Lembayung Dusk
Flashback 1: The Merariq..

Mom Twilight

After a parent's meeting with the school, over my son's treatment of Kevin. Makes this chest pain..I admit I've never given her affection. Just the mockery and silence that I showed for the 3 years I lived with her.

From the baby to live with the mother until the age of 5 years,

The flashback

My name is Baiq Indrawati, I am the son of a resident in a village called Sade village Sasak tribe Central Lombok.The second child of 3 children, as well as the only woman.

My age is now 17 years old, amaq (father) told me to get married.because there.Sasak tribe has a tradition of eloping when getting married. A runaway marriage occurs only when a man and a woman both like and agree to marry. This custom is known as Merariq.

If the couple has agreed, then the man will “kidnap” the woman accompanied by relatives or friends who act as witnesses of the procession. Then the woman's partner will be entrusted to the man's family home and not directly brought to the man's house.

The next day, the family sent a messenger to the woman's family to inform her that her son was in their place. This notice is called Nyelabar.

The woman's place must remain secret from the woman's family. At the time of Nyelabar, the man's parents should not come. The group usually consists of 5 people. They went to the local customary chairman called Kliang as a form of respect for Kliang, as well as asking for permission.

After that, the next group of Nyelabar to the home of the parents of women. They are not allowed to enter the house. They will sit cross-legged in the front yard. Then 1 person will act as a spokesperson who delivers the news to the woman's parents.

That afternoon, after school, I was told by Amaq to go back to the village. Because the distance between Mataram and the village where I live is not too far away.

"side kadi merariq dait iye(you must marry her)! " Say amaq.

"Ndeq. ndeq man tao pole! (no. I don't want to!) " I refused amaq's orders. Because I'm still in 2nd grade High School and haven't graduated yet.

I grew up and lived with amaq rari (uncle, brother) mother, from childhood I have rejected every village custom because it has aspirations to become a teacher, and want to go to college far away from here.

When other women at the age of 10 years, they began to be taught to weave and then married young at the age of a dozen years, I even ran away wanting to move and live in Mataram only. I want to be smart.Want to be high school and want to be successful.

"Sides.. Edaq(you can't resist)! " Shouted amaq.Sambil passed into his room.

I also cried bitterly hearing the strict words of amaq that can not be denied.

"Ndaq piaq laloq angel!(don't put it in your heart! )" Inaq rubbed my shoulder.

"Side kadi koat, amaq side kojeng hard ate! (you must be strong, your father is hard-hearted! "

"Ndeq kembe-kembe inaq, soah-soah pole!(I'm fine ma'am, I'm fine!) " I hugged Inaq tightly.

"Nunas ampure over selapuq salaq pole, inaq! (excuse me for all my mistakes, ma'am)! "

"Tiang mele lalo(i want to go)! "

"Ape yaq de side gaweq? (what are you going to do? " Mom knitted her eyebrows.

"ampure inaq, pole mele escape! (sorry mom, I'll run! )"

Then I told her my plan later when 'kidnapped' by the man I'd made a match with. Inaq looked surprised to hear my plan, but then he said with a smile. "Onyaq-onyaq(be careful)!"

I hugged the inaq back and rested in the room, preparing for the day that they would kidnap me, whether that day came because If directly asked without kidnapping first, the family of women could be offended.

What astonished me was that the women in our village could not marry before weaving.

And elopement must be women and men who on the basis of liking the same, but I do not like the man who will marry me it. met him was never.. It means this is a kidnapping marriage.. Something's not right!

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It's been 2 days I skipped and didn't go to school, because I was locked up by amaq. He said wait for someone to kidnap me! I really don't understand .

So the King set up a room with a very strict guarding system. Then the king challenged, "Whoever kidnaps my daughter, I'll marry her to my daughter,"

From there, Lombok men have pride if they succeed in kidnapping their loved ones. So, if it has been successfully abducted, the family of women must be willing to marry his son to the kidnapper.

That's not fair to me !! but what is power..

Until one night, while in deep sleep. Suddenly someone entered my room quietly through the window, I who was in a sleepy state between conscious and not.

A man is kidnapping me, is he the one? I opened my eyes wide and tried to rebel.

"Lepaaasin. please lepaas! "

"You're quiet! or I could do something bad to you! " Take the man under threat. He also dropped me off.

Who her? and because it's night heading into the early hours.His face can only be vague.

Well, this time I relented. later if he's off guard I'll draw up a plan to run away like I thought before.

He clasped my arm tightly and dragged me to get into his car.

About 2 hours drive, we are now in a resort. I looked around.This is a 4-star resort on the Senggigi beach area.

The man booked a suite, with very comfortable facilities. Beach-facing units, which are equipped with AC and flat-screen TVs. Mosquito net is also installed in each bed to be able to sleep soundly. Mini bar and seating area are also available, Private bathroom provides bathrobe, shower facility and hair dryer.

"You rest first!" His order.

"Wait..who are you? "

"I am the man who will marry you later, so you have to obey for 3 days I kidnapped you. So that I can later face your parents and propose to you. "

"But we don't know each other! I don't want to marry someone I don't know! " resist me.

"In the custom in your village, this is called a kidnapping marriage? and even though you don't know me, but I like you, and I think that's enough, you don't want to marry me! "

"You know me? from where? "

"You don't need to know, the most important thing is that you're mine! "

"No. I don't want to! I need to know the origins of my future husband and I want to marry the man of my choice and the one I love. "

"Ahahahha.. Can you still reject me? all right. I'll introduce myself. My name is Dimas.. I am a native of Jakarta, and here I have a job. is enough? "

"Trus.. Can you tell me where I'm from? "

"I've seen you being with your friends in that village"

"Then why are you sure you're going to marry me? "

"Let's know. I gatau. first look, I like you immediately!"

"Ckkp.. " I'm clucking.

"You just rest! I'll lock all the doors so you can't escape here! I have a need for a moment! " The man left me alone.

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