Test Loyalty
Disputes

All eyes glanced towards the door. Bu Aida appeared with a few plastic bags on both hands. He deliberately bought a variety of foods that fit the taste of his own tongue because he felt he did not want to if he had to eat foods that Dhena can cook.

"Because ... Dhena's. If indeed you hate me do not have to instigate your child to hate me too, dong. Fathan, right, is still my grandson. You shouldn't have told her to hate her own grandmother" said Bu Aida glancing cynically at Dhena.

"I've never done anything so small, Mom," Dhena replied in a quivering voice.

"Lha, that's proof that Fathan said he hated me. Who tries to talk like that if not his own mother who taught." Ms. Aida still denied Dhena's words just now.

Then Ms. Aida put the plastic bag on the dinner table. Then step towards the location of the plate in the corner of the room and take a few bowls and tablespoons. Poured some of the food he had bought into the container and began to eat it alone without offering anything else.

Dhena chose to enter her own room instead of having to serve and argue with her mother-in-law who always felt right.

After eating the food he brought to the toilet then Bu Aida sat in the living room watching the soap opera show that always aired every day on one of the private television stations with the title My Wedding Destroyed Because Mother-in-law.

Seeing his mother relaxing, Hariz approached. Then sit on the floor while accompanying Fathan to play.

"That's your face why, Riz, really, at the swelling so," asked Bu Aida just realized if there was something different with the face of the boy.

Hariz did not tell the story of the incident that actually worried the mother even thought a no-no. The man replied under the pretext that he had fallen off his motorcycle.

"Yes, ma'am, by not diminishing my respect for Mother. I ask very much for Mom. If you can, if you're talking to Dhena, you shouldn't have to blame Dhena, Mom." Hariz began to try to commemorate his own mother.

Ms. Aida flinched for a moment. After that he began to say, "What does Dhena say to you? Until you can talk like that to the woman who gave birth to you?" probing Bu Aida stared intently at Hariz.

"Dhena didn't say anything, kok, Mom. But, right, I saw for myself that Mom was talking to Dhena always accompanied by emotions like that, tho?" Hariz replied.

"Yes, obviously the emotional mother, is, your wife wong taught her son to hate his own grandmother earlier." Ms. Aida insisted on defending herself.

He did not realize at all if Fathan could talk like that because indeed the little boy was able to conclude with what he saw and heard directly. It was only because of her excessive hatred for her daughter-in-law that Bu Aida thought confidently that Dhena was indeed teaching and telling her son to hate his own ngenek.

Conflict in-laws in his son-in-law is often found in marriage.

However, conflicts between daughter-in-law and in-laws can indeed be triggered by various things. Starting from the difference in the way he was raised, and different times made Bu Aida always blame his son-in-law.

Although only from trivial things such as parenting problems which is certainly different from what his mother-in-law did when she raised the husband. Though the mother-in-law should realize that the one who has full responsibility for the child is the parents, namely Dhena and Hariz. If just to give advice can be, but should not force to be obeyed.

Marriage is a relationship between husband and wife. But the in-laws should not interfere. Tells the ugliness of a wife in front of her son, because all of that can cause problems in marriage.

Supposedly, in-laws more often tell of kindness from the daughter-in-law. Not even badmouthing the daughter-in-law in front of the child, which can make a child's marriage fall apart.

Mother-in-law should never dictate to a daughter-in-law in any way. Whether it's how to take care of the house, or take care of the family. Everyone makes mistakes, and that's what we learn from.

Parents should be able to let their son-in-law and children make mistakes, without the need to blame or dictate mistakes made. But, if you want to point in a better direction, it should be delivered in a way that does not offend the daughter-in-law.

Everyone wants to spend more time with their family, especially when they are older. But, mothers-in-law should not hate daughters-in-law because their son spends more time with his small family without his mother.

Ideally, when a child is married and builds a family of his own, a child will have a life of his own that is no longer centered on his parents. So that there is no prolonged misunderstanding.

After marriage, a man will put his wife and child as a priority. Therefore, it is not the right thing if the mother-in-law wants to always be prioritized by her child, even though the child is married.

The mother-in-law should also not have the child choose between her and the daughter-in-law. He is no longer the only important person in his son's life, like it or not, that's the reality.

Ms. Aida did not realize that her son now had a life of his own to live, no longer dependent on her.

In fact, Hariz wanted his wife and mother to get along. But, his efforts always run aground because of Bu Aida who can never open his heart to Dhena.

Relationship with in-laws is a definite thing to happen when married, therefore Dhena continues to try to anticipate it and always try to please in-laws for the happiness of the husband even though the results are sometimes beyond his own expectations.

"Sorry, Mom I spoke like that just to keep my wife feeling because after all Dhena is my wife who I took over her responsibilities from her family first," hariz said he hoped his mother would understand Hariz's position, which is now a husband to his wife and a father to his two sons.

"Mother is disappointed in you, Hariz! For the sake of a woman who has only been with you for a few years. You're so willing to put Mom aside like this." The wrinkled face of Bu Aida began to be overwhelmed with sadness that made her son's feelings become gambled and go awry.