Test Loyalty
Heartfill

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As bitter and bitter as every life experienced by man. But time will go on and on. And so did Dhena. He tried to live his days like running water. Following every life path that has been outlined by the Supreme Regulator of Everything.

It's been a few days since Dhena's been feeling restless. His heart was worried when waiting for monthly guests who usually came regularly. But, now it has been a month more menstrual cycles a little late.

In fact, usually Dhena get menstruation every two weeks with a length of up to fifteen days. After passing through the holy period which amounts to fifteen days also Dhena will immediately get the next period. And it happens continuously every month.

[Mas, later if you come home from work please stop by the pharmacy first, yes!]

Dhena sends a message to Hariz who is still at work.

[You what?]

Chat from Hariz.

[Please buy me a tespack, yes, Mom]

[What do?]

[Make me, lah, ma'am, time yes, for you]

Dhena laughed amusedly.

[Yes, later]

Dhena was used to asking her husband for help to buy sensitive items that belonged to women. Like a pad or something. Hariz had no problem doing it.

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Wakey asleep. Before stepping into the bathroom Dhena's hand grabbed the rectangular object she had placed on the room table. Yung was bought by her husband yesterday afternoon.

Dhena's heart beats waiting for the results she will see on the pregnancy checker. His eyes were rounded when the two lines were plastered on the tespack he was now holding.

Dhena immediately finished her activities inside the bathroom. After brushing his teeth and washing his face he took ablution water to perform dawn prayers. Dhena came out of the bathroom with puffy eyes.

As long as he carried out the duty of dawn prayer was accompanied by his tears that continued to flow. Dhena felt vulnerable to the reality she was facing.

She should be happy when given the confidence to be able to get pregnant second. Moreover, his first child until now is not known whereabouts by Dhena and Hariz.

But still Dhena felt not ready if in the near future he was given the confidence of a fetus in his womb. He is not ready if he has to have a baby back from Hariz who now can not have it whole again.

The proof, yesterday afternoon after delivering the order Hariz's wife immediately left Dhena. On the grounds today it's time for Hariz to accompany Nelly at her house. Dhena goes through a cold night with no husband by her side. His heart is required to sincerely accept the reality of having to be willing to share time with his honeymoon sister.

However, Dhena's own heart prefers to remain in this kind of position. Instead he had to choose to stay away and let Hariz go. The magnitude of Dhena's love for the husband is able to defeat all the wounds that he has to redeem and go through every day. That is the power of love he willingly hurt as long as he can stay with the person he loves.

Dhena again dispelled her sadness by writing an article on one of the sites that provide vent columns.

♥ When Couples are not as Beautiful as Imagined ♥

At a time when he was still alone friends. No life partner will accompany you. We often expect when beauty comes to us? So that in the journey of life is no longer alone, because there is a loyal heart worship accompanies.

The literature on marriage we study. So that the figure of the husband/wife of sholehah is imprinted in the recesses of the heart. When did that time, right, arrive? I want to give my best to my partner.

When the Supreme Giver of Everything predestines us to have a soul mate that is in accordance with expectations. We also go to the wedding without hesitation. Now when we have lived a household life many things we meet are not as beautiful as what we imagine.

The nature, character, tastes, differences in parenting and different family backgrounds that were originally easily bridged by the similarities of faith, ideals and love turned out to be a trigger for disagreement gradually. The flower garden that originally looked beautiful turned out to be only short we can comfortably stop in it.

Indeed, Allah has provided the basic capital of love and affection for our partners but we ourselves must cultivate it so that the love of married couples grows and blossoms always. One of the things that makes love and affection decrease for couples is: EXPECT PERFECTION FROM THE COUPLE.

At the beginning of our marriage, our partner was not perfect. Our partner is not a person who can meet all the criteria we crave. In this case it is better to reflect on the wise advice of Imam Shafi'i.

If we imagine a perfect partner but married to an imperfect partner and still hope for perfection, then the choice is twofold :

Remove that shadow of perfection, and accept our partner as he is.

Or does?

Dump our spouse, and marry the shadow of perfection we crave.

Rasulullah Shallallahu Alaihi Wa Sallam said :

"Man is like a camel. Among the 100 camels, it is very difficult to find a very good mount."(( HR. Bukhari Muslims).

For wives it is almost impossible to get a rich husband with a rich, rich, rich, wealth, noble, generous, knowledgeable, lots of alms, good at controlling anger, forgiving and romantic.

Similarly for the husband, it is almost impossible to have a beautiful wife, good at pleasing the husband, dexterous, good at cooking, smart at managing finances, diligent worship and other good qualities.

Prophet SAW, advising us regarding the shortcomings of our partner.

"The believer will not leave the face. If he hates a temperament in his wife, he'll love another temper."

This message is in line with the word of God.

"Then if you do not like them, (be patient) because you may not like something, but Allah has made him a great deal of good."( QS. An-lisa :19).

There is a saying, "Love is beautiful not a toy. Genuine love is not coercion. Because love is not just an expression. Love also requires sacrifice. True love hears what is said, understands what is not explained because love comes from a deep heart."

These words are usually used by people who are still in the process of ta'aruf.

But when you have stepped in the gate of marriage, is there still tenderness and politeness? Is there love, affection and longing?

As a spice of household harmony adhesive one of them is we must have faith and patience. By faith we are convinced that the soul mate given is the best according to God.

With patience we try to sincerely accept the situation of our partners to be together to improve each other towards a better person so that they can run the wheels of life with a peaceful and peaceful household.

In understanding the lack of a partner, it does not mean allowing some of those mistakes. We should seek to counsel each other gently and wisely in order to cling together to goodness and truth. And achieve the goal of creating a blessed and happy household.

Dhena re-read the contents of her writing with great interest. Wishing she could close her heart wound and could accept the inherent flaws in her husband who until now has not been able to give happiness to her.

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