Muara Kasih Single Mother
Improve Communication

Return to Bengawan City ...

It is very difficult to fix problems in the household. It takes a commitment to change and a willingness to find solutions. And after the solution is obtained, it must be done, applied so that the problem at hand can be completely resolved.

Now Firhan and Wati were sitting together in the living room. There was no television screen on because right now, Firhan was about to talk to Wati. Speak well and of course so that all problems can be solved.

"With us sitting together, there's something I want to talk about, Yang," Firhan said this time.

Wati responded by nodding her head. Of course he would give Firhan time and opportunity to speak. There's actually a lot they have to discuss together.

"Yes, Mas ... What's wrong?"

"In the space of over a week, I've changed, Yang. I don't put my own ego and passion first. I also learned to suppress my emotions. However, in a household all relationships should be two-way right? Well, why exactly now does it feel like you're keeping your distance from me? From the time you ironed your clothes a few days ago, to today. Why, I feel you're ignoring me" Firhan said.

Now Firhan used his time to talk to Wati. Tell him what he feels. Firhan was just trying to reveal, without having to show his true emotions erupting right now.

"I'm not oba, Mas. I also know that rejecting a husband is sinful, but the most fundamental problem of both of us has yet to be solved. Is it, is all the trouble done in bed? No discussion and reconciliation?"

Wati. As a wife, she knew her sins. However, he wanted all the problems to be solved first. Discussed together, reconciled together. If one problem is not really clear, that definitely remains a pile of problems that will continue to grow and increase.

"What haven't I done? I'm not angry anymore. I'm not forcing you either. Tell me, what else, Yang?"

Now Firhan asks Wati to tell him what he hasn't done. Because, after picking up Wati from her house, Firhan was not angry. Firhan also did not impose his desires on Wati.

"I want Mas Firhan to change. The Javanese often said coughing was treatable, but the disposition was brought to death. But it was wrong, Mom. If we want to change, we can, of course" replied Wati.

There is indeed a proverb in Javanese that says that "watuk iso is treated, nanging character iku is digawa to death." This means that when a person is exposed to a cough, simply taking medication and coughing can be cured, can be treated. However, relating to the disposition of a person cannot be treated. Human nature will be carried to death.

However, Wati had a different view. As long as people want to change, they can change. Repentance and change are also related to changes in character and reason. Wati also wants Firhan to change.

"I will try to change" Firhan replied.

"Including for medication?" ask Wati.

This time Firhan was silent. After a while, Firhan gave an answer. "Yes, for you I want to get some medicine" he replied.

"Want medical or alternative medicine, Mom? I will accompany you," replied Wati.

It appears that Wati's efforts are not just demanding Firhan to seek treatment. However, Wati will also accompany her husband. Isn't Wati a good wife? To help her husband to seek treatment.

"Aren't you ashamed to accompany me on medication?" ask Firhan.

Wati quickly shook her head. "I'm not ashamed, Mom. I will be accompanying you. I'm ashamed, it's your arrogant attitude and feel everything you're going through now because of someone else's fault. Such a view is not true. Don't cover up the voice of our conscience with that kind of thing" Wati replied now.

Wati's assessment after a while of marrying Firhan, Wati feels that her husband is an arrogant man, a man who does not want to admit wrong, and instead blames others for what happened to him. Not judging her husband, but if Firhan could eventually turn in a better direction, Wati would love to.

"Bring up, Yang," Firhan replied.

Firhan listened to Wati's words, while permeating her. All this time in his mind is when apologizing shows that person is guilty. Wati had a different view. Moreover, a person who never apologized like Firhan, naturally found it very difficult when he was asked to apologize.

"If it's hard, we start together first, Mas. Try if there is a problem discussed well. If you're wrong, apologize. Starting from home, later it can be applied outside the house," replied Wati.

Actually all good habits, adab, and politeness start from home. Because, the house is the first madrasah for children, even parents are the first teachers for children. So, Wati also offered to start from inside her house first.

"That means you can't accept me for who I am" Firhan replied.

Wati quickly shook her head. "It's not a matter of accepting what it is, but getting used to the good things. It will slowly become a good habit. So, let's try it together," replied Wati.

Firhan. He was weighing in his heart. Is it true with what Wati just said or not.

"Alright," Firhan replied in the end.

There was a smile rising on Wati's face. At least her husband tried and tried. Indeed, if you have to improve, there must be encouragement and there are examples. For that, it is better for Wati to accompany her husband to change.

"When you can apologize. I hope you can apologize to your past. Don't blame each other. Remember my words first, maybe so our efforts so that in the future we can have offspring," said Wati.

Apparently there is a goal that Wati wants to achieve when her husband successfully apologizes and starts a good habit. Now, Firhan let out a long sigh. He himself felt unsure whether in the end, he could apologize to Ervita.

"I'm not sure I can do it" Firhan replied now.

"If there is a push from the heart it can be, Mas. Getting started is hard. However, when you have the courage to start, after it will feel easier."

Again Firhan fell silent because he was indeed unsure of being able to apologize for his sins in the past. It's too heavy. Because, so far Firhan still feels that what happened in his life is all because of Ervita.

"It would be better if you would apologize to your biological child, Mas. He was born by mistake, but he was innocent. Is there a Father who has a heart with his own flesh and blood?" ask Wati.

What Wati had just said felt very riveting in Firhan's heart. Does he really have to apologize to his son? Cook yes, a father should apologize to his own daughter? However, just now Wati said it was true that she was born by mistake, but the baby himself was innocent. Firhan was now a dilemma and riled up in his heart.

"That feels heavier," Firhan replied.

"However, when you want to apologize to your flesh and blood, you will truly feel relief, Mas. I guarantee that. God is happy because His servant will repent" Wati replied.

Again, Firhan fell silent. His heart is now stirred. Apologizing to Ervita alone he was not sure, especially apologizing to his own flesh and blood that he had rejected, he doubted his seeds, and was out of responsibility. It felt, Firhan felt that turmoil. Confused if you apologize later.

"I don't know whether or not" Firhan replied.

"It can be, Mas," replied Wati.

Then Wati patted her husband's shoulder briefly. "See if we want to sit together and talk to each other, communicating is easy. Some speak, some listen. Our communication should both be improved, Mas," said Wati.

Firhan who was silent now nodded his head. It is true that when Wati wants to sit together, one speaks, and one listens, it can certainly improve communication. Right, now Firhan could sense, that his communication with Wati had been bad all along. Because lack of communication makes emotions rise and often misunderstand. However, when they can talk like this it feels like they are closer and it turns out there are many things that can be talked about together.