Test Loyalty
An Accidental Meeting

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Hariz approached his wife lying in the living room with Fathan playing while watching his favorite cartoon.

"Ma, I'm sorry, yes, if we haven't been happy with our little family all this time" Hariz said. His palm rubbed his wife's hair gently from behind.

Dhena flinching. As if she had not heard her husband talking. In his heart Dhena said, 'Free of you, Mas said that if your attitude up to now can not keep my feelings.'

"Mas is aware that he has not been able to be a good husband for his wife and a wise father figure for our son" Hariz said.

Dhena moved up and sat leaning against the wall of the whitewashed wall. Looking at Hariz at a glance then gazing in the other direction threw out the shabbiness that filled his chest cavity.

"I'm bored, Mas, listen to you ask ma'af many times, but the state of our household is always like this continues" Dhena later said.

Hariz sat cross-legged in front of his wife. His hand clasped the woman's fingers tightly and asked, "Mas wants to ask, now what does Mama want?"

A moment later Dhena stared fixedly at her husband's eyes.

"Seriously I want to know what I want?"

Hariz nodded his head, reassuring his wife.

"Now I'm divorcing Nelly, or leave me!" dhena was full of emphasis.

Hariz was stunned for a moment. The man did not expect if the wife dared to give an unexpected choice.

Looking at Hariz's eyes which implied anxiety, Dhena said again, "You mind, right, if you have to divorce Nelly?" dhena asked full of questions. His eyes stared hard at the husband.

Hariz breathed heavily through his nose and then exhaled through his mouth. Then looked at Dhena at a glance.

"Yes, I'll try to talk to Nelly. May he accept and understand all of this" Hariz said at Dhena's request.

"Mama .. I'm hungry" said Fatha who was engrossed in playing lego alone. His eyeballs were occasionally on the television screen. He ignored the chatter of his parents who were struggling. Fathan couldn't help listening to the adult chatter that he found boring.

"So Fathan hasn't eaten?" ask Dhena to make sure.

"Yes, Mama, but now I'm hungry again," she started whining.

"In the kitchen there is still rice soup, Mama takein a moment, yes, you wait here." Dhena then stood up to step her feet toward the kitchen, but stopped, when she heard Fathan's request.

"I don't want to eat at home" Fathan said sulked.

"What do you want?"

"I want to eat noodles right now," he asked still with a whining tone typical of toddlers.

"Mie tiau who hangs in the front alley, right? ask the father later. That was answered with a nod of the head by Fathan.

"Wait a minute, yes, Dad now change clothes first" Hariz said.

"Mom's with you. Get ready too so we can go all three, ' Hariz continued whose order was addressed to Fathan.

"Not three, you know, Dad. But the four of us are with baby sister who is still in Mama's stomach" Fathan said, protesting. Because he already understands the circumstances of his mother who is two-bodied. Because Dhena often communicates to give understanding to her first child so as not to be surprised when later her sister is time to be born into the world to complete their home.

Because Dhena understands that parents who plan to have a second child must give understanding to the first child or prospective brother even when his sister is not born.

This is done to avoid the shock of the first child, especially if he is still under five years old or toddler.

The arrival of a new sister certainly brings changes to the family, and the attention of parents inevitably must be shared.

This often makes the first child feel jealous and rivaled. Therefore, it is important to provide understanding and explanation to her brother regarding the birth of the new sister.

In addition, having two or more children will increase their tendency to quarrel due to sibling rivalry.

Although sibling rivalry is natural and inevitable, being proactive will have a major impact on children's relationships.

The sibling rivalry is the fact that they have to share their parents' love and attention as well as the space and objects they play.

Competition between siblings can be seen since the mother is pregnant with a second child. The first few children will show a happy attitude with the new sister candidates but some begin to show an increasingly fussy attitude, refusing to part with the mother, and others. After the second child is born, the first child sees the affection and attention of the parents gushing on the new members in the family. It is no longer the most special and powerful. He now has to share it with his sister. His playing time with father and mother is reduced, his old items are used by this ‘baru’ sister, his wishes are no longer the most preferred. This can cause competition with his sister to get the attention and affection of parents.

As a child's physical, cognitive, and mental development develops, competition between siblings may decrease because the child is already more able to think about the conditions that occur around him. However, competition can continue into adulthood. Forms of sibling rivalry as children, adolescents, and adults can differ with different needs at different stages of development. When they were children, the contested were toys or playtime with parents. They are very protective with personal toys so upset if the toy is taken by other siblings. Another common thing is that one gets jealous of the other toys and ends up fighting over the toys.

Now the three of them were already sitting opposite at the table of the tiau noodle shop that Fathan had asked for earlier. While waiting for the noodles to be served Fathan continued to chatter asking many things he happened to see around there to Hariz, his father.

Amidst his chatter suddenly the boy cried out so loudly that everyone present there immediately glanced and turned towards Fathan and the person appointed by him.

"Dad ... It wasn't Aunt Nelly who was my friend's dad when we met Grandma, Dad," exclaiming the child who is now almost four years old was half screaming making Hariz and Dhena stunned and set their eyes following the index finger of their children.

Not lost their shock from the same direction the voice of a child spoke.

"Mother, tuh, look! There is Dad, we sit there too, yuk, with Dad. I miss Dad." His loud voice could almost be heard by everyone who was inside the room without that wall.

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