An Overdose of Love
Persuading Let Not Be Sad
Sadness is a part of human feelings. Prophet Muhammad SAW felt sadness when he died uncle who always protected his mission in Makkah, Abu Talib. Following then also died his beloved wife, Khadijah RA. Sadness also plagued the Prophet when his son, Ibrahim, died. The Hadith in Sayyid Sabiq's Fikih Sunnah mentions that the Prophet was seen shedding tears when Ibrahim died.
This shows, a person should be sad even cry if someone dies. However, he was strictly forbidden to do lamentations and screams.
In a hadith from Umar bin Khattab RA, he said if the Prophet SAW said, "A corpse will be punished in his grave for being mourned." In another account, "As long as he is mourned." (HR Muttafaq 'Alaih).
In the syarah Riyadush Shalihin is mentioned the word maa niikha 'alaih which has meaning while he is mourned comes from the word an-niyaahah. The meaning is to mourn the corpse by crying loudly and mentioning its nature.
The hadith is much parsed by Shaykh Salim bin Ied al-Hilali. The first meaning is that the hadith clearly implies the lamentation of the mayit. Some scholars differ in their opinion in frightening the hadith. Some argue that the hadith is only intended for those who used to mourn corpses.
There are also those who think this hadith is intended for someone who willed to the family to mourn his corpse later. This hadith is also intended for those who neglect to forbid their families not to mourn it. There are also those who scare this hadith that the corpse is punished according to what the family recorded.
For example, if someone who during his life wronged anyone, then his family lamented by mentioning major acts in the past. Then the angel struck him and said, "Have you been like that!"
Ibn al-Qayyim al-Jauziyah in his Tahdziibus Sunan argued that the corpse would feel sad and tormented because the living cry it out.
The Kingdom of Saudi Arabia's Lajnah Daimah also prohibits some acts in lamenting mayit. Muslims are prohibited from doing nadb, namely mentioning while counting the major virtues.
The dalil that shows his fragrance is the hadith of Abu Sa'id RA. He said, "Rasulullah Shallallahu Alaihi Wassallam cursed the woman who wailed and listened to him." (She Abu Dawud).
It is also forbidden to speak, which is to harden the voice by counting the goodness of the mayor. Narrated from Umm Athiyyah RA, he said, "Rasulullah Shallallahu Alaihi Wassallam took a promise from us not to lament." (Muttafaq `Alaih).
The two hadiths showed that they would be haramnya niyahah and listen to him. For it will not be done except in the illegal. In the book of Shaih Bukhari and Shaih Muslim of Ibn Mas'ud RA, he said, The Prophet said, "It is not from our group that slaps the cheek, rips the pocket, and cries out with the cry of the Jahiliyah."
Also narrated from the hadith of Abu Musa al-Ash'ari RA that the Prophet said, "I departed from the man who shaved his hair (al-Halqu), raised his voice (as-Salqu), and raised his voice, and tore his shirt (al-Kharqu)."
Al-Halqu is shaving his head when hit by a calamity. As-Salqu is to make a loud voice while crying when hit by a disaster. Meanwhile, Al-Kharqu was tearing clothes when hit by a disaster also tore pockets.
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Karin is getting thinner and thinner every day. Under his eyes there were dark circles. It had been a few months, but the memories of Andrian had still not been forgotten. Although there are no tears that accompany it again, but it looks once even though his face still holds a deep sadness.
Tin ... tin, the car horn was sounded, when Karin and Naya's foster mother were relaxing playing together on the front page of the house.
Bhugh, I've slammed the car to close.
"Of Chris!" naya shouted, already running towards me.
"Hey, baby!" welcome me to hug and hold her.
"Mother is?" my many.
"She, Om."
"Yes already. Then Naya played with grandma first. Um, I'll see you first!" have me drop him off near Karin's foster mother.
"Yes, Om."
"This is a little snack for Naya. I hope he likes it."
"Yes, Chris Son. Thank you." Thank you."
"Yes, you're welcome, ma'am."
"Then excuse me for entering the house to meet Karin," said asking for permission.
"Oh, yes, Chris. Please." He kindly allowed.
Steps start to move closer to home. Looks Karin is now sitting relaxed while busy folding clothes.
"Hey, Karin!" my broom.
"Oh you, Chris. Come on, let's sit down!" tell him to come closer to her.
The clothes that had been folded, slightly shifted Karin so that I could sit down immediately.
"How are you?" I asked for pleasantries even though he knew he was still in a slump.
"I'm still as good as ever, Chris."
"Thank God then."
"If you need a job, you can go back to the bakery later" she told me.
"Well, is that really what you said? Thank you so much for allowing me to go back to work there again" excitedly greeted.
"Yes, Karin."
"You are my best friend!" praise him while throwing a big smile.
"That problem .. that-?" My stifled voice could not continue the words.
"That's what?" tanyanya.
"I'm sorry if it's presumptuous."
"Tell me what you want to talk about."
"Huuuff, all right."
"Can't we just be friends now? I know it's hard for you, but are you going to be constantly imprisoned by that sadness?" a heart that feels sad too.
Karin's face was staring at me. Her net expression showed her being deeply shocked and disapproving of the words just now.
"Very ... knows that you won't be able to forget Adrian, but don't you think about life ahead? For a moment think about Naya too, because she is getting older and needs a father figure that she will need someday," obviously at length.
Karin had risen from her seat earlier, accompanied by netra again staring at the void straight ahead right towards Naya was playing.
"Maybe what you said is true, but for the time being I haven't been able to fill it up by being replaced by someone else. The regret continues to haunt me, so just to heal the heart will be very difficult" he explained.
"I know that. Try to open your heart again. Hopefully that way you can forget everything."
"Huffff. I can't think that far. What is clear is only the future, let me think about this moment."
"Yes already then. I understand that very well. I'm sorry if I force your will too much" I said feeling guilty.
"Yes, Chris. It is precisely I who should apologize, when you are so sincere in love with me and paying attention, but I cannot repay. Sorry!" he said he had turned to face me, but his head had been bowed there was a bad taste.
"No, Karin. I'm fine, just can't bear to see you in grief."
"Emm, sorry."
"Yes, not pa-pa."
"Thank you, Chris. You can understand me."
The conversation continues. We talked as usual, not wanting to connect with my heart anymore, afraid that Karin would be offended and not comfortable being friends with me later.
It might take longer for him to heal everything. The sense of loss forever is heavy to avoid, so that someday can move forward smoothly. Recording memories will definitely continue to imprint and it is difficult to remove.
Finally the love story
You can always keep an eye on your surroundings.
If you get hurt
Better to be with me.
Look ...
I don't want to see you cry.
It hurts to me
Seeing you always get hurt.
Be mine ...
I will love you and always worry about you.
I will be responsible until the end
Be mine, because you know me, right?.
Did you hear me?
It will protect until the end.
Everyone was soaking with tears
Wish you'd hold it in my arms.
Let it wipe the tears gently
The wound I'll hide.
My love is overflowing because you're by my side
Like that scar, my love is getting bigger.
Come to me ...
Because I like to see your smile.
Decapitate myself ...
Because I want you to feel comfortable by my side.
Let's go ...
Don't keep walking on this difficult road.
This isn't easy for you
But I don't want you to get hurt on that road.
When you fight and get hurt again
Can only look at you and encourage.
This fight is too much for you
But I will always be on my side to help fight back.
Like the earth, I keep spinning around you
Let it be love and just want you to look at me.
It will close your wounds and make you laugh
And it definitely makes you mine.