My husband is in the room of my best friend
Fellow Male Talk

Some days already, Noah accidentally did not go to the hospital, he let Luna be alone with her husband. He wanted Luna to be able to chat more freely with Ariel. Who knows with just the two of them, Luna managed to bring Ariel back to the real world, because at this time, Ariel is like in her own world. Even psychologists, psychiatrists, who have come, do not bring any influence. Ariel seemed unwilling to respond to their arrival.

And today Noah made a deal with his friend Ardi at a cafe. Ardi is a person he has known for the past three years. They met at a hangout and from then on, they started getting along with each other. Ardi was a widower and had a lot of experience getting married. So, Noah wants to share about household matters, considering himself there is no experience of marriage.

Noah awaits Ardi's arrival at the cafe serving traditional food, the place is also cool and comfortable. But the cafe was a bit far away, even almost an hour ago Noah rode a motorcycle.

After waiting for a long time in the cafe, Ardi came.

"Sorry, long ago, there was still business" he said while sitting in the chair in front of Noah, while in the middle of them there was a round table.

"No papa relax, I just came, too" he lie when almost fifteen minutes he waited.

"Have you ordered?" tanyakanya.

"No, I'm waiting for you."

"Oh yes, let's order it" he said.

And after that, they ordered food, while waiting for the order to come, they chatted casually, and Noah also told the reason he wanted to meet with Ardi. Ardi nodded his head, listening to Noah's story.

Before Ardi responded to Noah's story, the food and drink they ordered came. They finally decided to eat first. After eating, Ardi began to tell stories.

"Actually every household must have their own tests. Honestly, I've been married four times and unfortunately four times I failed" Ardi said as he recalled his past story. Noah listened silently.

"Ten years ago, I got married when I was twenty-five. At that time I worked odd jobs, because even though I graduated from accounting, but finding a job in the village was not easy. Pretty hard. So instead of me unemployed, I finally chose to work what is important to make money and halal. I live with Mom, my sister who just graduated High School and also my newly married wife. At first my wife wanted him to spend or contract, but because of my mediocre income, I also asked him to be patient first.

My father died in my final semester, so a few months before I graduated to college, my father died in an accident. At that time I was forced to go to college while working to be able to pay for college, because I think I've been giggling, just struggling a little more and I'll be a graduate.

After graduating, I just work full, whatever, from building porters, selling newspapers on the roadside, work in the fields, transport goods in the market, and many others. Because I've put some job applications in some companies and in stores, but no one wants to accept me. So yes rather than idle, I choose work. Because I have dependents, namely my mother and sister who are still in school.

It was only after my sister graduated that I felt my burden was a bit light and I finally decided to get married. When I got married, I worked more and more during the night, because my sister was still unemployed and still confused about where to work. I am a graduate, odd jobs especially my sister who is just a high school graduate. So he just stayed at home while he went to his friends, who knows there are job openings, he prestige odd jobs like me.

Two months after I got married, my wife got pregnant. I'm getting excited for work, because I'm going to be a dad. But even though I work almost twenty-four hours, and only sleep for a while, the money is still less. And still a shortage. Finally after my electricity gave birth, things got worse. Three months after my wife gave birth, I decided to migrate. I could no longer bear to let my wife, sister, and mother lack even more there was a small child in the house, who was none other than my newborn son. My wife also had to eat a lot because she had to breastfeed my son.

I went to Jakarta, followed my friend into building porters. There his salary was quite expensive, two million and seven hundred a month. I also live in mess and eat me in corporate responsibility. At first my wife wanted to come, but I refused. On the grounds that she had just given birth, and I was worried that my newborn son would have to travel a long way. Especially if my wife comes with me to Jakarta, automatically, I have to find a boarding house, because there is no way I let my wife stay in the mess with my son. While in the mess, the residents are all men, while I am alone, sleeping one room with my friends who are also men.

Not to mention the expensive cost of living, so I asked my wife once again to be patient.

On payday, I sent money to my wife of two million and my mother of five hundred thousand. I just took two hundred thousand to buy a pulse or make a handle, who knows I want to coffee after a day of work.

I've been working for six months, I've got info, my wife's betrayed me. Yeah, he slept with my own brother, honestly I was disappointed. I went home and asked my wife to be honest. And sure enough, my wife and sister admitted it. They had four sex times when mom was out.

I'm sick, I cry, I get upset but I feel guilty at the same time. If I had followed my wife's wish to come to Jakarta, it might not have happened like this. Finally I divorced my wife and after the iddah period was over, my wife married my sister, because my wife was orphaned.

I married him because he could not work in the market, transporting goods.

And since she married my sister, she could still stay in that house.

I went back to Jakarta, to work. And this time, I sent money to my mother of one million and to my ex-wife of five hundred thousand. I gave him five hundred grand, not because I still love him, but I still have to take responsibility for the son my ex-wife took care of. There are no ex-fathers, no ex-husbands and no ex-wives. And my son will be my responsibility until he grows up.

One year later, I liked another woman, I immediately proposed to her and married her. I intentionally did not ask him to date, afraid of khilaf. Tau itself, men if it has been close to women, like there is a strum. I don't want to do anything despicable because I can't resist temptation.

But unfortunately my second marriage only lasted eight months. You know the reason why, because he is not sincere if the money I send to my mother and also my son in the village. He wants to control all my pay. I certainly refuse, because the male even though married, will still belong to his mother. My mother was a widow, if I didn't send the money, then who would. While he was old, not strong for heavy work. My brother works only for himself and his wife. And I only gave money to my mother five hundred thousand, and five hundred to my son. Yeah, I've had to reduce my mother's ration since I married my second wife. Because I have to spend five hundred thousand months. The rest is for both meals.

Ever since I married my second wife, I have had to spend time with my wife. So for Mother, five hundred thousand, for my son five hundred thousand and make a fee of five hundred thousand. I only asked for a hundred for my personal. One hundred thousand to pay for electricity and PDAM and one million to eat together, but unfortunately the one million money is always used up in the third week. Eating no chicken or anything. I also eat at work sometimes. But maybe because you live in Jakarta, so thirty thousand days for kitchen needs, to buy soap and others, certainly not enough. And that's why he asked for a divorce because he couldn't live with me.

Unfortunately when she was pregnant and gave birth to my son, she was bleeding heavily and she eventually died with my daughter. There I was broken, destroyed. It took me two months to recover my condition.

After a year and a half, I did not marry again. But the name is a man who already knows the taste of body relations, of course there is a sense of wanting to do it again. And because I was afraid I could not help it, I decided to get married and this time I married a young woman and an only child. And honestly, my fourth marriage gave me a headache. This time, he always denied my words and obeyed the orders of his parents, even he also did not want to live in boarding houses or contract. I finally gave up living with him at his parents' house. There I was insinuated, despised and cursed by my in-laws. My wife was silent, not defending me. I feel my pride as a man, as the head of the household is not appreciated. I asked my wife to choose, between husband and parents, and she chose her parents, so I immediately dropped the talaq and took care of the mane of divorce.

From there I was traumatized for marriage. I chose to focus on myself alone, I work harder and continue my S2 college. Yes I went to college again in the afternoon from five in the morning to nine in the evening, sometimes ten in the evening. I worked from seven in the morning to four in the afternoon.

I work and college, I focus myself so as not to think that makes n*fsu me increased. Yes, you know, the weakness of a man lies in a woman. Moreover, I already have a lot of experience, sometimes if I'm unemployed or alone, there must be a sense of wanting to do it, but I am not ready if I have to marry again and I also can not hire women.

So I dropped out, got a job, and went to college. As well as fasting sunnah let, my mind is diverted. I also keep sending money to my mother and son. Because I had no dependents, so I sent one million to my mother and five hundred to my son, the rest to myself. To be frugal, I went back to mess and stayed there and ate there.

After I graduated S2, I dropped out of college and tried to apply for another job and thank God, I was accepted. Ever since I became a staffer, my salary has been quite large, so I can send two million to my mother and seven hundred to my son. I only take two million to pay for five hundred thousand and one million and a half for a meal, but I save to buy a car. And thank God after so many years, my economy has improved, I already have a private house in Jakarta, I already have a car. I can help my mother's economy in the village and I can also pay for my son, even more so that I can help the economy of my sister and my ex-wife.

And now, I still choose to be a widower at the age of thirty-five. I am still traumatized for marriage again, not not not want to marry again yes, but I still have to eliminate my trauma first, then I will open my heart again for other women. And of course, I have to be selected first, so that the former does not repeat itself.

But I'm sure, every household has its own tests. Whether it's economic factors, husband who likes to play hands, unfaithful husband, or unfaithful wife, wife likes to chat, in-laws or in-laws, julid neighbor problems and so forth. There may be some of them who survive, but also not a few who choose to separate. In essence, all decisions are in each other's hands." said Ardi after telling all the stories of his life are so bitter.

Noah, who heard it, could only shut up. He who has not married, sometimes shudder in horror if he heard the stories of his friends who have married.

"When you got divorced, your wife was on a koar?" tanyakanya.

"He was especially my second wife. But yes, I did not respond to him he finally shut up himself. Even now, my second wife asked me to return it after she knew I was successful. But I didn't want to go back to him anymore, so I blocked his number and all his social media accounts."

"What if .... " Noah began to explain the problem that befell Luna as well as Ariel and this time, Ardi who was silent listened.

"Wah .. only this time I heard there is a wife who is so. Usually a wife will be uncomfortable if her husband is close to another woman, this is even ngajak other women live one roof and alone with her husband. Is she not jealous, for example her husband one car with his best friend. Is he not afraid, for example his best friend will be the third person in his household, does he not feel anxious, for example silent they establish a relationship? Strange that story. Just this time I know, there is a wife so, deliberately bring her friend and husband closer openly. So they like each other, who is to blame? I was alone, close to a woman, like in the strum, cold heat of my body, even my bird was standing upright, let alone her husband who lived one roof with another woman, she said, along the way alone with another woman. Not to mention, it's one roof, one car, one workplace anyway. Wasn't it cold that her husband.

I have until the sunnah fast even have to take a cold shower\, so my mind does not think about it. Even I was also willing to exercise weight\, let my n*fsu subside when I did not deket loh\, just accidentally staring at a beautiful woman who attracted my attention. That's if you've been pengen\, not obedience\, headache\, and want the innate emotions. It's good to be a man. Perhaps that is why God asks that a man should submit his gaze\, and a woman should keep her aura in order to help men\, strongly resist n*fsu. I swear he\, the weakness of the man is women. The weakness of women is money. And it's commonplace. And if you have found the faithful\, be grateful. Not even testing it by wreaking havoc. As strong as the faith of men\, collapsed also when faced with beautiful women.

Try to look at the iftad whose knowledge is already deep, they even married many times the same younger, more plump. What do you think because? N*tsu. Where there is kyai, the marriage of the widow of many children or the old woman who lived dead her husband so that his son was abandoned. Must have been young. Lah Pak Yai, whose religion is more than ours, is still tempted. Especially if we have no knowledge. Like a cat in love with fish, yes definitely in voraciously. We cannot blame the male side if from the beginning, it has been advised not to put another woman into his house. If you still insist, and finally something happens later, yes the wife who must be blamed. Kan from the beginning has been reminded, why not want and even impressed want to get closer. He is the husband, and as a wife must help the husband keep his eyes, not even help the husband to fall into the abject valley.

Not easy to be a man\, especially if n*fsunay big. I've sometimes suffered so much\, to not focus on work. Unfortunately\, I chose to remain a widower because of trauma. But if the problem n*fsu\, do not ask\, it feels like burning. Every man is different anyway\, but almost everything is an average cake. After all stay one roof same brother-in-law aja can not\, let alone this is just a friend\, emang he loves a friend more than a husband? Husband who has worked hard day and night for the happiness of his wife. He partially refutes the cake\, is not afraid of sin. She wants to nolong pal\, and ignore her husband's feelings.

She means her husband must accept his best friend in his house, must have made her husband annoyed, not sincere, not ridho. Maybe her husband said yes, because he had to, in order to make his wife smile. Husband is not ridho, that's his sin is already great. It's the same as a bad wife. For the sake of friends, she was willing to make her husband hurt. If I were her husband, I might think she loved her best friend more than me.

And again, if the husband is addicted to such things, in any quirk, it will not work. Especially just code, which man knows code. If the woman is keen, continues to give the codes, most do not understand, must speak directly, then the husband ngeh if his wife kepengen. Moreover, the code is like that, the more do not understand her husband, it is considered just plain talk, even though there may be a bad feeling.

Even if her husband is addicted to s*k, it is like a drug addiction, it is difficult to stop. Unless you are dead or in favor of help. So some say, it is better to prevent before treating, yes that's the reason. If you are addicted, it is difficult to stop in the middle of the road. Especially feeling good.

Or kayak again play ju - for example, if you already know the taste, will definitely continue to play it, until the house, car and property all run out, new money. So don't try to play. Yes, just like s*k, do not try to play with other women, because once playing, it is difficult to stop.

And the wife must help, not even plunge. Moreover, at first her husband is good and faithful, in gratitude, in the care, in prayer to always be faithful until the end of life, not even wreaking havoc." Ardi who was grumpy to hear Noah's story, was immediately spoken at length, he was greget, because only this time he met the stupid woman kek wife told by Noah.

If the man will defend the man, because he knows what it feels like to have something that feels like being pressed to get out. How the head becomes dizzy close to other women but can not be touched. How does it feel under life but it has to be nahan.

This has been a loyal husband, has tried hard to avoid other women who try to approach him, uh the wife even tested it by bringing other women into the house. Wants in the club head, let it be conscious.

But for women, it may still blame the man, because he has cheated even though he has been reminded repeatedly, has been coded as well.

Though they do not know how torment is on the side of men, just like n*rkoba and ju-di addictions, yes like that. It's hard to stop.  Unless it's dead or gone, just stop.

Therefore, do not occasionally test the loyalty of your husband. If you have been able to be loyal, rich, handsome, established, do not play hands, all your needs are fulfilled, do not bother anymore. Just focus on worship alone, pray for your husband to be out there, his recovery smoothly, and avoid the temptation of women.

And if you want to help friends, relatives or others, yes do not go too far. Help, may. But you also need to know the limits. Do not harm yourself.