Test Loyalty
Dhena felt reminded

Mr. Kiai still continues his tausiyah behind the mosque pulpit which is still listened to solemnly by all pilgrims present.

"Harmony in the household does not always continue. Sometimes problems come to the husband and wife. Some wives are not able to overcome the problem so leave their husbands.

"Stuff like this is very sad and it often happens in this day and age. Many women who consider this trivial and justify various problems that occur in the household such as financial problems, infidelity, and other problems.

In Islam, the law of a wife leaving her husband is haram so there is no time limit on the wife leaving her husband in Islam. The wife who goes out without her husband's permission, then she will get the curse of the angel, even if only one second.

The apostle said,

”The right of the husband to his wife is that the wife does not preclude her husband's request even when he is on the back of a camel, not fasting even a day except with his permission, except obligatory fasting. If he continues to do so, he sins and is not accepted by his fast. She cannot give, so her reward is for her husband and her sin is for herself. She cannot leave her home except with her husband's permission. If she does so, then Allah will curse her and the angels scold her again, even though her husband is a pious man.” (Hadist Abu Daud Ath-Thayalisi of Abdullah Umar)

God Himself has commanded every wife to always be in the house and not go out without the husband's permission, let alone leave the husband.

وَقَرْنَ فِي بُيُوتِكُنَّ وَلَا تَبَرَّجْنَ تَبَرُّجَ الْجَاهِلِيَّةِ الْأُولَىٰ ۖ وَأَقِمْنَ الصَّلَاةَ وَآتِينَ الزَّكَاةَ وَأَطِعْنَ اللَّهَ وَرَسُولَهُ ۚ إِنَّمَا يُرِيدُ اللَّهُ لِيُذْهِبَ عَنْكُمُ الرِّجْسَ أَهْلَ الْبَيْتِ وَيُطَهِّرَكُمْ تَطْهِيرًا

And remain in your house, and do not adorn, and act like the old Jahilites, and pray, and obey Allah and His Messenger. Verily, Allah intends to take away sin from you, O Lord of the temples, and to cleanse you clean.

A wife who leaves her husband means that she has committed a great sin. Husband is the way to heaven a wife, then it should be despite any amount of problems that exist should a wife still pay attention to her husband.

Husayn bin Muhshain of his aunt said: 

“I came to see Rasulullah SAW. She then asked: “Do you have a husband?” I replied: “Ya”. The Prophet asked again: “What did you do to him?” I replied: “I don't really care about it, except for the things that I really need it” . The Prophet said: “How can you do that, while your husband is the one who determines you to go to heaven or to hell”(HR. Imam Nasai, Hakim, Ahmad with Hadith Hasan).

The apostle also said,

“No wife hurts her husband in the world unless she talks to her husband with sparkling eyes, do not hurt him (husband), so that God does not antagonize you, if your husband is hurt then he will immediately separate you to Us (God and Apostle)”. (CHR. Tirmidhi of Muadz ibn Jabal)

A wife who leaves her husband will make it easier for divorce to occur. Therefore it is strictly forbidden for a wife to leave her home. Divorce is something that the devil wants.

Jabir said,

Prophet Shallallahu ‘alaihi wa sallam bersabda, “Verily the devil put his throne on the water, then he sent his army, he sent his army, then the one who will be the closest to him is the most fitnahnya. Then someone came and said, ‘I have done this and that’. Then the devil said, ‘You did nothing’. Then someone came again and said, ‘I leave no one but I have separated him from his wife’. So the devil brought him closer to him and said, ‘You are the best of my army’.” (Muslim, no.2167)

Therefore, it should be in a marriage to be patient in facing a partner. Our life partner is a choice that we must maintain. As a woman, it should obey the husband as long as it does not violate religious law.

If it is not able to solve the problem, then discussing with family or filing a divorce lawsuit is the best way compared to having to leave home.

Dhena's face immediately flushed. The woman felt slapped after she listened to everything from the beginning to the end of the presentation of the imam of the mosque. Dhena had been reminded through the tausiyah she had followed just now. It also becomes a game to make choices. One side as an ordinary wife he wants to go far to the end of the world even in the hope that he can quickly escape the confines of people who have never appreciated his feelings.

However, the other side in Dhena's heart is tucked into fear if it is up to disavow with all that has been described by Mr. Kiai who seems deliberately to remind him earlier.

 "It is not good for a wife to leave the husband's house. Especially there is Fathan who still needs a warm hug from you as his mother." Perky tries to help remind Dhena and advises the woman to return home to Hariz.

"Yes, Mom, I'm sorry that I was sassy to ask for help to find a place to rent with you."

"Maybe I was feeling emotional. Until it can not control the feelings," continued Dhena later.

The brave who did not want to strengthen the relationship Dhena and her husband took the initiative to bring Dhena back home. That man is indeed not the type of man who is clever and willing to take advantage of the situation. Which may be commonly done by striped-nose-mouthed men like most of the adam people out there.

The man hopes that the state of Dhena's small family can return to fullness as before. He believes that if household problems can be discussed properly with a cool head and from heart to heart will definitely find the best answers and solutions.

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"Mrs ... Mama from anywhere, Fathan has been looking for Mama everywhere, you know. But Mama still doesn't exist." When Dhena opened the door and entered the house she was greeted with a typical question of a young child who successfully made the woman's heart full.

He saw that the boy had taken a bath and changed clothes with a sprinkling of powder on the left cheek and right cheek that was shaken irregularly. But, it adds even more adorable looks for the three-year-old boy.

"So I took a shower with the same clothes on Dad, you know, Ma," continued Fathan who had looked as young as his mother was in sight.

Then Dhena crouched down in front of the baby while holding him lovingly while saying raucously, "Ma'afin Mama, yes, dear," whispered Dhena right next to the right ear of her little prince.