The charm of Ayra Khairunnisa
63 Husband and wife are partners

Ayra went down the stairs while carrying Raka. Ayra actually did not want to interfere with her sister's household problems but saw the two were not in a good emotional condition. So he decided to mediate between the couple.

Ayra pulled Rani A little away from Bambang. Bambang snorted in annoyance as Ayra separated them.

"Bam. I'm sorry I didn't interfere in your affairs or I defended one of you. I hope you don't discuss any of those issues when one of you is emotional. Calm down each one of your hearts."

Because of the condolences on Ayra Bambang also obey Ayra's request. He sat on the couch near them. He stared at some boxes and paper bags that looked like Rani's groceries.

Ayra also invited Rani to sit on the sofa. Bik Asih who came because he heard the commotion conveyed by the art that just happened to pass quickly approached. Ayra asks Bik Asih to look after Raka for a while. Bik pasih also took Raka to another room.

Ayra rubbed gently on Rani's back.

"Is my husband's family used to being rude? May this be only the prejudice of the servant of Rabb. Forgive the Servant who is too quick to judge."

"Well, now I'm asking you. What do you think if your wife is shopping beyond the limits of her husband's ability?"

Ayra took a deep breath and said Istighfar several times in her heart.

"Truly the devil is always in every heart that feels more knowing, more pious. Protect the servant from the temptation of the damned devil Rabb."

"Imam Al –Ghazali in An-Nawawi, Sharhu Muslim. Juz III, among the obligations of the wife is not to waste the property of the husband, but is obliged to take care of it. Therefore, the wife should not spend the husband's money unless she gets permission from him.

As for the permission in this case there are two kinds, namely the first clear permission (sharhi). Both permissions are understood from the custom, such as giving a piece of bread to the bearer and, for example, where it is known according to his custom that the husband gives up the expenditure. That way, it has been obtained permission even though the husband does not openly say it. Wallahu a’lamu bis shawab"

Ayra confirmed her sitting position. He looked at Rani and Bram alternately.

"In this way, a wife who is wasteful and likes to waste her husband's money, can be judged from two sides, namely the first is not sinful if the husband allows and is able to fulfill his wife's wishes.

Second, it is sinful if the waste is not with the permission of the husband. For the duty of the wife is to obey her husband, receive a living with roomy chest and manage it well. Especially if the husband is not able to fulfill it, it is feared that the husband will look for property in a way that is not lawful just to obey the will of the wife.

But let's look at the context of the problem that occurred. Even if Rani was wrong to buy things without your permission Bams but as a husband, you are not allowed to do arbitrarily to the wife."

"No, don't just want to be right. I've told you Ay a lot. Listen to my explanation. But whatever it was he decided from his point of view. He who works I do not. Now I try to close my body, which I usually use hot pant more often. Is it wrong if I as a wife want to change a little at least I wear clothes that are covered even though not veiled. Especially now that there is a mother in this house. And you're the one who makes me feel uncomfortable with my clothes, Ay."

"Ah. What a charm you can make my stubborn wife can change her appearance a little because of you Ay. Even I'm just hinting at you to vent my emotions. My respect for you and my love for you is the same as my love for Bram."

Rani on the sidelines of her sentence earlier sobbed explaining to Ayra the contents of her heart. Ayra hugged Rani. And back the swab after the swipe he gave to Rani.

"Shhhhttt. Your intentions are good Ran, the way is not right. Man is indeed a place of khilaf and sin, so repentance is the way to be taken.

And it's not good to tell your problems to others Ran. Suppose now maybe you need a dumpster then I try to keep your trash from going anywhere. Although the task of being a litter box a wife is her husband. And vice versa."

Bambang also tried to open one of the paper bags. He saw one tunic and shirt and cotton rayon material. That Ayra saw when Bambang took the object out of the paper bag and stretched it until it was clearly visible model and material.

"This is the first garment Rani bought quite covered and long."

"Yes for me, in the household should be other than his Rabb as a place to complain then the husband or wife who became a partner in their lives should be able to become a garbage box. Instead of him throwing it away on others until others know the disgrace of our family.

And it would be nice if the wife is throwing her trash, the husband is able to be patient first listen to wait until it is closed and only given advice if there is something wrong from the garbage that was thrown away earlier.

Try if Rani complains to others who cannot be trusted then it will be a material ghibah the person. Abi and umi I told Bams. So that person should not even make the sin of that person more. Yeah, well, with us not making him worship us, that's enough in society."

Rani had slightly subsided her crying and opened some pape bags.

"Let's see if I've ever bought a shirt like this. Keep trying to see first this note is very cheap compared to the items that I often buy Bams. You are if there is a problem outside do not take it home. I've got you, you've got to have a problem outside."

"Ah. I'm sorry Rani. You are always patient with me like this. I thought you were collecting branded goods."

Bambang was silent, he realized that he was thinking about something, but he could not tell anyone. He also realized that he liked to be angry when his mind was divided by a problem behind his humorous nature.

Bambang saw some notes on the table. He rubbed his forehead.

"Bams, let me as your sister's wife here give you some advice. If you allow. I'm new to this family and maybe we just got to know each other."

Bambang also recalled several times if Ayra was always right but never demeaned anyone when he explained something. So the younger brother of Bramantyo also allowed Ayra to convey his advice.

"Say Ay."

"According to Imam al-Ghazali, one of the ideal forms of relations between husband and wife that can be one of the pillars of household harmony is to treat the wife well and respect her position, considering the wishes, and the, his feelings, and his opinions. However, the husband also must not be caught off guard and out of control, or even drift in the dominance and desire of his wife.

The wife must respect the husband and obey his orders as the head of the household. But on the contrary the husband cannot act arbitrarily towards his wife, and must treat her well and keep her feelings, with a pattern of mutual respect and mutual respect. Of course, the ideal of the formation of an Islamic family to present a family that is sakinah mawaddah warahmah, can be realized.

I really do not mean to patronize, I am still learning in theory to reach the family of Sakinah mawadah warahmah. But my love for my husband then, I also have a responsibility so that you achieve the same goal. Because I can see clearly how Bram's mas should be fighting with papa when he wants you to come back."

"I'm sorry Rani. I'm having a problem.I think you're shopping for bags and shoes again that's enough in your closet. I can't if I have to give you the need to class to collect branded bags. As was your custom when you were in your family."

Bambang's voice sounded quite slowly no longer full of emotion and his forehead was wrinkled.

"But I was able to make it happen!."