The Father Boy
ALA191'S CHAT. Life phase
"Prospective son-in-law?" ask Flowers with round eyes blooming.
"Yes, marriage. Is it marriage?" The flower turned towards Hema, then she smiled broadly at the Flower.
"Well, what is the purpose of marriage?" The flower took one pillow and hugged it.
"Towards his jannah."
Ck, pakwa reply is so pretentious. Why did I say pretentious? Because he is not so.
"Marriage is the next phase of life. You're wrong, if you think marriage is for n****t every day. Because there are times, we get bored with a partner. There are times when we try to avoid our partner because we are upset. The point of the marriage is, so that you can face all the problems together. Take care of the baby for example, you will know the pleasure of taking care of the baby together. His tiredness, his sleepiness, his sadness, his happiness, his pleasure, his pain, the same with the people you love. Likewise with other problems, economic cakes, about parents, or even third people. The problem when faced alone is hard, when together with people you love is easy. Happiness is also doubled, if with the people you love. You will know the pride of being able to have your own home, your own vehicle, or just your own mattress. Since there is a struggle, there is a small prayer you pray." Father came forward to explain.
As he used to tell me, marriage is the next phase of life. There is no one who suddenly fits, adjusting to the nature of the partner to fit.
My father was, is not the figure he is now. My bio was not the same as it is now. But they try to try and get used to, in order to be comfortable with the nature of each partner.
It was not me who spoke like this, but they when giving advice comfortably. Advice given in the midst of chatter and warm jokes of the family.
"Meaning, there's a second part I'm a widow. There was a second party where men cheated on me and other girls hamili, there was a time I rearranged my heart and sanity again. If it was a phase, it would be repeated or rotating." Flowers are like having a trauma in a marriage.
"It depends how the man is and how you are" Pakwa added later.
He is the center of attention now.
"Cheating is a lot of factors, but it's definitely your choice. Dad used to be filthy, but Dad never admitted that Dad was having an affair. It's different, but it's often equated with hurting. Actually, chat with other women is said to have cheated. Dad never chat, never accidentally go to another woman, or intentionally adulterate with another woman, but his mistakes in the same outline, make Dad into the category of cheating even though he does not feel cheating. This case, if the woman is difficult to be given understanding yes will also break the household. There are some cases out there like this, besides Dad of course. Some women are siding with the husband, some women buy talak, various choices are taken because it is a third person problem like this is sensitive. I don't mean to be proud, even outsiders already know the real story, I just make myself as an example, so as not to imitate you, let you know the risks. Bad, blamed by everyone, no one to support, fall down, live awkwardly, die not want to taste. If you can be yourself, refrain from chatting the opposite sex, do not come to reunion, do not come to school, Junior High School, High School, college, let alone ex-boyfriend. This is not for Hema alone, for Bunga and Bang Chandra as well. Happiness is determined by our own time and struggle, not by new people. I've lived with new people, it feels worse than any life before. Economy, hours of sleep, food, comfort, happiness and home too. Ordinary discipline, the wife follows her own rules, suddenly can a wife who can not be governed by the rules we make, one thing that makes the life of men chaotic. So for example, the cake at half-five in the morning, the wife must wake up first, continue to bathe in prayer, wake up husband, take care of the child who just woke up too, the husband is done, he ready to eat breakfast, continue to change breakfast, then the husband leaves for work, the wife can continue to clean the house, while relaxing to take care of the child. Cake is an example that Dad applied, but new women can not be arranged and broke, yes we are bothered ourselves. Rather than a random schedule, it is better to live outside the home with a focus on work. Don't think it doesn't matter, it's a big influence." Father alternately looked at me, Hema and Bunga.
"Well, I've heard about the wife's obligations only in bed. Husband who must take care of food, clothing, home, education, attention." Flowers straighten their fingers one by one.
"Rubber, not wrong. If her husband is able, while she is also obliged to make a living born. He means able, he can for time and energy can take care of homework. At the time of the incident, Dad's economy was not stable and was still said to be crawling. Father can only afford a living born a day fifty thousand, if you have to rent the services of a domestic assistant, Dad can not afford it, while Dad was tired of working outside, and I was tired of working outside, Dad was a rough job besides taking care of the material store at that time. Don't get me wrong, the boy's a wife's business. So why the sonny must be a wife who understands religion and good morals, because to provide education to our children. Husbands also have a role for this, so there is a mention that men can be damaged households if they do not have religious knowledge. Women do not understand religion, this is the duty of a educated husband. The husband does not understand religion, the wife's children also damaged, so why it is called the household is damaged. Dad does not emphasize formal education to the child, but want the equivalent of Dad's cake because the effort that Dad left later was a lot, Father's children must have a basic. Body fatigued, tired of the mind, Father and Biyung still make it a habit to teach to our children until now. Routine, no holidays. Prayer memorization, prayer practice other than mandatory, because it must have been taught from a small. Well thank God, go down to the grandchildren." I smiled proudly.
"Sorry, Dad. In Bekasi and here too, there is a place provided for children to teach." Hema open the sound.
My time is also there, so teach double. Outside the house after Ashar, at home after Maghrib.
"There is no harm from an early age to have provisions from home. Father's son, six years old already can pray the corpse. Father's children all, already understand how to take care of the corpse at the same age. Dad deliberately taught early on, because if later his parents are not there, they can intervene to take care of the bodies of his parents. My intention at that time, until deliberately cut down a banana tree as an example that it was a corpse. Buy a shroud, to learn how to cut the shroud and how to cover the body with a shroud. Yes that's the closed one, the banana tree. I repeat every year in their childhood, knowing that the brains of these children forget easily."
Indeed, if it was my parents to his children, honestly I until the nightmare because of the banana tree berkafan it. But thanks to the teachings of my parents, I always intervened to take care of the families who died, including my wife yesterday.
"What should serepot be the picture of being a parent, Dad?" The flower restrains her temple to keep looking at dad.
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