The charm of Ayra Khairunnisa
218 Ammar and his Character

Days change, months change. The marriage of Ayra and Bram is on the sixth year. Both of their children have entered the age of paud school.

Ammar looks very much like Ayra. His eyelashes are pliable and his nose makes Ayra's first child look handsome even though he was a child. A child must inherit the character of not only his mother but also the father. So Ayra was always tested for patience by her Son. Ammar's character that is difficult to control his emotions cage makes him throw a tantrum.

That morning Ayra had to cancel her agenda to be present in the interview of several people who passed the administrative selection at the company she was building. Ayra has built an online shop company called Qiam Shop for almost a year. An app for online shopping. A business opportunity that Ayra saw. And of course he built it as one of the solutions to the many orphans from the orphanage that Bram became his donor.

Also some students who may want to go to college but hit the funds. So he can take advantage of the application where he recruits workers from his scope first as well as students who study abroad and in the country but do not get scholarships he can do in some parts. Like the call center in his app he accidentally split shifts. So that these students can stay in college and still earn income from their work.

The car carrying Ayra stops at a paud school. Ayra is seen walking towards one room. When we arrived at the teacher's room. He said greetings. Ayra could see Ammar sitting on the sofa and lowered his head. The little boy heard his mother's voice quickly approaching Ayra. He kissed the back of Ayra's hand.

"Ma...."

"Sit Ammar. Mama should talk to your teacher's mother."

Ayra's voice sounded soft. His gaze was still affectionate towards his son. I don't know how many times Ammar made a tantrum in school until Ayra had to come to school. This time, it made Ayra quite panicked. The parents of the child who was struck by Ammar did not accept his son being beaten until he bled.

Ayra sat in the chair in front of the table of Ammar's mother before greeting the teacher.

"Sorry Mom interfered with Ms. Ayra's time. But I have to say that Ammar had a fight with his friend"

Ammar quickly replied in self-defense.

"Not fighting Mom. He bullied Qiya and pushed my sister down. Alma pushed him into the got."

Ayra turned her head towards Ammar and closed her lips with her index finger. Signs that the child is silent. From the blink of the mother's eye. Ammar kept silent and lowered his head.

"The theme is named Riki until it bleeds his nose. And his parents are in the UKS room now. They want to meet Ammar's parents."

"I'm sorry Ammar Bu teacher. Do I need to be taken to a hospital?"

"No need!"

The high-pitched voice of a man from the direction of the entrance. Ayra and Guru Ammar turned to the source of the voice. Looks like a man wearing a suit with neatly combed hair. She looked at a woman next to the man. She was the wife of Mimo.

This is the third time his youngest son was hit by Ammar. The boy whose nose was gagged with cotton was still seen crying in his mother's arms.

Ayra stood up and blocked Mimo, who was about to pull Ammar's collar.

"My child may be guilty of hitting your child. But that doesn't mean you can be rude to my son. Because he's underage."

"Cu uh. If you can't educate your child, just put it in the pesantren. Not in a modern school like this. His barbaric attitude could endanger others. This time I will not forgive your son. I'll sue you and your family."

Ammar is hiding behind Ayra's body. She is seen holding the tip of Ayra's hijab and twisting it. There was fear in his heart hearing Mr. Mimo's threat. Not to mention the sharp eyes of Mr. Mimo also made Ayra's eldest son directly cover his face with the hijab behind Ayra.

Because for young children, the threat is felt as pressure, because the nature is that children like to play around. Even for the age of Ammar is still in the phase where the early stages of child growth and development. At this stage, a phase of a child is living their world by playing. However, at this stage, a child must still be educated and monitored by adults.

Like the one thing that caused Ammar to hit Riki was because when playing together. Riki snatches Qiya's toy, because Qiya feels it is her toy. He also kept the toys in his hands. However Almahyra who is also a school with Ammar and Qiya encourages Riki. There is a push between Riki and Alma. And it ends with Alma falling into the got that is on the right side of the school garden.

Ayra felt that Mr. Mimo's way was wrong in solving the problem. He asked Mimo to speak carefully and asked to sit down first. Because really the devil will be very good at whispering the heart of everyone when emotions especially when we stand.

Ayra turned back and looked down. He rubbed Ammar's arms and head.

"Generic. Sit in front first. Mama wants to talk to Riki's parents."

"Good Ma."

Ammar walked out of the teacher's room. Then Ayra looked at Riki. He sat in front of Riki. He held Riki's hand.

"No. I don't want to. He's naughty. He's a wayward. He's always bothering me."

Ayra smiled towards the boy. Then he stood up.

"I'll teach my son what it means to err and apologize Mr. Mimo. And for trouble you will sue me and my husband. I am ready, because are we not going to account for everything our children do in the hereafter? I represent my son. I'm sorry."

Ayra walked towards Bu Ammar's teacher and wanted to say goodbye because she felt it impossible to talk to Riki's parents who were still emotional. The teacher was not struggling because Mr. Mimo was the son of the owner of the school foundation.

When Ayra will step out. Mr. Mimo's wife quickly threw provocation at Ayra.

"I will forgive your son but on condition that he leave this school. He's been terrible. He hit my son three times already."

Ayra sighed and turned around. He smiled at the two Rikis.

"Then what about Alma who is also encouraged by the mother's child. This is not the first time Alma has been pushed by Riki."

"Lied ma. Lies. The three of them ganged at me. I'm defending myself dong ma."

"Astaghfirullah's.... Patience Ayra."

Not Ayra trusts her son one hundred percent. But Ayra quality time with her children which almost every day always he will ask his children after school what happened. And from almost every story his children tell that the child named Riki almost every day to disturb other children. Moreover, Alma, Yazmin's adopted white was often bullied with the word illegitimate child by Riki.

"That's just how mommy. Tomorrow, when we are both calm, we will talk again. In the meantime. Mom and Dad go home first. Riki needs a rest too."

Lerai teacher Kindergarten Ammar.

Ayra came out of the room. Interestingly, Ayra did not show anger, had a sour face, and rebuked Ammar loudly when he left the room. Even though Ammar is guilty. Ammar defended himself as Ayra held her hand towards the parking lot.

Arriving home, Qiya was in her room. Ammar Ayra took him to his room. Ai acted as if nothing had happened. Until lunch is over. Ayra met Ammar who was in the room.

The way Ayra behaved when she heard the phrase, 'I am innocent Ma' is to leave Ammar alone in the room and ask his son to write down what happened at school until he finally hit Riki.

Mental development and knowledge of children will continue to grow with age. They know more about what they want. Sometimes this makes it hard to direct. In fact, in some cases, child versus parenting often happens all around us.

The attitude of children who can not be regulated is usually arrested by parents as a behavior against, provoking emotions, and in certain circumstances, parents actually hit the child as the last resort ‘educat’ while making it a deterrent.

Therefore, Ayra used a good exemplary approach and was easily understood by the little boy, supported by Ayra's face which showed absolutely no anger towards her son. He actually gave a swipe at Ammar's head. And a smile she put on before leaving her son.

Another interesting thing is the pause given by Ayra. When Ammar felt right and innocent when he hurt his friend. That was what Ayra wanted to bring up in Big Brother Qiya's heart. His mistake, Even though Ammar's reason was right, he defended his sister and helped Alma who was encouraged by Riki. Ayra gave Ammar no space or time to feel pressured or blamed. Kids are different from adults. Even he could not understand if he was guilty if he did not feel and realize himself.

"Ammar write first. Mama will come here for half an hour. Mama wants to see Qiya first."

For almost the last 3 years. Ayra educated Ammar and Qiya in her own way. Ayra never once said harshly and blamed her son even though his son was wrong. But he also never defended his son in front of others even though his son was right in his attitude but in the wrong way.

Really the world of children is a world that cannot be viewed thoroughly with an adult perspective. Therefore, Ayra treated Ammar and Qiya as children, not as adults, so that whatever mistakes she made, she did not blame him, but gave him the right example.

Advice and words do matter, but for children, examples of example are much more meaningful. So Ammar and Qiya never spoke harshly to anyone. But the temperament character of his father who declined to Ammar did require patience to educate Ayra's children.

Ayra treated her two children as children. Never force the adult's view on them. Because the truth standards of a child are not the same as adults. The truth for them is still alternating, according to their taste for pleasure.

Really Uswatun Hasanah is needed in the growth and development of children. And that's what Ayra instilled. Because Qiya and Ammar will be parents in the future. At least they will imitate the style of educating both parents while educating them in childhood.

To be Continued....