Muara Kasih Single Mother
Parenting Chat

The Ervita family arrived in Solo when it was still noon. They continued by chatting together. Long time no see makes so much chatter to share together. Just like now, a lot of what they discussed together. In addition, there are also various snacks typical Solo served and also accompany to drink tea that afternoon.

"Taken eaten loh Mas Pandu .. do not just didiemin," said Bu Sri.

Pandu then nodded his head, then took Serabi Solo who served her in-laws. Serabi itself is a typical Solo food made with a mixture of flour and coconut milk. Usually served original with coconut milk taste, or with chocolate taste there is usually a message sprinkled in the middle. Actually, Pandu also hesitated because his mother-in-law seemed to serve all the food.

"The guide took the Serabinya, Mom," he said.

"Yes, Mas .. eaten, spent. Ervi, come ... eat too," said Ms. Sri.

Now Indi has played around the village with his sister. Baby Irene is being held by Uthinya. Ervita can relax a little. Mei and Tanto also joined. As a family, they felt so longed and could also meet it as if there were a lot of chatter just flowing.

"Irene is full ASI, Mommy?" ask Mei to her sister.

"Full ASI, Mei .. Indi was also full ASI until the age of 2 years. Hopefully for Irene also quite well, until Irene two years," replied Ervita.

Ervita is an ASI pro. He considered that the content of ASI was very good. Proper and balanced source of nutrition for all babies. In addition, babies who drink breast milk also have healthy digestion, have immunity or strong immune system. Therefore, Ervita this time also hopes to provide ASI for Irene until the baby is two years old.

"Me too, Ma'am ... This sculpture is also full ASI. It's just that, the drink is very strong," he said.

"It's okay. Until he was six months old all he needed was ASI. Don't give me any food, May," said Ervita.

Ervita warns Mei. That the baby until the age of six months he needs only breast milk. If given an early ASI Supporting Food (MPASI) when the baby is not six months old can make the baby experience stomach, intestinal disorders, and Sudden Death Syndrome can occur. This can happen because the MPASI given is not precise, such as the texture is too dense, so the baby's stomach is not ready to digest it. It can also increase obesity in babies. Choking risks should also be considered. Therefore, MPASI or companion food should be given when the baby is six months old. No need to compete to provide MPASI when the baby is not six months old.

"Yes, Ma'am .. I also read about parenting about babies aged 0-6 months. So, yes you can know a little. Understandably, the first and still civilian child, Ma'am," replied May.

Ervita nodded her head. "I used to when baby Indi also learned to use the internet really. Just ask the internet search engine, thousands of articles that can be trusted have come out in seconds and we can read it," replied Ervita.

Yes, now for all the things we want to know we can get by surfing using our smart phones. Does not require a lot of books, because there are also many sources on the internet that can be trusted.

"Yes yes, Ma'am .. if you don't learn, you don't know yes Ma'am. It's good at that."

Mei herself also felt so sophisticated technology. Learning can be done at home and at any time. The time is also more flexible. That's the convenience that mothers have in the millennial era.

However, now there is Bu Sri whose two eyeballs are glazed over. Feeling sorry when imagining Ervita when she used to babysit Infi herself. As a Mom, when she imagined how Ervita had her baby Indi made her feel sad and guilty.

"Mom still feels guilty when you gave birth to Indi first and alone, Vi. Sorry Mother who can not accompany you, can not help caring for Indi," said Bu Sri.

When reminded of that past, there is a guilt that presents itself. Guilt that feels so tight in the chest. Many times Ms. Sri apologized even though her heart still hurts and still feels guilty.

"In the past, Vi. But you must have been in pain at that time. You have maternity pain and no one is taking care of you. Even you are full time babysitting Indi when your stitch wound still feels so painful. If you are silent and suddenly imagine it. There is a guilt that arises by itself" said Ms. Sri.

"Mbak, used to give birth and take care of yourself that is, Ms Ervi experienced Baby Blues?" ask Mei now.

Ervita nodded her head. "Yes, experiencing. The peak of three days after giving birth to Indi, maybe tired, sick, and lack of sleep became one, I once Indi cry it was not my help. I cry beside him. Fortunately, when Mom and Mas Pandu came, I was invited to stay at her house. Slowly, my Baby Blues are healing" Ervita said.

Baby Blues is a syndrome or form of sadness and depression experienced by a mother after giving birth. The baby blues usually appear two days to three weeks from the time the baby is born. Baby Blues itself is a dangerous condition, because if left untreated it can potentially become postpartum depression.

Now when Ervita recounted her experience first, Madam Sri shed her tears. It is sad about the story of his son. When he was in a state of falling and falling, the family that was intertwined from the blood, actually did not provide any help at all. Fortunately there was a Hadinata family who at that time came and was kind to Ervita and Indi.

"Sad yes Ma'am," replied May. The sister who listened to the story from her brother alone, felt so sad. Can't imagine how her brother was doing. However, there is gratitude in Mei's heart as her brother is still surrounded by good people. There is a Hadinata family who sincerely love and accept it.

"Yes, that's sad. Being pregnant without a husband, taking responsibility for myself and my fetus, giving birth to myself, and becoming a single mother have all been my experience. Now, maybe I'm enjoying God's favor. My tears are rooted by God and replaced with happiness" Ervita replied.

Yes, everything that happens in human life is only a divine mystery. All the trials came and changed with laughter. All seasons pass. Not infrequently humans have to wallow in the valley of tears. It was as if there was no helping hand. However, when all the trials pass and are replaced with rainbows after the rain, then man can smile and interpret the life he has lived.

"So strong, Ma'am," replied Mei who was now also crying.

"Your mother is stronger than you think, Mei" Pandu said.

"Yes, Mas. So strong. If I'm crazy, maybe I'm going through it all myself" Mei replied.

Ms. Sri also shed her tears. Ervita's heartbreaking story. The experience of the heart that Ervita felt was very sad.

"Have not cried .. Now I'm fine" replied Ervita.

"Just remember what used to be such a pity, Ma'am," May replied.

"It's okay, my destiny line is like that. If I don't go through all the bitterness and the valley of tears, it could be that I didn't meet Mas Pandu loh" Ervita replied.

Pandu, Mei, and Bu Sri both nodded their heads. Realizing Ervita shows her maturity as a human being, a woman. Revealing his past bitter is a means to meet his true soul mate.

"Today I talked to Mother Earth, mbaknya Mas Pandu. Maybe all that bitterness is God's way of keeping me away from the people I'm not right with, and bringing me closer to my soul mate. Thank God I can accept everything. Thank God, God found me with Mas Pandu" said Ervita.

"Amin .. alhamdulillah O Allah," replied Ms. Sri and Mei simultaneously.

The conversation around parenting that eventually became Ervita's poignant story in the past. It all feels tight. However, when having a new perspective, all the sorrows and tears are a way to enjoy the greatness and greatness of God alone.