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NO NEED TO HAVE A SON
“Mother's son has long been married to Sondang?” dinda asked as she sat down with her mother Gultom.
“She and Sondang have been married for 14 years.2 years empty Sondang has not had children. Then the third year he had a daughter who is now in the 6th grade of SD,” explained Gultom's mother with great pride.
“2 years later was born again women are now 4th grade SD,” said his mother Gultom again.
“I apologize if I am not wrong in Batak custom there is a surname that must be derived. Sondang's son is both female. As a mother does Host require Mr Gultom to have a son?” ask Dinda carefully.
“In custom yes we must have a son,” said the host or also commonly called opung following a call from his grandchildren.
“But as a woman and as a wife I realize that determining the offspring is not us, not humans. But it is determined by God. Want to have 10 wives if God says your daughters are all girls. What are we gonna say? So in my family and my husband's family there is no obligation to have a son.”
”Our elder used to have a son, he had a wife of more than 5. There is not a single boy she has. Finally there he got bad luck. On one trip all his children died. People say it's because all the children are unwanted by his father!”
“So in my family there was never a need to have a son even though we hoped to have one. Different yes HOPE WITH MUST HAVE,” said opung.
“I think Mom did tell Mr. Gultom to have a son so maybe he was looking for another girl to have a son,” fishing line Dinda.
“She is not from less family, she is higher degree than our family. But he has great respect for our family. That is what makes him very dear to all family members,” said Opung while watching Sondang from a distance. Sondang is participating in activities to enliven family gathering, namely running clogs with couples.
Dinda gets the point that from the family there is no need to have a son for Gultom because it happens that his two children are both women. And Sondang was very accepted by the Gultom extended family.
“Good my mother to another place yes, I have to say hello to all members if one day I ask mom to come for something because Mom can attend ya?” said Dinda.
“I will be present if indeed I am healthy, only God knows how our condition in the future,” said the very religious opung.
Dinda also passed from in front of the old woman who loved her daughter-in-law very much.
Dinda went around greeting other family members who did not participate in activities usually elders such as Mr. Gultom's mother.
If with his mother Puspa of course Dinda already very familiar even his mother Puspa since earlier also participated in activities. Because every family gathering opportunity he must follow because Ilham is the head of the branch. So in every family gathering activity, the Puspa family must exist.