Mas Duda Looking For Mom Milk
Trauma of a Husband
Tonight, Anaya suddenly started ringing with Tama's words that had been said before that her husband was still traumatized. Anaya, who was sitting on her bed, thought that she was actually traumatized by her husband. Until when Anaya offered an inner need for the husband, in fact Tama always rejected it.
"Later .. I'm still traumatized."
Yes, it is a sentence that is always said by Tama even though this has been running 12 weeks after the delivery of Anaya. Of course, Anaya was also getting healthier and did not feel any more pain, but her husband always said so.
That night, Tama who had just entered his room also seemed to approach the wife and slowly climbed into the bed. Yes, the man took a seat next to his wife.
"Cock on my darling?" ask Tama slowly.
The man sat cross-legged on the bed, and leaned his head on the head board while glancing at Anaya who was sitting beside him. However, there was no answer Anaya gave. The woman chose silence and drifted in her own thoughts.
There was no answer from Anaya, Tama shuffled and sat down to his wife. "You why? There's a problem, here's the same story as me" Tama said by grabbing Anaya's hand there.
However, Anaya immediately shook her head, "No."
From Anaya's answer and also from his wife's face that seemed to be trying to avoid eye contact with him, Tama realized that there was indeed something Anaya was hiding now. Something definitely made Tama wonder there.
"Or .. Am I wrong? Why are you quiet?" tanya Tama with a sigh.
"You're not interested in me anymore, are you?" ask Anaya at the end.
When Anaya asked that, Tama's forehead creased there. What motivates Anaya to ask that question. To Tama, that was an unreasonable question.
"You're not interested in me anymore, are you? Maybe because I'm still fat and haven't come down completely. So, you say you feel the same as me," said Anaya who had cried there.
Tama sighed and shook her head slowly, "Why do you think like that. Why do you keep asking like this?" ask Tama.
There Anaya cries, and still tries to avoid being able to meet Tama. There is a sense of insecure in her, there is a fear that looms that her husband may no longer be interested in her. Because, already 12 weeks running after delivery, Tama always refused and also took care of Anaya well.
"I know, after giving birth I still have a lot of weight .. My body has not fully returned to my ideal weight. So, you don't want to, Mas" he asked.
Tama shook her head slowly, "It's not so dear .. I was traumatized. I've always wanted you, more that you know. Just, I'm still scared," Tama replied later.
"Fear what do you feel? Trauma is a lot of Mas .. So, what kind of trauma did you experience? If you don't want me to say it anymore," Anaya replied inching and throwing her face away.
Finally, Tama explained the trauma she had actually experienced to Anaya. Of course, so that his wife does not misunderstand. When Tama explained all that, slowly the sobbing of Anaya subsided.
"Kata Mas Bisma .. many people do not think, especially for men, that the process of giving birth to the water. Especially if for example in the process of birth it happened something urgent and beyond prediction, so I was the one affected by trauma. I may also lack the mental preparation to deal with unexpected and unexpected events" Tama told Anaya.
Yes, what Tama said was the right thing. Husbands can experience Post-natal Post Traumatic Stress Disorder (PTSD). Conditions in labor such as heavy bleeding, a very long labor process or the reaction of the wife during childbirth are called can be a trigger for trauma in men.
"The process of giving birth to a wife is in great pain, screams to cry. Or your time, suddenly your eyes dimmed by then, and I saw blood in the glove used by the Doctor. That emotion can be transmitted to the husband and imprinted afterwards. Although she does not feel directly, but the husband also witnessed and it can be very traumatic. I want to help you, share your pain, but I can't" I Tama with a long sigh.
Post-natal Post Traumatic Stress Disorder (PTSD) for women and men is different. For women who are the source of trauma more because of the sensation of pain and pain due to injuries obtained after giving birth. While in men tend to be remembered with the entire atmosphere recorded in his brain. It is the husband who sees everything directly, so there is most likely a picture of the process of giving birth directly.
Post-natal PTSD can also trigger behavioral changes. Some men become super sensitive and are too worried about the condition of their wives and children.
This response may be quite good because in the end the husband becomes more attention to the wife and also the child, as long as it is not excessive. The uncaring response may also be indicated by men who experience this condition.
While the response Tama showed was that she became so concerned with Anaya and her babies, but to be able to bully Anaya, Tama was actually scared. Yeah, scared that it's gonna hurt Anaya.
"Finally .. I'm afraid if I touch you, I'll hurt you. Shown in the moments when my chest rumbled and your eyes dimmed. I don't want to hurt you anymore, dear Anaya."
Ah, after saying all that Tama hugged Anaya so tightly. Relieved, being able to explain his current condition to Anaya. Tama did not want his wife to be misunderstood by him.
"Why didn't you say? You are always there for me, paying more attention to me and our children, but all this you feel alone. Evil," Anaya replied by banging Tama's chest there.
"I can definitely deal with it, I need some time Honey. You've been too sick with the birthing process and everything. I can't lose you, My Love," Tama replied.
"The rejection of you makes me misunderstand Mas .. I should as a wife be able to understand my husband's condition and provide support. Now, I just thought it was a no-no," Anaya replied.
Tama also smiled there, "Already, throw away his mind that is not easy. You are healthy and you recover first. Even though I was so longing, I couldn't if it ended up hurting you" he replied.
Anaya slowly pushed her husband's chest, her hands moved and cupped her face, with eyes that finally now meet Tama's eyes, Tama finally said.
"I'm ready. Maybe doing this will be your own medicine. Heal the trauma with me" Anaya said in a voice that so gently receded.