Mas Duda Looking For Mom Milk
Bad Prejudice
The news of Tama and Anaya's marriage was apparently quickly heard by Tama's former in-laws namely Bunda Rini and Harja's father. Not counting only one day from the wedding, now Mother Rini and Father Harja who is the parents of the late Cellia come to Tama's house. Yes, only about two hours after the return of Tama and Anaya from the hotel.
"Excuse me," the middle-aged couple greeted Tama's parents.
"Yes, please come in" replied Mama Rina who opened the door for her guests, as well as her besi. "Let's go in Bu Rini and Mr. Harja" said Mama Rina so kindly.
The two of them came in and sat in the living room. Bu Rini's view is now fixed on the wedding photo of Tama and Anaya which was just installed by Papa Budi on one of the walls in the living room.
"Tumben Bu Rini and Mr. Do you want to visit Citra?" mama asked carefully.
"Yes Ma'am, you want to meet Tama," replied Mr. Harja.
Mama Rina immediately called Tama who was in her room with Anaya and Citra. Mama Rina also tells Tama that Cellia's late parents came to the house. Tama who did not have any inkling finally came down with Citra holding, while Anaya followed Tama to come down and greet the guests who came.
Just like Tama, Anaya did not have a bad feeling either. Instead Anaya will try to get to know the family who was once in-laws for her husband.
As soon as he saw Tama, Anaya, and Citra coming down the stairs, Bunda Rini and Ayah Harja seemed to observe the three with an indescribable look in their eyes. Tama who had arrived in the living room would immediately give greetings to his former in-laws.
"How are you, Father and Mother," Tama greeted with a hand, shaking the hands of the parents of his late first wife.
"Well, Tam," replied Mother Rini.
Anaya, who was sitting next to Tama, finally decided to go to the kitchen. He thought if there are guests who come, it is better to serve drinks first.
"Tumben Father and Mother. Do you want to visit Citra?"
So far Tama has asked nicely. However, there was no answer given by Mama Rina and Papa Budi joined in the living room. The two also gave friendly greetings to Bu Rini and Pak Harja.
Even Anaya who came from the kitchen, the woman served two cups of warm Tea to Bu Rini and Pak Harja there. Anaya was friendly and lowered her body a little as a form of greeting respectfully.
"Look, are you really married?" ask Harja's father this time.
When Tama got married yesterday, Tama did not give an invitation to her former father-in-law. Because, Tama thought her former in-laws had also not come to his house for a long time and visited Citra. Communication was not there so Tama also missed to deliver a special wedding invitation to them.
"True Father and Mother, yesterday Tama married Anaya," he replied.
For both of Cellia's late parents, a year after her son's departure was a short time. They also hope that Tama will not marry again within a year.
"Is Tama guilty if Tama eventually chooses to remarry?" ask Tama politely.
Really, on what basis did Father Harja and Mother Rini question the reason for remarrying. One year for others feels short, but for Tama herself one year feels long. She survives and struggles to babysit her still-red baby. Even his two former in-laws had never visited Citra as his granddaughter.
"It shouldn't be so fast. You should have waited after 1000 days of Cellia's departure and then you got married" Harja's father replied this time.
Mama Rina and Papa Budi who were listening could only shake his head. "Sorry Mr. Harja and Ms. Rini, there is no provision that a widower can remarry after 1000 days of his wife's departure. Even in our belief there is no idah period for men. Tama's 'wait' period also lasted for 365 full days. It's worth it and worth it to get married again" Papa Budi replied.
Yes, according to some books of Fiqh is indeed explained if there is no idah for men. However, men who are left dead by his wife can do the waiting period, after all according to the norm is not good also to hold a contract when grieving. Give time to mourn, wait with your head down, and cool your heart to the Khalik.
"It's just too fast, sir. Only a year after the departure of Cellia," replied Mother Rini.
"In a year Tama also mourned, Miss Rini. He raised Citra with the help of Anaya. Sharing the burden of care together. Standing on one leg was not easy, so Tama made the choice to Anaya" explained Mama Rina.
What a wake up Tama, Mama Rina is a witness. Grieving and shrouded in dark cloudiness, all night staying up because of a sense of loss that always perched and haunting, and raising children even though Mama Rina knew that actually Tama was not able to, but she was not able to, but Tama always tried to do it. So on the basis of what Mr. Harja and Bu Rini consider that 365 days is a too short period of graduation.
"We lose our son every day, but you're as easy as it is to forget Cellia and get married again. Is that so Tama?" ask Harja's father.
Tama quickly shook her head, "No Dad, Tama always remembers Cellia's late home. You don't have to forget those who are gone to start a new relationship. Even Tama told Anaya that in the deepest corner of Tama's heart, there is always a side to Cellia and all her memories" Tama replied.
"Omong empty, there is no way you can give evidence because what is stored in the heart is not visible. At least you who can not keep your desire as a man can not fast for too long," said Mother Rini with so judges.
"Astaghfirullah Bu Rini .. I myself who witnessed how Tama for one year took care of his life, never played women, even who stayed up every night for Citra, our grandchildren? Tama himself, Tama himself did it. I witnessed how Tama was devastated and lost hope. Now, when Tama rediscovers her life expectancy and life-long craving, you are prejudiced and accusing the non-no" said Mama Rina.
As a Mama, of course Mama Rina does not agree with what was said by Bu Rini. Mama Rina saw for herself how Tama slumped, losing her appetite, until her eyelids blackened from being awake for several nights. Now, Tama's former in-laws easily judge that Tama married again because he could not keep his desire.
I chose silence. All the prejudices are being blamed on him right now. Even though he avoided still Harja's father and Rini's mother would accuse him of being a non-no.
For what Tama has done there is no need for him to say and rant to people who only prejudiced him badly. The fall of him, the destruction of his hopes, his inability to nurture Citra, to pressure himself to rise need not Tama tell. His family, the one who was with him every day, knew how Tama was for 365 days. Why did his former in-laws accuse him of not being. As if Tama's decision to remarry was wrong and not justified in the eyes of Father Harja and Mother Rini.