Muara Kasih Single Mother
Baby Blues
Being a new mom at a young age. At least shook Ervita's psychology. Although previously felt ready to be a mother, but so at the boarding house and only together with Indira make Ervita feel more emotional, more sensitive, even the first night at the boarding, by giving ASI to Indira, by giving, Ervita was also crying a bit there.
What made Ervita cry, she did not know either. It's just that his feelings have become so emotional and sensitive. Her tears just flow.
It was now the third day on which Ervita took care of Indira in her boarding house. Indeed, everything Ervita does itself starting from bathing Indira, giving ASI, even Ervita uses the time when Indira sleeps to wash her clothes and Indira. Rubbing it directly with his hand, until his wrist reddened from rubbing. Moreover, the baby's pup which is still in the form of Meconium who wears Indira clothes is more difficult to clean. Seeing her wrists red and sore, Ervita came back crying there.
"Oh my God, at a time like this, Vita really needs a friend. From leaving the house, everything Vita did on her own. Even the thing that Ervita never did, now Ervita has to do it" he said.
Being a mother is a new experience for Ervita. Many things he did for the first time, ranging from cleaning the pup, bathing the baby, giving breast milk, and also other things. The suture wound on his body was still painful, but Ervita already had to do everything herself.
As much as possible when Indira fell asleep, Ervita completed all the homework. So that when Indira woke up, Ervita was enough to wait for Indira and also gave ASI to her baby.
However, in these three days Ervita could not sleep, exhausted, and also felt so easily sad.
I heard knocking on the door in his room. Ervita immediately washed her hands first, and wiped her tears on her face.
"Yes, a minute ...."
Finally Ervita went to the door of the hostel and opened up who had come to the hostel during the day.
"What's the new Vita?" asked Bu Tari who had smiled and visited Vita that afternoon.
Not yet answered, Ms. Tari observed Vita's swollen face, and the wet part of Vita's clothes. Vita's hands were wet there.
"Mom" said Vita sobbing.
Yes, there is no denying there is turmoil in Vita's heart. The change of being a mother and the new responsibilities as a mother hit her once. There is a sense of what if you can not be a good mother, there is a sense of what if you can not take care of Indira well. As a new mother Ervita also felt overwhelmed to take care of everything on her own, including taking care of the needs of the baby.
"Loh, even cry," said Bu Tari who immediately entered and hugged Vita.
This is also the first visit of Bu Tari, after Ervita returned from the Hospital. However, every day there is an ojek brother online who came to send rice and vegetables to Ervita. Of course the rice, vegetables, and side dishes were from Bu Tari.
"Propay for Ervita ... I know for sure you are sad, tired, and overwhelmed ..just everything makes you strong and independent," said Bu Tari.
Moments later, Pandu apparently came and brought an apple to Ervita. Pandu was also surprised to see Ervita crying there.
"Ervi," he called as soon as he saw Ervita.
Suddenly, a call from Pandu made Ervita and Bu Tari unravel her embrace. With a hiccup, Ervita wiped her own tears. Then Ervita greeted Bu Tari's son with trembling lips.
"Mas Pandu" he said.
"Maa .. thank you, ma'am" replied Ervita.
Bu Tari then returned to speak, "Even cry, Pandu. If not, you can cry as much as you can alone" said Bu Tari.
The guide standing in front of the boarding gate just nodded his head, and then spoke.
"Maybe you got the Baby Blues, Ervi?" tanyakanya.
It was seen Ervita shaking her head, "I don't know," she replied.
"What is the blues?" ask Bu Tari to her son.
"Baby blues is a psychological problem that is usually experienced by mothers after giving birth, Mom," replied Pandu.
Yes, baby blues is a common psychological problem experienced by mothers after giving birth. This condition causes the mother to be more emotional and sensitive, such as easily sad, anxious, tired, irritable, frequent crying, lack of appetite, difficulty sleeping, and difficulty concentrating.
"Well, like that because what is the Pandu Tow?" ask Ms. Dance again.
"Many causes, ma'am .. could be due to hormonal changes. She said that women giving birth experience drastic changes in hormone levels. Then it is difficult to adapt because being a new mother takes time to adapt. Also lack of sleep, maybe all night Ervita stayed up while giving ASI to Indira."
What Pandu said was true, after giving birth, the body will experience drastic changes in hormone levels. At this time, the levels of the hormones estrogen and progesterone in the body will decrease. This can trigger mood swings or mood swings as well as feelings of fatigue and distress. Many new mothers feel overwhelmed to take care of everything themselves, including taking care of the needs of the baby.
Newborns' irregular sleep cycles cause mothers to be awake at night and take up much of their sleep. This lack of continuous sleep time will make the mother tired and uncomfortable. This can also trigger baby blues symptoms, such as feelings of sadness and irritability.
"True, it's possible that you were exposed to the baby blues Ervita," said Bu Tari. Hearing the explanation conveyed by Pandu made Bu Tari feel confident that it was possible, Ervita was exposed to baby blue. The crying Ervita can be due to the occurrence of a mood swing that makes her feel sad, and can also feel overwhelmed because it takes care of everything alone, the explosion becomes crying as a form of emotion over all the overwhelmed felt.
"Do not burden yourself, Ervi ...."
Pandu said that. In Pandu's thinking, it's possible that Ervita forced herself. Ervita does everything herself. Ervita felt overwhelmed to take care of herself and the baby.
However, what else if Ervita is alone and there is no family to take care of it and share the burden of this work. Stay up a few nights, and get up again at dawn.
"Go home Mom yuk, Vit .. There is a small house near the house Mother. If you are close you can help, at the kiosk to be taken care of by the Father and also Pandu," said Bu Tari.
"No need, Ms. .. Ervita is troublesome and burdensome to Mother" said Ervita.
"That's okay, Ervita .. indeed young mothers need help. The house was also empty, and was used to store batik. We can clean it up first. Want well," said Ms. Tari who invited Ervita to move into her house.
According to Bu Tari, indeed Ervita can be overwhelmed and constantly sad if doing everything alone like this. After all, there was a two-room empty house next to his house that functioned as batik storage. Bu Tari can invite Ervita to live there and also make it easier for her to help Ervita.