus to her baby. Bi Kemproh also always denied it by saying, "All babies who are used by octopuses do not exist, tuh, who died."