The Tears Of Wedding
Chapter 59 Please Prayer Restu (POV Thunder)

Me and Sekar sat in the living room of our house, planning our visit to the Kyai Damar boarding house. I had already decided to run for the village chief, and as a santri, I felt it was important to obtain the permission and blessing of Kyai Damar as my teacher.

‘Waasimhum fil amri, faidza 'azamta, fatawakkal 'allah. Innallah yuhibbu al - mutawakkilin.’ (Q.L. Ali Imran: 159)

Where the sentence means ‘And consult with them in the affairs (which you face). If you have decided something, then trust in Allah. Verily Allah loves those who trust (to Him).’

This verse reminds me to always have an affair with Kyai Damar as the teacher in my current life, because he is a scholarly man and his scientific knowledge is so clear that it reaches the Messenger of Allah. For me in the face of an important decision, like this time my intention is to run for the village head. Having decided, my own wife has reminded me to trust in God, which is to place full trust and hope in Him. This verse also implies that Allah loves those who have a strong trust in living life. But Sekar and I still need guidance from the teacher.

“Mas hopes whatever the decision and if indeed the mas forward as the candidate of the village head then it is based on deliberation, advice from the teachers, as well as trust and hope to God. Likewise with you Dik, you are a partner who will certainly increase your burden and responsibilities again.” Said me when Sekar was ready with Ziyah in his carrier, Sekar always use traditional sling to carry Ziyah than it now appears more modern, reason to be able to cover Ziyah to the feet. I only saw how painfully my wife was caring for Ziyah, even though the beautiful little princess was not born from her womb, but Sekar really loved taking care of our beautiful daughter.

“Aamin, God willing I will be ready to be beside you now, tomorrow and anytime. The important mas ridho on me.. that's just my ticket to go to heaven.” said Sekar who makes my heart always bloom because of his love for me.

Sekar prepared Ziyah, our 7-month-old son, to go to the boarding school. He made sure that Ziyah was comfortable in the sling and carried her carefully. After everything was ready, we headed to the boarding house.

Arriving at the boarding house, we were greeted by a calm and solemn atmosphere. I saw Umi Ayu, Kyai Damar's wife, sitting on the porch of their house as Umi Ayu put her youngest child to sleep on her feet using a pillow while gently shaking it. And one hand is busy reading a book, what a couple who is always hungry for knowledge. I smiled at the sight, reminding me of the warmth and affection in our own family.

Then, I approached Kyai Damar who was sitting not far from Kyai Damar. Respectfully, I conveyed my intention to run for the position of village chief. I explained that as a santri, I felt it was important to get permission and blessing from Kyai Damar as a teacher.

“Yai, kulo badhe ngaturaken intention kulo kagem nyalonaken dhiri dados sirah. Dados setunggaling tiyang santri, kula rumaos wigatos kagem kepisan permission lan restu so panjenengan dados setunggaling tiyang guru.” I said politely, it is difficult for me sometimes not to use subtle language especially if there is a wish or intention like this.

{Kyai Damar's. I would like to convey my intention to run for the position of village chief. As a santri, I feel it is important to get permission and blessing from Kyai as a guru}

Kyai Damar welcomes my intention to run in the village head election soon.

{niat good kang, insyaallah I will tell kyai Rohim. Coincidentally he is on Sunday there is a study in the next province, my plan will be there same wife.}

Kyai Damar explained that as a kyai, his duty is to give advice and guidance based on the principles of the Islamic religion. Kyai Damar said that before giving permission, he would do istikharah and ask for God's guidance. I understand that asking God for guidance is an important step in making a big decision like this. We thank Kyai Damar for this opportunity and promise to continue to practice the teachings of religion in every step of our way.After talking for a moment, we say goodbye to Kyai Damar and Umi Ayu. We left the boarding house with a hopeful heart and the belief that things would go according to God's will.

On the way home, we reflected on how important it is to get permission and blessing from a wise and influential person in our lives. We are committed to continue to follow the teachings of religion and try to make our intentions as village heads as a means to do good and prosper the community. My father and mother's blessing were with me last night when I matured to my father and mother about to advance to become one of the candidates for kades, thank God both my parents agreed, even though mother gave permission so that people who thought I was not worthy of being a kades could be silent, I still remember what my mother said when giving encouragement to me, I think almost 9 years I was with Sekar, I think, only this time the mother gave her sincere and passionate support despite our different intentions.

“Mother pray you win, let the lambe people who say you are not pantes so the kades will be quiet. Let me milani's face-face people who like to insinuate you in front of mom. Mom has long wanted to be with you, actually you become a candidate or not,” said mother last night. While on the journey Sekar wrapped his hands on my waist.

“Mas, what if from the direction later does not match expectations. What about mom yes mas, I'm afraid mom is back disappointed in mas, because later we will be in a dilemma if the results of Istikharah Kyai Damar and Kyai Rohim are different from the expectations of mother.” Sekar. I felt his head leaning against my shoulder.

“Bismillah Dik, mas will try how to give an explanation to the mother if the results of Istikharah Kyai Damar later more inclined to mas not advanced kades choice tomorrow.” Said me while holding Sekar's hand. I kissed her fingertips while reminiscing about the time before Ziyah was with us or the time when we were only a few years married.

“Remember ga Dik, when you first broke the motor on the road. Mas go home ngarit, you sit in the back.” I held back a laugh remember that I was arguing to bring down the grass I just set and I put it on the back ancak. But Sekar actually insisted on rising to the top of the sack in which there is grass. Because the day is almost maghrib and we are in a state of fasting. At home Ani even laughed out loud seeing Sekar ku bonceng with a position higher than me because he sat on the grass. But Sekar's answer when I asked made me feel in love many times. I asked him if he was embarrassed if not because I saw my guy screwing with such a position (picture see in IG author), because it was his first moment I boned like that with a butut bike.

“I'm just ashamed of it if we come home late and I break the fast late just because I have to go back and drive and take this grass again. For me the important thing is that we can be together and enjoy every moment together mas." He said while holding my bike because I want to lower the grass on the bike.

I'm very lucky to have Sekar as my life partner. For me, nothing is more precious than our togetherness and the love we have. I promise, that I will always try to give my best to Sekar and Ziyah, both in terms of material and emotional matters. I don't care about the vehicles we have, the treasures I have and even the talk of people about my wife who never got pregnant as well who may not be as glowing as other people's wives, he said, the most important thing is that we love each other and take care of our happiness, especially that I am always respected and valued as a man, where I feel almost very little now a man who is only a laborer like me is treated well and loved by his wife.

We continue our journey with a smile on our face, feeling strong and happy because we know that what matters most is the love and togetherness we have, not our things or looks. On the way to the house I became remembered the story of Prophet Muhammad SAW and Aisha RA had a loving and affectionate relationship. They often travel together, both in simple circumstances and in luxury. One of the stories that illustrates the beauty of their relationship is when they play running races.

On one occasion, Prophet Muhammad Sallallahu 'Alaihi Wasallam and Sayyidah Aisyah R. A. played running races in the desert. They race happily and encourage each other.Sayyidah Aisyah RA who is young managed to defeat Prophet Muhammad SAW in the race. Prophet Muhammad Sallallahu 'Alaihi Wasallam smiled happily at the cheerfulness and success of Aisha RA. The story depicts the warmth and happiness in their relationship. Although Prophet Muhammad SAW was a great and respected leader, he still showed affection and togetherness with his wife. They enjoy time together, even in simple things like playing and having fun. Indeed, RAsulullah teaches us that a happy relationship does not always depend on material or social status. The most important thing is love, togetherness, and support each other in every moment of life. Like my current household, we also show that true happiness lies in genuine affection and togetherness.