BROMOCORAS
Ngwejang Manan's

"So it's true that I heard from Ajeng about your boyong plan because... Emm...?" Nafisa stopped her speech, for a moment she hesitated to continue her speech.

Without waiting for Nafisa's words. Manan nodded.

"Please take it that way." His words while looking over also developed his smile.

"But why should boyong? Emmm, I mean, why don't you just stay here. Can you do it while you're nyantri?" Say Nafisa then.

Manan widened his smile, "Why are you worried that we will be far away again?"

Hearing that Nafisa slightly blushed, "Not that. I mean..."

"Already, Sa. I also just moved there, from here at least ten minutes walk. I can still learn science here. And also..." Manan looked back at Nafisa.

"We can still see each other." Next later.

Nafisa sighed, "When I never demanded you for it, Nan." Said later.

Manan again smiled, "This is not a demand, Sa. Without you even suing in the end I still have to be this way. Not only me, but every man should be like this, because there is a responsibility that must be borne in the end." Sahut Manan's.

"But, Nan."

"Even if my reason wasn't you, I would still do this, Sa. So you don't feel this because of you. I do this because it has to be this." Cut Manan then.

"Alright, Nan. I understand." Nafisa cleared her voice after hearing that.

"Father used to be a delinquent, along with Kyai Salim, Mr. Dhe Prastowo, also his other best friend. They were at the same time ndugalnya, Sa. They were Bromocorahs in his time. But even so, the father did not ever lose his responsibility to the mother. You know why, Sa?" Manan said later, this time without looking at his interlocutor.

Nafisa shook her head, only after that Manan turned her head with a smile.

"Because you don't want to be considered a lowly man. He held his position as a man. And for the father, the man had obligations that could not be covered for any reason. That obligation is responsibility." Manan then said.

Nafisa just bowed to hear Manan's words.

"Maybe you'll have a hard time catching and understanding my words, Sa. I'm not a good argumenter, but..."

"I understand, Nan. I can understand that." Sahut Nafisa quickly cut off Manan's speech.

Manan again just smiled and straightened his eyes again. After that he stood up and began to step foot away from Nafisa.

"I'm ahead, Sa. It's not nice if we've been chatting for a long time like this, I'm afraid it'll be a slander." Manan said before it really passed from before Nafisa.

Nafisa just nodded and looked at Manan's departure.

On the front porch, Ajimukti was sitting enjoying a cigarette.

"Have, Nan?" He asked when Manan was near him and sat down with him.

"Already, Jik. Thanks for the time." Said later.

Ajimukti.

"There's something I want to tell you, Nan. But sorry in advance if what I'm going to say is going to burden your mind." Say Ajimukti later.

Manan slightly frowned, "Just say, Jik. What was? Don't make me curious."

Ajimukti sighed, "It's about your relationship and Nafisa."

"What's wrong, Jik?" Tanya Manan was curious.

"Wouldn't you just preach it, Nan. Emm, I mean this. Aren't you guys just the same fit for each other. Already know each other. And I think Nafisa is certainly waiting for that from you. Sorry, Nan. Sorry, I don't mean nyusu nyusu, all this is off me as her sister Nafisa." Say Ajimukti later.

Hearing that, Manan bowed slightly.

"Applying you mean, Jik?" Ask later.

Ajimukti nodded, "More or less so, Nan. But not formally. Yeah, just like I did to Habiba before." Said later.

"In Islam, marriage is one of the most recommended worship and included in the sunnah of the Prophet, Nan. Of course you know that too. However, Nan. If you only know that fiancee is a process towards marriage. In Islam, you must also know what is called the Khitbah. The sermon is one of the processes or bridges to the guarantee advocated by Islam." Continue Ajimukti later.

"So it's different with fiancee, Jik?" Ask Manan later.

"Look, Nan. It's different actually. However, although not the same, but the khitbah becomes one of the processes that are almost similar to fiancee. When viewed in terms of language, the khitbah means asking, proposing, or asking for a woman to be made a wife." Ajimukti.

"Emmm, you mean shoot?" Manan also followed.

Ajimukti laughed a little, "If you follow the language of the child now, just think so, Nan."

"But without that, Nafisa also knows, Jik." Manan then said.

"There are some things that don't need pronunciation, Nan. But sometimes a word is the most important thing. Think of it like a stamp. Without a stamp an unrecognized proposal, Nan." Sahut Ajimukti.

Manan nodded, "That means it's different from shooting then, Jik?"

"Yes, Nan. It's just that you have to involve the woman's family." Ajimukti.

"Ah, that's the same as the proposal, Jik." Sahut Manan.

Ajimukti laughed afterwards.

"Because of this, Nan. The definition of the sermon itself is actually one of the application processions where parties from the male family visit the bride's house. In the meeting, the male family will reveal the purpose of coming home is to invite the bride to build a household or get married. Well, then, the request can be submitted directly by the prospective bridegroom or can also be submitted by representatives of the family who are trusted and in accordance with religious regulations. Then, in the preaching process, the women only need to answer yes or no." Say Ajimukti later.

"Then, Jik?"

"Yes, if the bride-to-be approves the sermon, then she can be referred to as makhthubah, which means a woman who has been officially proposed by a man. That way, the woman is not allowed to accept applications from other men. Wes's been tipped off, the point is." Keep Ajimukti again.

Manan nodded in understanding, "But, Jik. Is there anything to consider or how? Emmm, I mean, before the khitmahan. How's that?" Manan asked a little confused looking for the right expression.

"There are some things, Nan. But I assume that I don't need to add. Because before carrying out the sermon, the bridegroom needs to pay attention and understand some of the things used to determine which woman He will apply. It is intended so that nothing unwanted happens in the future. Because we need to understand that marriage is a very sacred thing and cannot be done by playing games and not following religious rules. Meanwhile, if you're sure who the target is." Sahut Ajimukti later.

Manan once again just nodded.

"Other than that is there anything else, Jik?" Ask later.

"Yes, yes, Nan. The bride-to-be is not in the process of preaching with another man. This is based on the words of Prophet Muhammad SAW, A man is not allowed to propose a woman who has been proposed by his brother. And vice versa, women who have been preached, haram dripping the sermons of other men. In the process of preaching, women can accept or reject the man who proposed it, Nan. So when applying, it is better if the prospective woman is asked and awaited the answer first. This is so that no coercion occurs in the process of the sermon. Also, Nan. It is not recommended to apply for women who are in the Iddah period. Women who are in the period of iddah or have just been left dead, divorced by her husband, have a pause that is not allowed to marry again. If the period is not finished, then the male side must wait first and is prohibited from applying to him frankly." Clearly Ajimukti later.

"Hmmm, yeah, Jik. I understand that." Sahut Manan's.

"So even then you will escape the accusations of dating is haram, Nan. That's because you've already preached it." Ajimukti also followed.

"You're right, Jik."

"Because basically, Nan. Islam not only deals with marriage, but also with the sermon. In the Qur'an Allah SWT said, There is no sin for anyone who invites women by hiding or only with a desire in their hearts to marry them in your hearts. Allah understands that you will speak their names, so do not mention the marriage vows to the women in secret, except to speak, to them an inscrutable word. And do not be determined or determined to have a marriage, before the woman has finished her term. And know that Allah is All-Aware of all that is in your hearts, so fear Him and know that Allah is All-Forgiving and All-Forgiving. It corresponds to the Qur'an letter of Al Baqarah verse 235, Nan. You can find it later." Say Ajimukti later.

"In the hadith you can also find this, Nan. Prophet Muhammad SAW forbids anyone to buy goods that are being bought or bid for by his brother, and the Prophet also forbade a man to ask a woman who had been betrothed until the one who asked her to leave the woman or allowed her to." Continue Ajimukti after.

"Yes, Jik. I've heard that too."

"But, Nan. There are things you need to remember. Although the sermon is one of the stages or processes before marriage, it is not included in marriage. So, even though they have been preached, they will still have restrictions that must be known by the bride and groom." Ajimukti.

Manan nodded his head understandingly.

"Because even with the beginning of the Khitbah, it does not mean making the relationship between a male and female pair halal. Both should remain within the corridor of Sharia. Even though they have been preached, they must keep each other's deeds and attitudes that are forbidden by religion. In addition, they must also keep each other away by keeping a distance between the two sides." Continue Ajimukti later.

Again Manan just nodded.

"And the other thing you have to remember, is tempo, Nan. Or time." Say Ajimukti later.

"I mean, Jik? Tempo or time how is that?" Ask Manan later.

Ajimukti smiled a little. "The length of the sermon and the wedding should not be too long, Nan. Both parties must rush the marriage to keep away from slander and various things that seem less good." Said later.

"Wow, yes this, Jik. This is what gage gage can't." Manan scratched the back of his head.

Ajimukti only laughed afterwards.

"Oh, yes, Jik. Khitbah. Is the sermon different from ta'aruf?" Ask Manan after a while.

"Ta'aruf it before the sermon, Nan. And that sermon after ta'aruf." Ajimukti.

"I mean, Jik?"

"Ta'aruf was an introduction, while the sermon was already into the application process, Nan." Ajimukti.

Manan nodded.

"As I said earlier, Nan. Knowing that is the main thing in the sermon. Meanwhile, if you think I already know Nafisa very well. Why this introduction is important, because it is also included in the requirements of mustahsinah or conditions that encourage men to find out more about women who will he preach. The male party has the right to know first the nature and character of the woman he will play, Nan." Clearly Ajimukti later.

Manan nodded in understanding once more.

"Now is the trend of ta'aruf, Nan. But of the many who use the name ta'aruf, not a few are precisely kejeglong, misguided, original and without basis." Continue Ajimukti while once again lighting his cigarette.

"You're right, Jik." Manan muttered in response to Ajimukti's remark.

"Eat, Nan. As young people, be us logical young people." Say Ajimukti while puffing cigarette smoke from his mouth.

"Before ta'aruf, arm yourself with science. Before the sermon, arm yourself with blessing. Ta'aruf still gives time to think, while the sermon, must hasten the marriage time. That should be the basis of our knowledge, Nan. Do not follow the trend if we do not have provisions, because usually an empty can, if struck the sound will be louder than the contents." Ajimukti said before finally returning to smoke a cigarette that he had not long ago started.

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