Sharing Love: Winning Without Love
Seasons 2 - Jealousy of Arsyilla
A few weeks passed, parenting two children with about the age of only 3.5 years is indeed an experience as well as giving a challenge for Khaira. Because, not as long as Arsyilla can be cooperative and sweet. There are times when the Eldest also whines and asks for more attention from Mama and Papa.
As now, since morning Arsyilla seems to wake up in a bad mood. So from opening her eyes, Arsyilla was already crying. Usually, she wakes up to take a shower first, but Arsyilla chooses to watch television channels for children.
"Syilla, why don't you take a shower? Shower first yuk Darling .. abis it's breakfast, just watched television." It was Khaira who reminded Arsyilla to do her routine as usual.
But Arsyilla was crying. "No Ma, Syilla wants to watch television first." he whined to his mother.
Khaira just kept silent to see Arsyilla who was whining this morning. Slowly Khaira sat down near Arsyilla, "Yuk, take a bath first yuk Darling ... After bathing you, Mama would bathe Shaka too." Khaira explained this time to Arsyilla.
But Arsyilla cried and refused to take a shower that morning. Trying to be patient, Khaira sat beside Arsyilla while holding Arshaka. A little patience might make Arsyilla want to take a morning shower. Waiting for a few minutes, Khaira finally persuaded Arsyilla again.
"Come Brother Syilla .. it's a shower first that morning. The smell of waking up and not taking a shower. Mama still has to bathe Shaka. Yuk, Shaka's mumpung bobok, Mama will bathe Syilla first." persuade Khaira again and keep trying to be patient.
Unfortunately Arsyilla shook her head again. "No Ma .. don't want to." Arsyilla refused it.
Feeling annoyed with Arsyilla's attitude today so different, Khaira then stood up. "Yes, Syilla just watched the television broadcast. Mama wants to shower Shaka." then Khaira just passed by leaving Arsyilla.
However, just a few steps Khaira walking, apparently Arsyilla again crying. Even this time her cries were sobbing. Khaira stopped her footsteps. I looked back at Arsyilla.
"What else is it?" ask Khaira now. "Syilla wants to see that, right? Just watch. No need to take a shower." said Khaira now with a voice that sounded more assertive.
When Khaira arrived in her room, Arsyilla caught up with her mother in tears. Put Arshaka in her baby box, silently Khaira immediately bathed Arsyilla. Take off the clothes she was wearing, then clean Arsyilla's body. The little girl was still crying. After the bath was over, Khaira then dried Arsyilla's body with a towel. After drying, Khaira began to apply telon oil on the body of Arsyilla, then put clothes on for Arsyilla.
"Syilla wants a good Mama" said Arsyilla sobbing.
Then Khaira looked at Arsyilla, "Is Mama no good, Syilla? Syilla want what kind of mom?" he looked at Arsyilla's face.
"Kan Syilla wants a good Mama" he said again. I don't know what a 3.5-year-old meant. The word that he wants a good Mama means broad, right?
Khaira was stunned by his daughter's words. Could she not have been a good mother to Arsyilla. There was guilt surrounding him.
After finishing dressing for Arsyilla, Khaira then left Arsyilla's hair straight under the shoulder with her bangs covering her forehead. Slowly Khaira looked back at her daughter's face.
"Syilla wants to play with Mama .. Syilla wants to read the same book Mama. Mama now plays a lot with sister." said Syilla in the end.
What Arsyilla said really made Khaira not think that her daughter thought that way. Though all this time, he has tried as much as possible to be fair in caring for his two children. Ignore the post-sew pain and also drowsiness that often comes during the day. Khaira really tried not to ignore Arsyilla. Unfortunately, the Eldest felt that his mother played more with his sister.
Slowly Khaira hugged Arsyilla, "Syilla feels Mama like that?" ask her slowly.
Arsyilla nodded her head, "Yes. Mama's playing with Syilla."
Actually it is natural that the Eldest feels all the affection, attention, and focus of his parents began to divide with his sister. If in the past, before his sister was born, all the affection, attention, and focus was poured out for the Eldest and now it must be shared with the Bungsu. It was some time that made the Eldest become jealous. This is what Arsyilla is feeling right now.
Trying to appease Arsyilla, Khaira then held her daughter. "Yes sorry, because now the time is divided first for Brother Syilla and for Brother Shaka. Mama ignored herself. All the time you have is for Brother Syilla and Brother Shaka. Later if Shaka's sister gets older, can play precisely Brother can be his playmate Kak Syilla. Kan Shaka is still a child, the more days he gets older Dear .. can lie on his stomach, sit, crawl, walk, talk, and can run. Share it first, dear." Khaira tried to give understanding to her daughter.
"That Shaka just bobbed and cried for ASI aja Ma.. Ask to be carried Mama continues." apparently Arsyilla also observed that her sister was just bobbed and cried for ASI.
Khaira slowly stroked the top of Arsyilla's head, "Syilla's sister was also like Shaka when she was a baby." Khaira then pulled the drawer that was on the nightstand at the side of her bed.
"This is a photo of when Syilla was a baby. Carrying Mama, drinking Mama's breast. Timang Mama's. Equally dear, the affection of Mama for Sis Syilla and Shaka is the same. You two are Mama's daughter and son. Mama's Beloved. Mama and Papa's most precious possessions." Khaira explained again to Arsyilla.
Slowly Arsyilla nodded and hugged her mother, "Syilla loves Mama" he said by immersing his head in her chest.
Khaira smiled and kissed the top of Arsyilla's head, "Mama also loves Syilla" he said with a sense of haru.
"Later if Shaka's sister is bobok, Syilla play Yes Ma".." he asked this time to his mother.
Khaira nodded, "Definitely Dear Mama will definitely accompany you to play when Shaka is broken. Now Mama get breakfast for Syilla well, Mama just bribe here while taking care of Sister, want?" he gave it to Arsyilla.
"Yes Ma .. would." he said with a nod of his head.
Khaira breathed a little relieved, so long persuaded Arsyilla finally succeeded as well. In terms of parenting and taking care of children, Khaira is willing to pay attention to herself as long as what her child wants she can give. All mothers will do the same. When the stitch wound is not completely dry, you have to ASI-hi, babysit the Eldest, while taking care of the kitchen, and other homework. That's a sign of a mother's love.