Assalamualaikum Ustadz Ku
132. Explanation of Season Three
Make all brothers here, the author wants to try to explain yes, about the conditions and situations that occur between Syafa, Firman and Laila. Here the author is not describing that the second wife is better than the first wife. No, please don't misunderstand me.
It's just that, the incident in this novel is Firman who had fallen in love with Laila for the first time when she was in High School. But they split up abruptly due to Laila getting bored with their monotonous relationship. And there arose a curiosity in the heart of the Word about Laila.
Word even destroyed his youth, with frequent drunkenness, wild races, even ever touched drugs. Just because he wanted to express his disappointment left by Laila at that time. His parents, frustrated by the circumstances of their son, finally decided to match up with Syafa, the son of their own private driver.
When Laila and Firman meet again, initially Firman wants to take revenge on Laila. By trapping Laila and then forcing her to marry him. Word who still feels revenge because Laila left him unilaterally, wants revenge on Laila.
But as it turns out, she realizes that she loves Laila too much and eventually re-enters the charm of Laila.
Laila herself did not accept the marriage at first and she kept trying to find ways to escape the Word.
But various events caused by Syafa, which resulted in Firman many struggle and sacrifice to prove his love to Laila. So as to make Laila, finally can see the power of love Word against him. All of that caused Laila to wake up. Laila felt that she had fallen back in love with the Word.
Perhaps if Shafa listened to the advice of his mother-in-law to be patient and let the Word who is currently euphoric because it was reunited with his old love that has not been completed. It is possible that the story between Syafa, Firman and Laila will be different as it is today.
But Syafa who does have an explosive nature, she can't afford to see her husband love other women more. So that he justified various ways, even to try to kill Laila and also the child in her womb, so as to make the Word more ilfil to him. Even his own son felt very disappointed towards the overly rash and careless Syafa.
The author himself had experienced this kind of incident, where the author's husband loved one of his students and repeatedly asked me to wave the woman to be his second wife.
But at that time, I gave the condition to my husband, that he was the one who had to propose to the woman himself. I accepted her request to marry again. He insisted that I propose to the woman myself.
Then I talked about it with the head of the boarding school, where my husband taught. What happened to be that woman was his nephew and my husband was his sister-in-law.
Finally he helped us to solve our family problems, by holding a family meeting to discuss this issue, about my husband who wants to remarry with one of his students.
After the family trial, it was finally decided that my husband would leave the woman and forget his intention to remarry.
My husband made a letter of agreement on the stamp. That he would never meet the woman and the woman finally returned to Jakarta and left the boarding school where he studied religion for 6 years.
When I first learned that my husband turned out to be in a relationship through cyberspace with one of his students. At that moment I was raging. I threw all my books out of my house.
Until now my husband and the woman have never been in contact again. I don't know if it's behind me, I may not know. But he had promised that he would no longer send money nor get in touch with him anymore. In the real world or in the virtual world.
At that time I pretended to be my husband to beat the woman, using another mobile number, with my husband's profile. And I get proof that there is a relationship and my husband often sends money to the woman.
I chatted that woman as my husband. I said I would propose to her and she told me she didn't love my husband. Finally the chat I showed my husband to open his eyes, that he was dealing with something that was of no use at all. That he was fighting for the empty pot. The woman did not love him who only wanted the money. My husband finally realized.
My world was shattered when I found out that my husband was sending money to the woman every month. I read all their chats on my husband's phone, which was so frequent and also not like the talk between an Ustaz along with his sorority.
Return to the Word and Laila and Shafa. Sometimes we as first wives have to be wise. When it comes to knowing that your husband is interested in other women out there. Not by justifying various ways that will even make our husbands hate us more and love the other woman more.
A woman must be very sick when our husband loves another woman more. But there, our logic must be tested and our patience must be withheld. So that we can remain intact to maintain our household. However, there are children who will be victims when the divorce occurs.
It just so happened that my three children. Everything goes into the boarding house in order to realize their ideals, to become Hafiz and Hafizah.
That's where my husband started to think that he should be an example to his own children. And finally he was steady and determined to leave the woman and never connect again in the real world or cyberspace.
Sometimes when our husbands are more attracted to other women, it's out there. We, too, as first wives, must strive for introspection. What mistakes or shortcomings, we do to our husbands. It makes our husbands more attracted to other women out there.
From this novel, the Author himself learns to be more patient in addressing the problems of domestic life. That When the Love of a husband is no longer ours, that is where the beginning of the destruction of a household will begin and certainly our children will be the victims.
Logic and reason and common sense must remain in use. Do not use too much emotion in dealing with a strange problem called household. Home is the longest worship in our lives. That will not be easy and there will never be an end to the problems in it. Every household has its own problems.
There is no definite mathematical formula in solving household problems. Only patience, sincerity, trust in Allah and also confidence in the strength of each love. Believe me, that God has arranged our soul mate in the world and in the hereafter. With it will strengthen our hearts in fighting and trying to maintain the integrity of a household.
Hopefully this explanation can give a little understanding about the problem of Laila, the Word and Shafa. If there is an error in the author's understanding please forgive. Because after all I myself am learning to understand the meaning of life.
If there is a mistake in this novel, it must have come from me personally. If there is an advantage in it, it must be because God has breathed the inspiration of goodness in it. Take only his good but his bad to be thrown away. Just make it a life lesson. Which will kill us all.