Mas Duda Looking For Mom Milk
The Sandwich Generation
After signing the deal in a notary, Tama now returns home with a letter of agreement that has been signed by both parties. There was already no burden shown by Tama. After all, Tama sees treasure as a mere deposit from God. If now he had to give up his treasure, it meant that it was time that what was entrusted to man should be released.
Not as long as what is within our grasp will forever be within our grasp. However, there are times when we must also release it.
Entering the car, Anaya said to her husband. "Mas, to the mall for a while yuk .. take a short walk," said Anaya.
"Why do you love?" tanya Tama later.
"Take your walk. Yuk, I'm buying food. Mumpung Citra with Eyangnya. Leaving less than an hour or two is nothing" Anaya replied.
Anaya sees that this time Anaya needs to invite her husband to have a moment of fun. Don't think too hard about everything. So Anaya took her husband to the mall for a while.
"Yes yuk .. I'm anterin. You bought what?" tanya Tama has driven her car to one of the malls close to the notary's place.
"There, just mind yeah .. I think about what to do first," Anaya replied.
This time Anaya took the phone in her sling bag, but all she did was to send a message to Mama Rina and say that Anaya would take Tama for a short walk to the Mall. Anaya also said Tama might need some entertainment. Apparently Mama Rina asserted that asking Anaya not to rush. The matter of parenting Citra, Anaya could hand it over to Mama Rina.
Once you arrive at the mall, Anaya and Tama also take a walk and see the crowded mall.
"Watch the movie?" ask Anaya later.
"You're not sure I'm gonna eat, Yang?" ask Tama.
Anaya smiled there, "Let's not dizzy, Mas .. I know you must be dizzy now. What do you want, Mas? Eat, watch a movie, or what? This time do not spend money, just me," said Anaya.
"Well, I can't do that. If just ngedate thin yes I can still love ... still there, as long as you do not drink branded goods," reply Tama with a laugh.
Anaya then laughed anyway, "I just don't like luxury goods, Mas. Just do not always have to wear luxury goods as well," replied Anaya.
"Later if I have a lot of money again, I buy you darling .. now accompany me first. Even though your husband's account is nearing the limit, you still want to be with me?" ask Tama.
"Sure .. I will always be with you. After all, if you are married, money is used together is okay, Mas. Mine used to be okay too. Can I ask you a question?" ask Anaya later.
"You used to give that money to your former in-laws, huh?" ask Anaya.
Tama nodded her head, "Yes, yes like that monthly money, dear," Tama replied.
Anaya nodded her head. It's possible that from the second party, Tama's former in-laws felt that something was missing because Tama no longer gave monthly money to her ex-in-law.
"That's the name of the Sandwich Mas generation" Anaya replied.
"What sandwich generation is Yang?" tanya who was confused.
"This I got in the eyes of college lady Khaira last week, so the sandwich generation is the adult generation that has to bear the lives of three generations: her parents, herself, and her children. This theory first appeared in 1981 in the United States."
Anaya finally explained the generation of sandwiches to Tama based on the results of a lecture with Khaira last week. So, basically there is one person who is stuck, terapit and they are the ones who take care of their parents, themselves, and their children.
Many factors are behind it, but in general this occurs due to financial failure of parents. It is not the intention to blame completely, but parents who do not have good financial planning for their old age will have great potential to make the child into the next generation of sandwiches. And then the child will follow in the footsteps of his parents later as an independent parent in his old age, and in the end continue so on.
"After Mama Citra is gone, then stop giving monthly rations is it?" ask Anaya again.
Tama nodded her head, "Yes .. am I wrong Yang?" tanya Tama later.
"Yes, it's not wrong. Maybe they become dependent and also expect usually in each month to be loved and then you do not love again. So, yes I do, Mas" replied Anaya.
Anaya fell silent, then invited her husband to sit down first. "Said Bu Khaira ya Mas .. This sandwich generation will make this squeezed person so for the weight. We are just a piece of meat and are squeezed with bread larger than the piece of meat above and below."
Tama was silent, contemplating the words of his wife. Then he took a deep breath there. "Yes, I thought to help her family, because after the marriage of late Cellia fulltime became a housewife. Parents will think after their children work, children will help parents. If it keeps going this way, I don't know, Yang. It's just heavy. I also did not give because I thought I had to spend money from my salary to pay my son's Mother Milk, meet the needs of Citra, and a little need of mine. For daily meals I go with Mama loh," replied Tama.
Anaya smiled, clasped her husband's hand and rubbed the back of her hand slowly. "Hopefully after this the chain of generations of this sandwich ends. So, you as the breadwinner are not burdened and squeezed in the middle for supporting the generation above you and below you" said Anaya.
Tama then nodded her head, "Yes, pray I'm healthy so I can work and save again. For you and the image that I should also be happy with. Indeed, money is not everything, but if financially enough, life is also calmer, can survive for tomorrow and other urgent needs."