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°BDJ 67 : DOWRY
BDJ 67: DOWRY
Marriage is not easy. Marriage not only means marrying two human children, but also marrying two families, customs, and customs. When two human children are about to be married, there is much they need to talk about first. Pre-marriage talk of the present day.
Pre-marriage talks are important. Pre-marriage talks are usually not grandiose about wedding decorations, the concept of a dream wedding, the make up artist to be chosen, which building to use, reception issues, and much more. However, pre-marriage talks here are more inclined towards talks between couples who will decide to get married. There are many topics that can be discussed, such as life principles, vision, mission, dreams, heredity issues, financial problems or money talks, about divorce, to the question of conjugal relations.
However, in the case of Nathan and Alea's wedding all-round sat set, boro-boro do Pre-marriage talks, one month before the wedding only they rarely meet and communicate sufficiently, so they do not, because they both have tasks that must be completed before officially becoming husband and wife. Alea as the bride is busy in Jakarta, while Nathan—si the groom is also busy preparing many things in his hometown—kota Bandung.
In the rest of the days at the end of the holy month, the busyness becomes more intense. Remembering the days passed brought them closer to Sayyidul Ayyam which had been determined since far away. Four Sayyidul Ayyam Nathan's choice. The good day he chose to make the greatest history of his life, namely to edit the idol.
“The son of the Sultan of Kembang city is just this doang? Dih, don't like people don't have deh.”
Ninyir. That was the activity carried out by the handsome pilot who had been pacing around in the room of the brother. The spacious room that was now was no longer spacious, as it was filled with scrumptious items.
Sesemerah itself is a procession or ceremony of handing over something, can be in the form of goods or other— as a sign of bonding for both brides-to-be. Seselah is also interpreted as a symbol if the groom has been able to provide a living for the bride-to-be.
“According to you this is still lacking?”
The owner of the room asked while carrying a small rectangular jewelry box.
Without a second thought, Nathaniel Allugard's only sister Hazka Dwiarga nodded her head in response. According to Gean, what his brother had prepared was still lacking. Less is more, please note that. Given the small count of Gean's version it was different. Even though the best items Nathan prepared are not cans in number.
Nathan does not have exact calculations, but he has asked for a list of items that must be in the wedding ceremony. Assisted by onty El who is very enthusiastic about welcoming Nathan's wedding. El is busy preparing for his own wedding. From the information that Nathan got, there are usually several types of items that must be in the wedding ceremony. Among them, a common set of worship tools consists of prayer rugs, mukena, prayer beads, and the holy book of the Qur’an. Then there are facial skincare consisting of facial wash, scrub, micellar water, milk cleanser, toner, essence, serum, mask, day cream, night cream, eye cream, moisturizer, sunscreen, moisturizer, and many more.
Skincare body and hair also does not escape the list, usually body and hair skincare consists of scrub, hand and body cream, butter cream, lip therapy, olive oil, hair vitamins, conditioner, lip therapy, et cetera. Continued with toiletries equipment, set-make up, bags, shoes, perfume, watches, set-clothes, underwear, jewelry, bed cover, snacks and cakes, fruits, to electronic goods.
From this information, Nathan then wanted to ask more specifically to the future wife. Knowing Alea could be embarrassed or awkward, Nathan then entrusts the affairs of hand to mother and onty El. In the end, the two women who intervened directly bought the goods with the bride.
Nathan also just took their wedding ring that has been made. One pair of black zirconium rings. Rings with black zirconium material were chosen because men in Islam are prohibited from using gold. It is illegal for men to use gold and silk, set out in a hadith narration Ahmad. “Gold and silk are forbidden for Muslims (men).”
Even in a narration of the Muslim Imam of Ibn Abbas Radhiyallahu anhu, that once the Prophet shalallahu alaihi wasalam saw a man wearing a gold ring, he released it and declared, “Does any of you take the embers of hell fire and wear them in his hands?”
From the statement stated a threat, that wearing gold jewelry for men is the same as letting themselves be burned by fire. In addition to black zirconium rings, men in Islam can use silver, palladium, tungsten carbide, platinum, platinum, and titanium, can be used as an alternative to gold.
Black zirconium was then the choice of Nathan and Alea for their wedding ring making materials. The difference is that Alea's ring is decorated with diamonds from India as a sweetener. While the ring belongs to Nathan plain, but there is the name Alea in Arabic writing on the inside.
(Such an example, but the Alea Ring model is simpler. While Nathan's got two long transverse lines on the outside.)
Diamonds contained in Alea rings are also diamonds of the highest quality. Although it has a relatively small carat size, which is 31.09 carats. But it has a very perfect color depth and light bias. The diamond used on the Alea ring resembles a Wittelsbach diamond that costs 23.4 USD or about 335.6 Billion.
“Can be added again, Bang.”
Gean is back. He then took a sitting position while shaking a piece of HVS paper that he brought with him.
“Oh, yes. Here, I came here for a mastiin to Abang about dowry.”
“Why else with the dowry I gave you? Less?”
Nathan asks back while keeping his and Alea's wedding ring box on the table.
“Not. Dengerin first, deh. I've printed out my hearing about the dowry that Brother prepared.”
“Hm.”
“Again I am being a father Van’ar pas ijab-kabul. Ok?”
“Hm.” Nathan responded with one eyebrow raised.
“Hm. Bawel,” comments Nathan. Makes my sister laugh.
“Ok, listen.” Gean took a sip, took a deep breath. Then he spoke again afterwards. “Brother Nathaniel Allugard Hazka Dwiarga bin Algafriel Hazka Dwiarga, I marry and marry you to my biological daughter, Alea Ananta Rumi Al-Faruq bint Keevanzar Radityan Al-Faruq with dowry letter Ar-Rahman, holy book of the Qur’an, one book of Helyatul Aulia, money of 500 dirhams, and a set of salat tools paid in cash.”
“Qabiltu nikahaha wa tazwijaha bil mahril madzkur haalan!”
Spontaneously, Nathan replied in a quite loud voice.
“Dih, I can't wait very hard. This is still a simulation, Bang. directly answered aja,” Gean's tease with a tempestuous laugh.
Nathan himself smiled faintly in response. “Reflex,” said. He does like the reflex to answer if he has heard the phrase ijab with the name of the idol of the heart gripped in it.
“Aciee who can't wait to get married.” Gean is flirting. “This dowry Brother actually 500 dirham?”
“What is it? Is a dowry of 500 dirhams too little to give to the daughter of a Radityan?”
“If from Gean's personal point of view, the Radityan family did not see the amount of dowry given. But, seeing how serious the men are about to marry their daughter.” Gean looked at the older brother. “But, I'm curious. Why do you want to give me the dowry of Mbak Alea 500 dirhams? I know you are capable. But, there must be a special reason ‘kan? or did Mpa Alea herself ask?”
Nathan shook his head. “Alea never asks specifically about dowry. He said the important thing is that I am sincere and capable.”
“Keep why did you give 500 dirhams for dowry? 500 Dirhams, Bang. That's fine, if calculated to rupiah, you know lah.” Gean blurted while winking his shoulders.
“Hm, no specific reason. Just want to follow in the footsteps of the Prophet when marrying Sayyidinah Aisyah.”
“Really? Indeed the dowry of the Prophet Shallahu alaihi wasalam when he married Sayyidah Aisyah bint Abu Bakr 500 dirham?”
“Hm. The dowry given by the Prophet Sallallahu alaihi wasalam to Sayyidah Aisyah as a dowry in the form of 500 dirhams or if converted into gold equivalent to 200 grams of gold is best at this time. If referring to the conversion results in gold, then the dowry of Rasulullah Sallallahu alaihi wasalam given to Sayyidah Aisyah worth Rp1.3 billion. While when married to Sayyidah Khadijah, Rasulullah Sallallahu alaihi wasalam gave dowry as much as 20 bakrah.”
“20 bakrah? What's that okra, Bang?”
“Bakrah is a young female camel,” Nathan replied. “If a camel costs a little above the price of a cow, for example Rp 30 million per tail. Then at least the accumulative value of 20 bakrah around Rp 600 million.”
“Masha Allah.” Gean could not stop amazed. If the matter of religious insight, Nathan is indeed not in doubt. “But, not everyone can give dowry like the Prophet, Bang. What do you think?”
“Basically we should try our best. If it is considered a large dowry burdensome, then it is quite as easy as possible. In one story there is a man who lived poor. Because of his poverty, he was not even able to buy a dowry for his wife even though it was only a ring of iron. The Prophet shalallahu alaihi wasallam then ordered the man to have his dowry in the form of teaching the Quranic verse to his wife,” explained Nathan. “Despite that story, Sayyidina Ali bin Abu Talib when married Sayyidah Fatimah daughter of the Prophet was also only able to present dowry in the form of armor.”
“So the point, the dowry given by a man is seen in his ability. However, it is appropriate if men try as much as possible to present something that is best for his future wife, it does not always have to be expensive and luxurious. So, Bang?”
Nathan smiled faintly at the reply of his sister when summarizing the intent of her words just now. “Hm. Less is more like that.”
“Therefore, Brother is trying his best to present something that is best for Mbak Alea. For example, one unit of houses in the upper Dago area, equipped with a horse stable, Helper, horse race, plantation, greenhouse, and flower garden. One friendly luxury vehicle unit for Mbak Alea, one apartment unit in SCBD area, one flower shop on behalf of Mbak Alea in Bandung, a Muslim clothing boutique, one, up to some properties abroad.” Gean glanced at his brother. “So much, Bang?”
Nathan laughed a little as the mangosteen. Though he had hidden the properties that he had long prepared to give to Alea, but the younger brother could have sniffed it. Basic Gean.
“Oath, Brother turned out to have been secretly saving property for Mbak Alea. All on behalf of Alea. If for example, amit-amit, Abang is not a match with Mba Alea how to try?”
“Just leave it,” Nathan said lightly. “It was made difficult,” he added while patting the sister's shoulder before it passed.
“But lie. If it is not the same, Mama Alea, do you want to be a match with others? not the hell like.”
Gean suspects that his older brother can look at another woman. Wong is already bucin acute with Alea.
“If you already know the answer, why ask?” nathan said in an unusual tone. “I always love my Ar-Rumi. She always in my heart.”
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